This site has been created to expand and share on some of the insights that led to the writing of It's Monday Only in Your Mind: You Are Not Your Thoughts.

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A Tribute

Here is a tribute someone messaged to me about my book. I was so honored by this that I wanted to share it.

I have 2 online businesses, on both I posted your book, It’s Monday Only in Your Mind as reading material for 2015. Your written experience has influenced me more than any book I have read, what my M.A. in psych has taught me, 16 years of on/off therapy, Byron Katie workshops, personal interaction with Phil Lombardo, Shakit Gawin , Bob Stahl, Louise Hays and various Hay House authors that I personally know who have directed me towards my true being of love. I haven’t seen my therapist in 6 weeks. I am looking forward to a new relationship with him and with myself. Thank you so much for discovering the truth and sharing it with the world. Without meeting you, I believe you are my friend.

Sheepishly Controlled

Thoughts arise, but they don’t have to sheepishly control you. If there isn’t awareness of this your thoughts will sheepishly be attached to which will make you blindly follow them…

If there isn’t awareness of your own thoughts, there won’t be anyway of knowing how much you sheepishly follow them. Without this awareness you’ll sheepishly be a follower (fearful) instead of a leader (truthful). Life doesn’t do anything directly to anyone, but thoughts arise and they determine what your life will be like. Awareness of your arisen thoughts is essential if you’re to not be sheepishly controlled by them. Thoughts are a natural part of life, they will arise there’s no way of controlling the thoughts that arise, but I have found that awareness of them allows for a split second of space that can be used to determine whether or not you become a sheep or a leader; it’s the attachment to a thought that causes being a follower, not the thought itself.

The Conditioned Mind is devious and unless there’s some awareness of how controlling it is, it will control you as if you were a sheep in a herd. So subtle is this that even if you are doing things that are labeled as loving, if these thoughts aren’t watched they will eventually control you; being controlled is being a follower regardless of what label is applied to the thought. This is why the Conditioned Mind is devious because of its subtleness in using whatever it can to keep you sheepishly controlled. Thoughts will arise, but they don’t have to control you. If there isn’t awareness of this, your thoughts will sheepishly be attached to which will make you blindly follow them…

Present Reality

Many get stuck seeking because the lie of “I” is never understood and life becomes about whatever story is made up as the reality of the Present is missed…

The definition of emptiness is a lack of inherent existence. When it comes to the mind this is its true nature and the reason I say this is because there is nothing in the mind that is inherently there. In this emptiness arises the conditioned nature of “I” but there is no substance to “I”. It exist strictly from the story that’s made up; there’s no inherent existence. There’s the body that exist and all it’s labeled components, but if each component was unlabeled, the body would still exist, just not as an “I” form. Look deep within to see if you can truly find where “I” is. Form is emptiness and emptiness is form. It doesn’t mean if the form is reduced it disappears, it means in its reduction is the form itself; these are opposites sides of the same coin. Everything that makes up our “I” ideas, concepts, memories, feelings, emotions, judgement, likes, dislikes, opinions, experiences, and so on is attached to as the body, hair, limbs, ideas, and so on, but if you look for “I” behind all this it’s doesn’t inherently exist. This is what stillness is truly all about, stripping away the layers of all the false identification. We identify with all the wrong things and ignore the reality of the Present.

The only reason to look within is to expose this lie of “l” there’s no other reason. A reason can be made up, but this is why many remain stuck seeking because the lie of “I” is never understood. Life becomes about whatever story is made up, but the reality of what’s here in the Present is missed. This is what “I” is, a story nothing more. It’s seen as real, but the realness of it can never be grasped. It just creates story after story with itself always at the core. Truly investigate this to see if you can find “I” remember though not the story of “I”, but the reality of the Present…

Surface Bondage

The senses are directly linked to the bondage of self as is the surface view. If you really want to understand your life from the spiritual realm, you’ll have to get very quiet and become aware of how subtle the bondage of self is…

Through the senses life is labeled, and those labels are constantly being applied. Everything is judged, even labeling a pencil on the desk is a judgment. Not a harmful one, but a judgment just the same. When you learn not to label you can become aware of the distractions that keep you from going beyond surface living. With this new awareness your mind finally settles enough to notice the deeper view. This is the initial awareness, but it will require much more practice to go deeper yet. The deeper you go, the more you will have to let go of the material world, which is the sensory world. And the more the material world is let go of, the more you will understand the deeper view and the freer you will be.

The only reason life is viewed on the surface (materially) by so many people is because the quietness that’s necessary to view it differently isn’t practiced. This isn’t something that is wrong, but it is limiting. Without the discipline to understand the difference between surface living and the deeper view, there will be no difference and the surface view will be the only view that you will have. Not wrong, but limiting, and what is limited is your view…

The Movie of Life

Life is a movie and you’re either playing a role or you’re watching it. The difference in watching it unfold is so much more beneficial than playing an unconscious scripted conditioned role…

Life is a movie and you’re either in the movie or you’re watching it. When you’re in the movie you’re controlled by it. The movie dictates what your role is. The script is your Conditioned Mind, things happen and you react with your conditioned script. The movie needs for each person to play their part or there wouldn’t be one.

When you watch the movie you see what happens instead of being controlled by it. The movie is always playing, your role is determined by how conditioned you are to either watch it or be in it. There is such a difference in the two; watching it is so much more beneficial. Unfortunately most people are in the movie, to watch it you have to be very still. The more this ability is developed to watch the movie instead of being dragged into it and becoming the main star (that’s what the ego wants you to do) the more adept you’ll be with life being lived align with love.

Years ago before life became so complex, there were silent movies; now there are no such movies. This is where the problem lies, the movie isn’t the problem, it’s the noise it produces. You can be part of the movie, but you don’t have to be part of the noise, that’s your choice. As a matter of fact our human manifestation makes us all part of the movie, but that’s not why we’re controlled by it, that occurred because of the way our Conditioned Mind has evolved. Learn to partake in a silent movie and you’ll be more of a active participant in controlling the part you play; which happens to be your life. When you can watch the movie of your life and not be drawn into a role that’s selected for you, it’s than your movie will become so much more enjoyable that you will always want to just watch it. It will be better than you ever imagined it could be. With practice you may even become aware that its the best movie ever made, but understand this, your movie is already the best movie ever made because it’s about your life. Without a settled mind you won’t know this and you’ll continue to be controlled by the noise of a scripted Conditioned Mind that allows circumstances to dictate the role you play. This is the difference between being dragged around by the assigned role or being able to just watch it and enjoy what you see. So sit back relax and enjoy the show, or not, but that’s up to you…

No Need to Know

When you live in the quietness of the moment, you’ll realize that even if the so called mystery of life was solved it really doesn’t change much of what happens…

The mystery of life will always be. We look for answers that in truth can’t be answered. We can make up answers that fit nicely in our conditioned world, but this doesn’t make life any less of a mystery. We feel better when we answers are made, but this is only a product of our Conditioned Mind; I don’t know if the mystery is ever solved. Truthfully I don’t think it matters because it doesn’t make a difference if we know how we evolved or if we know what happens when we die; it doesn’t prevent anything from happening. It’s more of a benefit to learn how to solve the mystery of living in the moment and only with a quiet mind can this be done.

In the presence of a quiet mind it’s not that the mystery is solved, it’s more so the need to solve the mystery falls away. In quietness there’s no mystery because there’s quietness. There are so many things in life that may never be understood, but that’s not to say you can’t know truth. Knowing truth sets you free, it doesn’t solve the mystery. Truth doesn’t allow you to understand the mystery of life, but what it will allow is for you stop trying to constantly solve it. And once this occurs, you realize that whether the mystery is solved or not it doesn’t really change much…

Naturally Arising Truth

Truth isn’t a made up story nor is something that can be manufactured. There‘s only awareness of it when the lies are exposed, so expose your lies and truth will naturally arise…

To me it’s clear what truth is and here’s why, thirteen years ago I started to look into a different way to live my life and at the core of this looking was the revealing of lies. I didn’t know much about anything, but I did know I needed a different way to view life. I understood one thing, that my own mind was the cause as to why there were lies, so I set out to find out why this was and if it was possible to change this. As this process of self inquiry proceeded, my lies were slowly being revealed and as this happened my life become less and less about the lies. It didn’t become about anything else, it just wasn’t all about the lie of needing to fulfill my wants and desires; when this happens awakened qualities (truth) naturally arise. This doesn’t mean everything goes your way, it doesn’t matter how it goes because there aren’t the lies of a story of wanting and needing things a certain way; without a story truth is revealed.

Truth is difficult to describe in words because it’s interpreted differently by everyone, but I have found truth is the space of what is. What is has many labels dependent on what’s occurring at the time. It can be horrible, beautiful, or neutral, the label doesn’t change what’s actually occurring, being in the space of what’s occurring changes it and that’s because without a label there’s aren’t lies, there’s only space. In this space there’s no lie and without a lie is when truth is revealed. It’s not a made up truth, it’s the truth of just being in the space of what’s here right now and not needing to add a lie to it. In this space is where you’ll become aware of truth, but it has nothing to do with you directly; it’s a truth that naturally arises when the lies are revealed…

Noisy Mind

A noisy mind is a mind that has preconceived ideas which are based on a sense of self, and because it’s conditioned to always be noisy, there’s no space created to see truth as opposed to noise…

As long as the mind is noisy it can’t be at peace; at the core of this is one’s sense of self. The sense of self may be the hardest concept to let go of because it’s intertwined with just about every thought you have. It’s been in place since existence began, but it’s not the sense of sense that’s controlling, it’s the attachment to it. I have a sense of self, how can I not I exist, but the attachment to it has lessened significantly in the last thirteen years. This has opened the door to what’s in place today, this is not to say I don’t sometimes attach to the sense of self, but never like the first forty nine years of my life.

The last couple of days I’ve had discussions with people about the content of a couple of the articles I posted and I can see why what was written wasn’t grasped, it’s because the discussions were directly linked to the attachment to their sense of self. I don’t take a stand that my way is right; this is because it isn’t my way. But when what I write is disagreed with, where does the disagreement come from? I’m not judging anyone here, what I’m stating is factual, the more there’s attachment to a sense of self the less on sees.

What people don’t realize is how the mind works. I’ve sat and investigated why I reacted like I did and why I did the things I did. Very few truly investigate their mind and this leads to the conditioning in place being in control. This doesn’t make me better than anyone knowing this, but by having an understanding of the lies that I lived by for so many years, this does allow me to not attach to them. I would also have to say therein lies the difference between one being attached to the sense of self or one being free of it. This also creates the difference between not being limited by a self who has a noisy mind or one being limited by attachment to the noise…

Universal Trust

There’s the limited view where you rely on the world with all its conceptual nonsense or there’s the bigger picture beyond the nonsense where there’s reliance and trust in the Universe…

When the mind is settled your reliance is on the Universe instead of reliance on the worlds conceptual nonsense. There’s a deep trust that arises when the mind is settled. It’s in settling that all life arises from so when your mind settles in stillness, the everlasting trust of the Universe is there to replace the mind agitations which are the cause of all nonsense.

When the mind is settled it allows for one to live from Universal energy instead the conceptual nonsense. This is a connection with the goodness of life, your own internal goodness, and a connection to all beings. This connection is already there, it’s just not seen because it’s not known what will make it so. The only reason this isn’t known is because of the mind agitations that blocks you for trusting the Universe.

When this isn’t trust it opens the door for all kinds of nonsense. When it’s learned to discipline the undisciplined mind the agitations slowly subside. What you’re naturally left with is a deep trust provided by the Universe. This trust is what’s there beyond the noise of a Conditioned Mind, beyond the worlds conceptual nonsense. When the mind settles and you’re in the space of stillness, there’s trust because in the stillness of the Universe shows you who you truly are. Trust in the Universe with all your heart and allow the mind to settle so you’re not relying on the worlds nonsense to live life. Within this trust life can be lived as intended, as the trusting beautiful being that you truly are…

Inner Ignorance

As long as there’s inner ignorance in place this will be the operating energy controlling your life. This operating energy arises as unconsciousness and it doesn’t allow you to see what’s truly going on…

Unless you’re awake how things appear isn’t how they actually are. If you truly want to see what’s going on getting beyond your inner ignorance will have to happen. If two people are looking at same thing there are usually two different opinions of what is seen. There’s two sides to every story. There’s the view of inner ignorance and there’s the view of consciousness; this is the truth. To stop seeing from inner ignorance stop labeling what is seen. Stopping the labeling process allows the mind to slow to a point when consciousness is seen. It’s imperative for this to happen if the inner ignorance that’s been formed over the years is to lessen its grip.

Ignorance is so misunderstood and how this is known is because of the behavior that’s exhibited. I look to my own reactions to know this and in the process I can see it in others. This isn’t a judgement, it’s factual. Know your own mind and you will know the mind of others. This is because we are all of the same energy. Creation is creation anyway it’s looked at. When ignorance is seen for what it is, its energy begins to transform in a direction that allows consciousness. As long as there’s ignorance of this, the energy of ignorance will remain as the operating energy of your life. This operating energy arises from inner ignorance and takes on many forms, but the bottom line is your inner ignorance doesn’t allow you to see what’s truly going on…

Form Attachment

When there’s a need to reach for something because of an inner lack you become attached to form. Until this is seen, you remain attached as you seek to fill your inner lack with the next thing reached for…

You will never fill your inner lack by attaching to form because form is the creator of the inner lack. Completeness is something that’s already within everyone, but because of the way our minds are conditioned you get attached to form which makes you think completeness is something outside of you. Unfortunately this attachment to form makes the very lack you are trying to fill impossible to fill. This attachment to form is the reason one is constantly reaching for something from the outside and until this is seen you will remain attached to a form that thinks completeness is in the next thing reached for. Alcohol, gambling, drugs, sex, religion, social status, programs, therapy, self help books, politics, and on and on, this reaching is proof that there is attachment to form. I can’t stress this enough as this attachment to your form has to be seen if you are to experience completeness in your life.

It’s impossible to think your way to understanding this. What has to happen if there’s to be an understanding of this is why you’re attached to a form is because of the inability to just be. When the need to reach for something arises, the attachment to form begins. This attachment to form is a vicious cycle that’s very difficult to break. Breaking free of form and experiencing completeness isn’t something attained or achieved so it’s in doing less that completeness is experienced. To many people get lost (attached) in trying to find completeness through the attachment to form, but since it’s within you attachment is a circle because it becomes about finding what’s already there. This is not easy to see, but it’s why I share so the attachment to form can be seen for what it is; the cause of why you think you aren’t complete…

Silence Unity

There’s a unity that comes from a deep place, it’s not a place that’s associated with any thought, it’s a place which simply unites us all in the silence that arises from the heart…

In my experience the silence of my heart cannot expand on its own, it needs others. Deepening a connection with others deepens the silence of the heart which is what unites us. If unity were to happen there would be no more greed, hate, or war because the silence would be deafening; it’s in this silence that the magnificence of life is experienced. A majestic sunset, a cool summer breeze, the magnificence of the ocean, a starlit night, loving oneself and others, unity with to all humanity, these are experiences that arise from a silence deep within.

I don’t really know what life is about, but I do understand how silence deepens our connection to each other. When this is experienced it leaves you speechless. For me because of all of you I have been speechless many times. I’m using the word silence to describe this, but to feel this unity words cannot truly explain it. To watch in awe as I’m speaking to someone and as I explain what I went through, I see a sparkle of silence in their eyes, to me this is our hearts connecting. There’s unity that comes from such a deep place; it’s not something that a thought can make happen. Only when there’s a deep connection to others through silence can there unity from the heart. This is when there will be unity with ourselves and with all beings…

Focused Energy

The quality of life is determined by the energy focused on, and as this energy builds on itself this focus determines what the base of this life will be…

This is very important to see, the energy focused on will either come from the heart or the head; this is seen or it isn’t. When this is seen, living from the heart naturally becomes the way you live. Energy builds on itself regardless of what it is, to me this is a basic understanding of the “Law of Attraction” that’s been revealed to me. When focused energy is based in stillness what becomes life’s attraction is all derived from stillness. This isn’t a doing of mine, it’s a transformation occurring from stillness itself.

What’s unfortunate about this is the opposite is also true, at least this has been my experience. For years my focused energy was based to self serve and although I mostly got what I wanted, there wasn’t much satisfaction. This self serving energy built on itself and it doesn’t take a genius to see why my life was the way it was; the focused energy to self serve manifested in the only way it could. What energy is in place will be what’s manifested, there’s no way around this; life can only be what the focus of your energy is.

Sit with this and investigate what is the focus of your energy and see how it builds on itself. Life doesn’t make it what it is, the focus of energy makes it what it is. To a large degree we are all the creators of our own reality and that reality will be determined by where our energy is focused. It’s not up to the outside circumstances that determines life, when energy is focused on outside circumstances this determines how they are dealt with, how they are built on, and the way future circumstances will be dealt with. You can only build upon the energy in place and that’s determined by what your focused energy is based in. The life you build is up to you, you alone are the creator of your reality because your focused energy builds on itself…

Belief Fallacy

Beliefs are made up stories to make life better. If this was all there was to it we could just go around making up belief after belief whenever life wasn’t the way we wanted it…

There are very few hard line facts maybe even none in a belief. So what makes a person think a belief is needed to make life better; it doesn’t really make it better. The only reason they’re made up to begin with is because of the way our minds have been conditioned. They’re used to keep the mind in a state of agitation by making you believe things need to be different for life to be better. It’s what the ego uses to keep you in bondage to a self that doesn’t exist. This is why most wars are started, because of an ego that forms beliefs. Whatever the belief is in, whether it’s in a God that’s going to make things better, or a superior race or the annihilation of one that will make things better, or if it’s a belief that if I didn’t write my post on this site things would be better. It all stems from your own conditioning of believing if things were different life would be better.

To believe or not to believe, that is the question. It really has nothing to do with the belief, but it does have everything to do with arranging life and thinking if things were different it would be better. This is what needs to be uncovered if the fallacy of a belief is to be revealed. If attaching to a belief is found to make life better, by all means believe, but for me I would have to say life is better without forming beliefs, especially that they exist only in the mind. If they’re seen to be real and have some facts to back them up, believe them, attach to them, use them, but don’t be surprised when they’re needed to fall back on to make life better, they don’t do what was believed they were going to do…

Unknowingly Attached

When you’re under the control of the Conditioned Mind you behave in ways not because it’s the way you want to be, you behave in ways because it’s the way you have to be…

It was a lack of understanding of what I was truly up against that caused me to remain attached to it, and what I was attached to was my own mind that was conditioned to self serve. The problem with this type of conditioning is it causes your own destruction because the destructiveness is disguised as pleasure. This pleasure is pursued by many to their death. It was pursued by me in this way and I was at it’s mercy. It said to me to use drugs, alcohol, gambling, womanizing, lying, cheating, stealing and so on. This is how the Conditioned Mind is developed except for some who are fortunate enough to see this at a young age.

The way I was conditioned wasn’t the fault of anyone in particular, it was instilled indirectly by the inner and outer influences of my life which molded me to behave in the ways my conditioning dictated. Not because this is how I wanted to be, but by not understanding this it was the way I had to be. You cannot behave in any other way except in the way you have been conditioned. Change the conditioning and change your entire existence or not and remain the same. The value of knowing my own mind is in the understanding there was no where else to turn; not to God, support groups, therapy, self help books, positive thinking, and so on. What I learned is when the Conditioned Mind is understood, the world is no longer in control, it’s control slowly dissipates as one develops discipline; the mind actually slows down. Once this slowing occurs the possibilities are endless because there are no longer the distractions that keeps you attached to the conditioning. With this solid understanding of what you’re truly up against, you’ll be able to develop the necessary discipline so the conditioning eventually falls away…

I AM Direction

Existence is naturally spiritual so choosing I AM allows for you to come home, and although the mind will often wander, having I AM as a direction will keep you from getting lost…

All of life is a spiritual path and this is so even though a person may not be aware of it. When you do become aware of this it doesn’t mean life becomes all that much different. What does become different is your view of life and this makes all the difference in the world. If your stuck in the trance of unconsciousness it’s very difficult to see from the perspective of I AM and without developing this you’ll remain in the trance of unconsciousness. This is the trance of the world (form) and it’s also the trance of suffering. It manifest in many ways this trance, but its base is in the form of worldly desires. I want this or that, buy this, use that, attain this, go here, go there, win this, learn that, and on and on. It’s the way of the world which is form and it’s the way of suffering because you’re held captive to what the world makes you think you need.

The only way to break this is to constantly choose I AM when you notice you’re in the trance of form. Since our existence is naturally spiritual choosing I AM allows you to come home. Although the mind will wander more often than not, with a practice in place to choose I AM when it does wander it gives you a solid direction instead of being lost; grasping for something the world of form makes you believe you need to feel at home. Since home is where the heart is in choosing I AM that’s where you will live more often than not, but understand that’s only if I AM is chosen…

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