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A Tribute

Here is a tribute someone messaged to me about my book. I was so honored by this that I wanted to share it.

I have 2 online businesses, on both I posted your book, It’s Monday Only in Your Mind as reading material for 2015. Your written experience has influenced me more than any book I have read, what my M.A. in psych has taught me, 16 years of on/off therapy, Byron Katie workshops, personal interaction with Phil Lombardo, Shakit Gawin , Bob Stahl, Louise Hays and various Hay House authors that I personally know who have directed me towards my true being of love. I haven’t seen my therapist in 6 weeks. I am looking forward to a new relationship with him and with myself. Thank you so much for discovering the truth and sharing it with the world. Without meeting you, I believe you are my friend.

Conditioned Unrest

Nothing that happens in life creates inner unrest unless your own mind allows it. This is the insanity of a Conditioned Mind, its self destructive solutions are all from within and they take away your peace…

The bottom line for me is I’ve found a practical way to minimize the unrest in my life that caused my own destructiveness, which by the way was my own mind creating the unrest telling me it was needed to cope with life; a life that was controlled by a conditioned destructive mind set. My own mind created all the unrest that went on by choosing actions I thought I wanted to do, but my choices always caused unrest; I developed a mind that told me to do things that were destructive to my own well being. From relationships, to drugs, alcohol, gambling, and a slew of other things, nothing was ever chosen that was beneficial to my well being, it always seemed to cause more harm than good. How this mind set developed I’m not sure, but I do know this, it can be described as pure insanity.

Thirteen years ago although it wasn’t a white light experience, an inner urging occurred that was tired of all the unrest and destructive behavior. I wasn’t sure what was going to happen, but I did know I needed to find a way to bring peace into my life. I don’t label what happened, there isn’t a benefit in calling it something, a label needn’t be applied to what happened. All that was needed to know then and all that’s needed to know now is my behavior which was once totally self destructive is no longer this way. This is why labels and what others do isn’t a concern of mine, because I know for years my own mind allowed these things to create unrest within myself and because of the shift that occurred there’s an awareness unrest doesn’t have to be created anymore.

Regardless of what it’s called or what attached label is put on it, the bottom line is this, when I have an issue with something it’s my own self destructive mind that creates unrest take me from my peace. And now because there’s awareness of this, if I don’t allow my mind to do this, unrest isn’t created and I have found without it I’m at peace, so again the bottom line is not to create unrest. All I ever wanted in my life was peace, but I didn’t know it was my own mind that was the cause of all the unrest…

The Only Thing There

As you become more and more anchored in the present moment, your created stories are needed less and less. Without a story, there’s a peace the mind settles into because it’s the only thing there…

Every existence is nothing more than the single purpose of the present moment. Your whole life is a succession of moment after moment. If you fully understands the present moment, there will be nothing else to do and nothing else to pursue. Unfortunately this isn’t the way it is for most, so the past and future are constantly drawn on to satisfy the mind agitation of not being in the present moment. Many different stories are used as an alternative to this way and it’s not my place to label them as anything. I’ve found something that works for me and that’s what is shared; it’s not a concern of mine if one agrees with what I share or not. I understand we all see things as they’re revealed to us, but people feel the need to tell me how their way is better. There is no right way, there’s living in a way that only benefits you and there’s living in a way that benefits all beings.

All I know is this, at one time my Conditioned Mind controlled me as if I was a puppet on a string. Because of this, I mostly lived a self serving existence and my life wasn’t much of a benefit to anyone. Thirteen years ago this changed and the things that I did began to benefit others. I know I write a lot about the Conditioned Mind, but it’s what was revealed to me so it’s what I share; it’s the only thing I can share. As I become more and more anchored in the present moment, the created stories are needed less and less; yours and mine. Without the attachment to my or your story, there’s a peace the mind settles into because it’s the only thing there…

Three Mind Views

Wisdom arises when you’re fully mindful because the distractions of the unwholesome mind view falls away; it’s in being fully mindful that the mind settles and a clear view is allowed…

There are three optional mind views that arise in each moment, wholesome, unwholesome, and neutral. The first description is the view of the unwholesome mind, this would be anything that leads to suffering. Wholesome mind views are those that lead to peace and joy. The wholesome mind doesn’t need a belief to be true, it just needs to be investigated to see the truth of the wholesome mind. The third mind view is probably the most difficult one because it’s strictly based in perception. It’s often confused with mindfulness. It’s neither wholesome nor unwholesome, its neutral. It arises for everyone in the present moment and its function is to recognize a particular object. This mind view interprets what arise by distinguishing the qualities of it, this is different for everyone. Think of a traffic light, whether it’s red, yellow or green, it doesn’t take a label to know what each color represents; there’s nothing inherently attached to any color, it just is. To some yellow means speed up, to others it means slow down; this is determined by perception.

These three mind views intertwine through mindfulness in some way. Ordinary attention, semi mindfulness (neutral) is like a cork in the ocean, it constantly wobbles. Focused mindfulness is like a rock, its has a non wobbling effect. Unwholesome mind views arise and are attached to and although one is mindful of this to a degree, it’s labeled and thus attached to unconsciously. It’s the focus of these mind views that determine their effectiveness. Being fully mindful allows awareness without needing a label. Being neutral allows you to recognize (perceive) but not necessarily be fully mindful. Wisdom arises when you’re fully mindful because the distractions of the unwholesome mind view falls away, it’s in being fully mindful that the mind settles which allows you see clearly. Wisdom isn’t something learned, it’s what arises when you’re disciplined enough to remain fully mindful in the present moment more often than not…

Unity With Yourself

In the space between your thoughts there is unity with yourself. The more space that‘s created, the more this unity infiltrates not only your life, but the life of others…

In each moment there’s a decision to be made and that is to either create a story about whatever is going on in the Conditioned Mind or to create space between your thoughts. These places of existence are vastly different on an individual and collective level. If the decision is to constantly create stories your mind will never settle and your true essence of love will not be allowed to infiltrate your life and the lives of others. This is the decision of most people because of the ignorance of your own conditioning; you can only do what you’re we taught. There’s nothing right or wrong in this, it’s just what’s in place. It will take much quietness to make a different decision, with the quietness affording an opportunity to wake up and become aware of your conditioning.

When you’re in unity with yourself you’re in unity with the Universe, with all of creation, with creation, and with all beings. Struggles are no more because after all they only struggle is with yourself. It’s the created story that causes your struggles so when space is created between your thoughts there is no story and without a story it’s impossible to struggle. In this space it becomes known that your struggles are just what’s created by a Conditioned Mind that has been in control for far to long. So when the decision is made to create the space between your thoughts, in it you discover unity with yourself, the unity of life and the unity of all creation…

Two Frequencies

Life consist of a lower and higher frequency and the one that’s most prevalent in your life is dependent on how much the master puppeteer ( I ) is in control. The less “I“ controls the less the lower frequency dominates…

There are two frequencies that you can live by; lower or higher. I know this now, but it wasn’t something I was always aware of. Thirteen years ago this changed because I become tired of being controlled by my lower frequency, which to me is to be controlled by the senses. This control keeps you in captivity to Conditioned Mind Patterns that lead you around as if they were a puppet on a string. The only way the higher frequency will be present is when these lower strings are cut. It’s unfortunate because this isn’t understood nor is the fact of who the puppeteer is; the puppeteer controls just about every human life form to some degree. The puppeteer is “I” and until this is realized, the strings will never be cut and “I” will continue its onslaught of control.

To me this is why it matters little what happens on the outside because mostly it controlled by “I”. It’s just the way it is, this isn’t isolated to only the US, look around and if the mind gets settled enough you will see this is the way of the world. It’s run by “I”, the people in their assigned roles are just puppets and until more people wake up the lower frequency will continue its dominance. The lower frequencies core behavior is greed, hate, and delusion, and at the higher frequency is love, kindness, and compassion, both of these can be added to accordingly. You can see the differences in the two frequencies and life manifests outwardly depending on which frequency is adopted. This is a very practical way of looking at this so it should be easy to see which frequency is dominating your life. If it isn’t your higher frequency only you can change it by cutting the strings of “I” and that’s only if it’s known “I” is in control…

A Brighter Light

Our inner light shines to the brightness of the degree of our surrender that allows loving energy to be our guide. The deeper the surrender the brighter the light for people to see…

For many years I wandered aimlessly through life controlled by a Conditioned Mind that led me around like I was a puppet on a string. My entire existence was based on a self-serving agenda and until this changed nothing was going to change. Society is out of control because of this self-serving agenda.

Until a person understands how conditioned and controlled they are by a self serving agenda and that it’s their own mind that makes this happen, nothing will change regardless of what’s done to try and wake up a person. I am not sure if anything can be done to instill this change in a person, but we must try. Although it has to come from within the individual, the seeds must be planted or there won’t even be the chance for someone to change.

I can love the person by understanding the conditioning is not them. This may not change them, but at least I will not be pulled into their conditioned world; I could write another book on this pull alone. Watch very closely how subtle the Conditioned Mind is. I know for me it’s not my responsibility to change anyone, but I have an obligation to share because of the insight that has been revealed to me; through my change others change. Not because of me, but because of the degree of surrender that allows loving energy to be my guide. All I can do is be willing to keep looking within to expand this surrender so the light people see shines brighter…

Operating Energy

When you’re not being controlled by outside things therein lies your freedom, but it isn’t freedom because life is the way that it’s wanted, there’s freedom because you’re with life as it is…

The operating energy that controls your life makes life what it is, but it doesn’t truly make life what it is, it makes YOUR life what it is. Until the operating energy in place puts you in harmony with life, there won’t be any and hence your life will be as it is because it’s the way you’re making it. It’s actually a beautiful thing when you become aware of this because it puts your life in your hands; there’s nothing more a person could want. When you’re not being controlled by outside things therein lies your freedom, but it isn’t freedom because life is the way that it’s wanted, there’s freedom because you’re with life as it is.

What happens with the mind that has operating energy not based in love is it gets hijacked by its own conditioning as you are held hostage by your own mind. I know this sounds crazy, but this is exactly what happens and it’s all because of the operating energy based to self serve. When the operating energy in place is controlled by a me, me, me mind, chaos is the norm or so it seems, but it’s only because of the chaotic operating energy. When the operating energy transforms the craziness subsides. When you sit and see what the base of your actions are, you just may be able to change them. It will take some time though because of the operating energy in place, but the alternative is to remain as you are being controlled by operating energy that holds you hostage…

The Enemy Within

The ego creates the ignorance of the Conditioned Mind. When there’s light shed on this ignorance is no more and the ego no longer needs to defend itself because it no longer considers itself an enemy.

Understanding the different thoughts that arise and seeing why some are defended and some are just let go of has immense value in learning to understand your mind. You’ll want to develop some sort of practice that’s going to assist in differentiating what thoughts are beneficial. The ego is “I” and when “I” feels threatened it will defend itself with whatever tools it has developed to do so. These tools aren’t only used to defend itself against others, they’re also used to defend itself against itself. They’re the only reason a person reaches for something and it’s strictly because they are defending themselves from a threat that comes from within. This “I” is the cause of every addiction and of all conflicts, without “I” you still exist, it’s just not in the way the ego makes it seem.

When you can see the truth that “I” (ego) is your only enemy, when a threat presents itself there’ll be no need to defend it because it will be seen you’re only defending yourself from yourself. There’s no suppressing this, nor anything else that arises because suppressing or pushing away is an action that deepens the egos control. To me awareness of an “I” existence is the beginning of it relinquishing its grip. In acknowledging it’s there, control dissipates somewhat, this happens when the energy of attachment is taken away. Never deny what’s there, just be aware of it and watch it dissolve on its own. The ego lives in the ignorance of the Conditioned Mind, but when there’s light shed on this ignorance is no more and the ego no longer needs to defend itself because it no longer considers itself an enemy…

Fuel of Emotions

No emotion arises on its own. Many things provide the fuel for an emotion, but it’s always “I” energy that’s at the core. No matter what happens an emotion can’t arise independent of ”I”…

No emotion arises on its own. There has to be fuel (attachment to “I”) for the emotion to arise. Many things provide the fuel for this emotional attachment to take hold, but it’s always “I” energy that’s at the core of any emotion. Take a look at the emotion of anger, it doesn’t exist on its own. No matter what happens, anger will never arise independent of ”I”. You cannot be angry without the attachment of “I” so it’s always “I” that provides the fuel for anger to rear its ugly head. The thing about this is conditions have to be a certain way that allows anger, without the conditions being a certain way anger would never arise; it can’t.

I’ll use the example of a forest fire, it too needs conditions to be a certain way for it to ignite; it needs air, heat, and fuel. A forest fire just can’t happen without one of these elements. It needs fuel first of all plus it needs the other two elements in order for the fire to ignite. This wouldn’t even be an issue if it just rained so a forest fire is contingent on conditions being a certain way in order for there to be a fire. This is no difference with emotions, in this case anger. Something happens and the anger is fueled by “I”. If there wasn’t attachment to “I” prior to something happening, the emotion would fizzle out. It would be as if it was raining in the forest; you never hear of forest fires in the rainy seasons and that’s because conditions simply don’t support it. Anger is being used here, but this is the way it is with any emotion. Without certain conditions being met there may be fuel, but if “I” isn’t the energy in play, the emotion simply will never arise…

Open Mind Expansion

The expansion of the mind is only limited by the view of life you get locked into. When the mind opens its expansion is possible because the closed mind limits vanish…

The tighter the grip you have of your views the more problems you will have. If there isn’t openness energy, almost everything is a problem in some way. I’ve seen this in myself and in others and it’s all because of a closed mind view (my way) caused by a tightly gripped mind. I put my way in parentheses because if that’s the only view that’s being allowed, you can see how closed minded that makes you. A closed mind leads to a narrow view and with a narrow view there’s no space for the mind to expand. This locks you into only seeing things one way and you get limited to that way. Imagine going through life like this, it would mean the only way you would be happy is if everything was in line with your view, and we all know that’s not going to happen, not all the time anyway. So you better do whatever it takes to open your mind or you will pay dearly and so will those who are in contact with you.

Close your fist as tight as you can and notice how there’s no space, it’s tight and there’s no room for anything else. Keep it closed as tight as you can, now notice how it’s getting tired and your hand is starting to hurt, this is the energy you’re living with everyday, only it’s the mind that’s tight and hurting. It’s no wonder there’s no expansion, there’s barely enough space for ordinary living. Now open your hand and see how it instantly relieves the tightness and hurting. Open your mind in the same way and it will do the same thing. Give yourself the gift of an open mind and it will be the gift that keeps on giving because your view of life will keep on expanding. You deserve it, after all this is your life…

Mind Agitated Lies

Truth makes a person look within; all sorts of things arise when this happens. This is because the mind is agitated and it wants to create a lie to avoid the truth…

It’s unfortunate, but most people live a life consumed by a lie more so than truth. They believe they’re living by truth, but upon further investigation this fallacy can be seen. On the outside the lie seems so much better and this is what keeps a person locked into it, but this is only because of your conditioning that makes it seem better. The truth will make you look at yourself, all sorts of things arise when this happens. Without this understanding the truth will be avoided as if it was a real virus. Becoming aware of the lies so truth can be revealed is essential in understanding yourself. Sit with the assumption that you will sit in stillness and watch how little stillness there is. Just sit and be with whatever is there, that’s where stillness is. When the mind isn’t looking for anything but what’s there, it’s still.

Only an agitation causes the mind to create a lie, only with being with the agitation is the mind settled. This doesn’t mean you don’t make changes, but when changes aren’t necessary the mind is settled. This is why I don’t share about positive versus negative, because if it’s negative and you want something positive, it’s no different than if you are positive and you don’t want anything negative. An agitated mind is a mind that needs things to be a certain way whether it’s positive or negative. This is the agitated lie, the truth is nothing needs to be different, the mind will settle when life is accepted as it is, positive, negative, or neutral…

Conditioned Opinions

An opinion is nothing more than a made up story from a mind conditioned to self serve. There’s no truth to an opinionated story because there isn’t anything factual to back it up…

Life happens and it’s interpreted through conditioned opinions. For me, it is very difficult opinions serious because of their nature. There are so many stories made from opinions, where it becomes humorous is because opinions really have no value. People think they do and will state them adamantly, but they don’t. They are given more credibility and have more affect on things the higher the position one has in society or is held in esteem, but the value of any opinion should always be questionable because they are all derived from someone’s Conditioned Mind, not from facts. I know this was how most of opinions were formed, there wasn’t much facts in them, and whether it was an opinion about a person, place, or thing, it really only had value to me because my conditioning was based to self serve; my opinions were all created from a self serving thought base.

This self serving opinion based process took years to develop. When something occurred it was placed in a category of like or dislike as quickly as it occurred. There wasn’t a thought process to this, it just went automatically in it’s conditioned assigned category. All opinions are valueless even though a person may think theirs matters, but they don’t because there’s no truth to them. When something isn’t based in truth, its pretty much valueless. So form your opinions and make decisions based on them, but don’t be surprised when things remain the same because not much can change if most of your decisions are made from an opinion base lie instead of one of factual truth. Don’t take things to serious and enjoy all the humorous opinions, it’s truth that sets you free; without it your self serving truthless opinions remain in control…

Liberating Focus

Your focused energy determines how existence manifest. If you’re constantly focused on yourself, your actions will be selfish. If you possess the whole world, but aren’t liberated from yourself, you’ll remain in captivity…

For me the key to being liberated from the captivity of self is turning my focused energy away from greed and lustful thoughts. When the mind gets stuck in these thoughts, to be liberated it needs to become unstuck. What makes it get stuck is energy mostly focused on satisfying self in some way. Pay attention to the sensations of the body, mind, and mental formations. This is a direct path to how one becomes liberated from suffering.

Liberation from suffering is not pain free, it’s learning to be with the pain that arises. You cannot hide from what’s happening, you can only divert your focus away from it. To not have your energy engaged in satisfying the self is where the path of liberation leads to. How this is done is by stopping the focused energy of self and focusing it towards what will liberate you. The self is there and it has been given a name, it also has many other labels attached to it, but there’s bondage because of the mere fact of the attachment it has to itself. Liberation is in understanding the lies of self, it isn’t in creating a concept or belief in something.

You can only be free when focusing on what allows freedom, but it’s tricky because of the mastery of the Conditioned Mind. Constant vigilance is needed for the liberation from self. You’re alive so you exist, but it will be your focused energy that determines the extent of the liberation you have from self and that will be the determining factor of how your existence manifest…

Energy of Now

Now energy is naturally free flowing because there’s no resistance, there’s no trying to make it different. Future energy stops the flow because it’s based in trying to manipulate Now…

Being aware of Now as it happens minimizes the future stories that are needed to make life a certain way. Awareness stops this story and allows the freedom of Now, this becomes the beautiful view of what actually is. After all wanting Now different is where all future discontentment arises from. When you’re simply aware of what arises there isn’t a need for a future story and selfish energy doesn’t come into play; this allows the love of your heart to naturally become the beautiful operating energy of life.

Future energy becomes a created prison because it doesn’t allow for a natural flow of life’s energy; you become entombed in the energy of the future. It’s the Conditioned Mind that cuts off the energy flow of Now as it becomes the energy of the lower nature of self centered nonsense. Why this future energy causes issue is because it bombards Now with an unnatural energy flow and doesn’t allow harmony. Now naturally free flows because there’s no resistance, there’s no needing it different. Future energy stops the flow because it’s based in trying to manipulate Now so what’s there is resisted to the point where the natural flow of Now energy is cut off. The only thing needed for liberation is awareness aware of awareness, there’s no future energy here, there’s just the energy of what occurs Now…

Lure of Pleasure

The most important thing to understand about the lure of pleasure is the less you’re attached to “I” the less you’ll be lured in and it’s because without “I” there’s no one who needs the next pleasure…

The lure of pleasure is so enticing because it actually feels good and this is why it’s so powerful. There’s only issue with this because of the impermanent nature of pleasure. It simply will not last, it has no staying power so some other pleasure will be needed almost immediately following the attainment of each pleasure. Think about it, with all the pleasures that have been attained throughout your life regardless of what it was, it doesn’t bring the pleasure now that it brought at that time, and most times even if the same exact pleasure is physically repeated it’s not as pleasurable as the first experience. I used so many things as I was lured in by my pleasure seeking conditioning, but it was never lasting, the enticement of the next needed pleasure always arose. This went on all the time, attaining one pleasure after another and never being satisfied.

I’ve come to understand this lure of pleasure as the main reason people start using and become addicted to alcohol, drugs, gambling, sex, money, tobacco products and an array of other things. If pleasure wasn’t sought, nothing would be reached for so there would never be an addiction nor any issues, but unfortunately the lure of pleasure has its way with people. It’s deeply ingrained in the subconscious and has been in place since our existence began. I know this lure of pleasure is what was controlling me for forty nine years and it was directly associated with “I”. Without “I” no one is there to be lured in. Even with this understanding the lure of pleasure doesn’t just disappear, but it does subside somewhat. To me the most important thing to understand about this is, the less one is attached to “I” the less one will be lure in and it’s because without “I” there’s no one who needs the next pleasure…

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