This site has been created to expand and share on some of the insights that led to the writing of It's Monday Only in Your Mind: You Are Not Your Thoughts.

Michael Cupo proposes that society does not clearly address the real cause of addiction. He has an understanding that all addictions can be overcome when that real cause is addressed and understood. – See more at: http://ow.ly/I57B1

A Tribute

Here is a tribute someone messaged to me about my book. I was so honored by this that I wanted to share it.

I have 2 online businesses, on both I posted your book, It’s Monday Only in Your Mind as reading material for 2015. Your written experience has influenced me more than any book I have read, what my M.A. in psych has taught me, 16 years of on/off therapy, Byron Katie workshops, personal interaction with Phil Lombardo, Shakit Gawin , Bob Stahl, Louise Hays and various Hay House authors that I personally know who have directed me towards my true being of love. I haven’t seen my therapist in 6 weeks. I am looking forward to a new relationship with him and with myself. Thank you so much for discovering the truth and sharing it with the world. Without meeting you, I believe you are my friend.

The epitome of a noisy mind is it constantly tries to keep you from noticing there’s another way to see things, and as long as the noise is in place, a quiet mind and another way will never be experienced.

If you’ve never purposely experienced the mind quieting down to the level where it’s noticed, the noise will be what you think is normal. It’s so difficult to go beyond the noise only because the noise isn’t seen as a problem. This is what keeps one entrapped to the conditioning in place which in turn doesn’t allow for any kind of awakening process to take hold. The most prevalent things I used growing up based in a noisy mind were alcohol, drugs, and gambling. At twenty eight years old using these things stopped, but the noise continued in the form of other things that were considered more positive by society. To me, although these things were less destructive in nature, they held me in the same captivity as the drugs, alcohol, and gambling, and it was all because I didn’t realize it was the noisy mind that was the dilemma. What most people don’t realize because a quiet mind is never purposely experienced is the noise isn’t normal, it just seems to be because it’s always been in place.

I’ve been fortunate to experience being ruled by a noisy mind and having a quiet one and to purposely choose the noisy one would be insane because the only thing that comes out of it is suffering. The suffering is not all glaring and destructive, and this is why it’s not readily accepted by most people as being a problem. It’s not until one experiences and notices the mind quieting that the noise can be seen for what it truly is. This is the dilemma of a Conditioned Mind, it keeps the noise in place and makes it out to be normal so one never considers the need to look into this. The epitome of unconsciousness is to not even consider there might be another way to see things. I have a FB friend who says she knows she’s onto something when she reads my articles and her head hurts. It hurts because the noisy mind is trying to keep her from noticing there’s another way to see things, and as long as the noise is in place and held onto, a quiet mind and another way will never be what’s considered normal.

Mind Settling Practice 

What’s reinforced is what will remain in place. It’s pretty simple in that regard, but doing things that allows the mind to settle is probably the most difficult process one will undertake in this lifetime.

If you want the mind to settle, what allows this to occur has to be practiced. There are many daily opportunities to practice this, but why the mind is not settled has to be identified. This isn’t as easy as it sounds because of all the conditioning in place. The glaring mind activities that cause the unsettling are seen by some, but the subtle ones mostly go unnoticed. Even the glaring ones that are seen, they too are discounted and justified by most people, it’s why there are so many different religions, political views, spiritual views, and so on, it’s the reason unity on our planet is so scarce. The other day I wrote an article about the seduction of pleasure and how “I” is at the core of this and someone responded that basically to experience pleasure was the reason for existence.

This is a response of an unsettled mind and why this is an issue is because there’s no room for unity in this response because it’s the response of “I”. “I” is always selfish, that’s it’s nature. It’s like the nature of an acorn is be an oak tree, the true nature of something can’t be changed. Our true nature isn’t of “I” and if our true nature isn’t cultivated, it will remain in the background to the more prevalent conditioning of “I”. An acorn will remain in that state until something is done to change it, the true nature of being an oak tree will always be there, but it will remain dormant until conditions change to support its transformation. Reinforce “I” and that’s what will remain in place, cultivate quietness and that’s what will be in place. It’s pretty simple in that regard, but doing things that allows the mind to settle is probably the most difficult process one will undertake in this lifetime.

Projecting Out There

Our view of life is determined by our conditioning. An out there view is what most develop, but it’s a delusion that doesn’t allow what’s here to be seen and if one is living out there it’s impossible to be with what’s here.

Mostly life is seen as a struggle because of the projection that there is something going on out there. That’s how the mind tends to view things. I’ve been on vacation for two weeks and I have to work today, the mind wants to view work as being out there, but it’s not truly out there, that’s only a projection. When anger arises it’s not seen as the process that’s arisen, it’s seen as being out there and as long as it’s out there, it has control over one’s emotions, feelings, reactions, and of course how much suffering there is. It’s not that things don’t happen out there, but viewing it as out there is where it is given control. The kingdom of heaven is within, but most look at it as if it’s a place out there, another projection. As one looks out there, life happens right here and that’s the only view that allows life to be truly lived. Looking right here doesn’t prevent anything from happening, but it does allow for it to pass instead of giving it energy to grow.

All these projections do is keep us from being a part of our true self and it also keeps us locked into the out there energy. This out there energy makes you think you need to do something that will remedy what happens. This is a fallacy that entraps the unconscious mind into beliefs, concepts, ideas, and whatever else is used to that keeps you from what’s here right now. Being with what’s here allows one to be with life in a more direct way. There’s nothing magical here except that it allows one to live now instead of in the projection that life is out there. If out there works for you by all means remain attached to the out there view, but for me out there is a delusion that doesn’t allow what’s here to be seen and if one is living out there it’s impossible to be what’s here.

Seduction of Pleasure

The most important thing to understand about the seduction of pleasure is the less one is attached to “I” the less one will be seduced and it’s because without “I” there’s no one who needs the next pleasure.

The seduction of pleasure is so enticing because it actually feels good and this is why the draw is so powerful. There’s only issue with this because of the impermanent nature of pleasure. It simply will not last, it has no staying power so something else will be needed almost immediately following the attainment of each pleasure. Think about it, with all the pleasures that have been attained throughout your life regardless of what it was, it does not bring the pleasure now that it brought at that time, and most times even if the same exact pleasure is physically repeated, it’s usually not as pleasurable as the first experience. I used so many things as I was seduced by my pleasure seeking conditioning, but it was never lasting, the seduction of the next needed pleasure always arose. This went on all the time, attaining one pleasure after another and never being satisfied.

I’ve come to understand this seduction of pleasure as the main reason people start using and become addicted to alcohol, drugs, gambling, sex, money, tobacco products and an array of other things. If pleasure wasn’t sought, nothing would be reached for so there would never be an addiction nor an issue, but unfortunately the seduction of pleasure has its way with people. It’s deeply engrained in the subconscious and has been in place since our existence began. I know this seduction of pleasure is what was controlling me for forty nine years and it was directly associated with “I”. Without “I” no one is there to be seduced. Even with this understanding the seduction of pleasure doesn’t just disappear, but it does subside somewhat. To me the most important thing to understand about this is, the less one is attached to “I” the less one will be seduced and it’s because without “I” there’s no one who needs the next pleasure.

One who constantly needs to grasp for things to provide amusement is blocked out from what life truly has to offer, which is to be with what’s here right now instead of constantly needing to amuse ourselves to death.

What I mean by the title of this article is we become so fixated at amusing ourselves with outside activity that our death arises in the form of not truly living life. Probably 99% of our time is spent providing ourselves with some form of amusement; to me anything that is reached for gets the label amusement attached to it. From the morning cup of coffee, or giving up caffeine and not having coffee, both are used to provide the amusement that life being a certain way makes it better. If this was true everyone would be the same because it would be known what the best way is, but this isn’t true so we all amuse ourselves that our way is the best. If we didn’t amuse ourselves with this thought, we wouldn’t do what we do. We are our own worse enemy. There’s nothing outside of us that does the harm to us that we do to ourselves, the real issue with this is it’s done to where we amuse ourselves to the point where life isn’t truly lived. We are always seeking to be amused in one way or another.

In our leisure time we are constantly amusing ourselves with things that are considered pleasurable. Food is a main source that we use for our amusement, vacation is another. Watching or going to sporting events, watching tv or going to the movies are also used. Then there’s alcohol, drugs, gambling, porn, sex, using tobacco products, golfing obsessively, the spiritual path, and so on. These are just some of the mindless activities that are reached for to amuse ourselves to death. Look at the past and reflect upon all the things used that provided amusement, where are they? They only exist in the mind. One who constantly needs to grasp for things to provide amusement is blocked out from what life truly has to offer, which is to be with what’s here right now instead of constantly needing to amuse ourselves to death.

When a thought arises and it becomes a repetitive activity (habit), it’s not because one is diseased in some way, it’s because one is attached to a false self that thinks it needs the thing being used.

All habits begin mentally as a thought and at their core is a self that takes it to the physical level. Basically nothing is done that isn’t entangled with one’s construct of self in some way and this is especially true when it comes to forming a habit. Without this construct of self, no habit would or could be formed, but very very few people have the insight to see this. Most think the habit is the physical activity of whatever is used, but nothing is further from the truth. The habit is to a false self that has lack at its core. This false self creates lack and this causes the habit to be formed. If the way self is perceived wasn’t attached to, no habit would be formed. There’s no such thing as an addicted personality, there’s only a lack of understanding of how the self is held onto as a concept to form repetitive attached behavior trying to satisfy one’s self.

Without the attachment to self, no habit would or could be formed. Sit with this and see when a thought arises what makes it become a repetitive activity. There has to be a cause that makes one do something over and over without much thought. It’s not the reason society dictates it is, and it’s definitely not because one is diseased in some way. I abused drugs, alcohol, gambling, sex, and many other things and except for having a physical allergy to alcohol, the abuses were because of not understanding that all I was doing was trying to fill an inner lack that was created by attaching to a perceived sense of self that wasn’t true. I was living the lie of “I” which needs things constantly to fill its lack. One only thinks they need the things they use over and over, but if there wasn’t the perception of self, no habit would be formed because there would be nobody there to attach to the thought that something is needed that makes one the false self they think they are.

Habitually Controlled 

Without recognition of the habits that are formed, one is blindly controlled by them. They say jump and the only thing you can do is jump, and if you are really attached, you will ask how high.

If you want to understand your mind you will need to sit down and observe it. Whatever you think and ponder upon, that is what becomes the inclination of the mind and hence this is what becomes your habitual actions. If there is no sitting, there’s very little chance for the mind to settle so it can be observed. As a habit is formed it becomes second nature, there’s very little observation in this mind activated action. These habitual actions are different for everyone, but they are common at their root. They all arise in some way from the habit to seek pleasure. It matters little what one uses to fulfill this pleasure seeking habit and because there’s very little awareness of this, it’s in control of you. There needs to be an understanding that our actions become habitual and are conditioned by how we think. This is what determines whether our actions are wholesome (loving) or unwholesome (selfish). Simply put, loving actions should be cultivated so they become habitual.

If there isn’t any sitting to allow the mind to settle, an understanding of it will be difficult and so observing the habitual conditioned patterns will not be recognized. Without recognition of these habits, one is blindly controlled by them. They say jump and the only thing you can do is jump, and depending how attached you are, you may even ask how high. This is why we do things that aren’t in our best interest without hesitation. Without the ability to observe the thoughts that arise, one is like a puppet on a string. Sitting allows the mind to settle so there can be an observation of this and one by one the strings can be cut. If nothing is in place to allow this settling, the Conditioned Mind puppeteer will continue to control and you will blindly and without hesitation do things that aren’t in your best interest or what’s best for others.