This site has been created to expand and share on some of the insights that led to the writing of It's Monday Only in Your Mind: You Are Not Your Thoughts.

Michael Cupo proposes that society does not clearly address the real cause of addiction. He has an understanding that all addictions can be overcome when that real cause is addressed and understood. – See more at: http://ow.ly/I57B1

A Tribute

Here is a tribute someone messaged to me about my book. I was so honored by this that I wanted to share it.

I have 2 online businesses, on both I posted your book, It’s Monday Only in Your Mind as reading material for 2015. Your written experience has influenced me more than any book I have read, what my M.A. in psych has taught me, 16 years of on/off therapy, Byron Katie workshops, personal interaction with Phil Lombardo, Shakit Gawin , Bob Stahl, Louise Hays and various Hay House authors that I personally know who have directed me towards my true being of love. I haven’t seen my therapist in 6 weeks. I am looking forward to a new relationship with him and with myself. Thank you so much for discovering the truth and sharing it with the world. Without meeting you, I believe you are my friend.

Your Lies Exposed

Problems that are based in lies can’t be fixed with solutions that are based in lies. Your lies have to be exposed so truth can become known if you are to change and be of assistance to others…

It’s very difficult to explain truth because everyone has their own version of it. Instead of trying to prove what truth is, let’s explore what a lie is. If you’re not sure what truth is, focus on what truth isn’t. Here are examples of some of the ways I found that works to expose the lies for many things. Learning to love by understanding what love isn’t, being at peace by understanding what causes you to become agitated, becoming patient by understanding impatience and last but  certainly not least, learning what truth is by exposing the lies.

A lie is something that has no real facts to it. Perceptions aren’t factual, they are made up by the perceiver to suit some sort of belief. People ask me if I believe in God, I answer that I believe in what I know which is based in the facts of what I’ve experienced, and that’s why I share only what has been experienced. I don’t see the benefit of making up a story about something to suit a mind made need. In my case I know love is more beneficial than hate, patience more beneficial than being impatient, kindness is better than meanness and on and on. So I learn what are the blocks to living my (factual) life so it’s of maximum benefit to myself and to all beings. You will know truth when you understand the lies…

Agitations Already in Place

Although it seems like outside situations are the cause of your mind agitations, this is not the case. The agitations that arise are already in place, if they weren’t they wouldn’t arise…

You can only respond to the situations of life with what you have in place. Something like anger rises because it has been taught. This also goes for fear, greed, hate, and so on. Most people respond to the situations of life from the core of “I”. Without understanding this “I” you’re kept locked to mind agitations and ignorant of the fact that the only reason this occurs is because it’s already in place. Simply put when there’s a situation that occurs which isn’t liked, regardless of what it is, a mind agitation arises without permission or knowledge and because of this the responses are in relation to the way you’re conditioned. What arises is whatever the Conditioned Mind deems appropriate and the only reason this happens is because it‘s already there latently laying in wait.

Understanding this is where knowledge has power. If why a mind agitation arises isn’t understood, there’ll be very little periods where the agitations are not in control. Through awareness of what arises, one has something that can be seen to get beyond it. Why most people remain as they are and repeat the same responses over and over is because of the total unawareness of why it occurs. To me this knowledge has immense value because when it’s seen, not only can you decipher whether what’s in place is beneficial or not, but discipline can also be developed to change whatever conditioning is there that causes a mind agitations and hence non beneficial responses…

https://anchor.fm/michael-cupo/episodes/Self-Sabotaging-Nonsense-e93pq1 Self Sabotaging Nonsense…

Most people don’t change because the dedication to investigate why you do what you do isn’t given 100% of your focus; 50% focus equates to very little change…

The idea of doing what puts you in alignment with Universal Love is much different than actually putting it into action. It’s not because it isn’t how you truly want to be, it’s just that there’s so much conditioning against you that without constant vigilance it‘s difficult to sustain a connection to Universal Love for a substantial amount of time. We all have times when it’s easier for this then others, but we also have our times when we say screw it and self seek. Don’t be to hard on yourself, a lifetime of living one way with not change with a few sittings. The key is to keep focused on a practice that allows for the self seeking behavior to become less and less and for Universal Love to be more reflected in your actions.

This does occur naturally, but you do need to be willing to do what’s necessary. Sometimes it will seem like” what’s the use” but understand this is all part of the conditioning, the noise, the story, the unconsciousness, whatever you want to call it. Constant vigilance is a necessity if there is to be change because the old behavior is so deeply ingrained to let go of its control on its own. This is why most people don’t change because the dedication to investigate why you do what you do isn’t given 100% of your focus. It is impossible to get more out of your practice then what you put into it. If you give it 50% that’s what you’ll get out of it and your change will be minimum at best…

Truly Living

As long as you do what you have always done, the results of what happens in your life will be what they have always been…

For the last twelve years my life has been so different from the first forty nine. This is because my mind, body, and spirit are now mostly in unity. Fourteen years ago I got addicted to pain medication and after two years I asked myself why with my life seemingly perfect did I need to alter the way that I felt. I found a real answer to this question that has awakened in me a different view of life that wasn’t previously known. I have since developed a practice of disciplined sitting which has allowed my mind to settle. This discipline was the missing ingredient in my life and it’s now the core of my balance, but not without the physical being a vital cog. It’s very important to have something in place to maximize your physical potential. I work out daily to accomplish this which has also brought my mind and spirit into unison with the physical. With a mind that’s settled, my workouts are so much more focused. The understanding of how vital it is to have three fold unity allows for more focused workouts with maximized results. I don’t work out just to get it over with; I work out to put me in harmony with life so it can be lived in the most beneficial way possible. This allows for it to be enjoyed to the fullest; even with so much heartache and suffering in the world.

I wrote a book and it was in the very gym I work out in that I got its title “It’s Monday Only in Your Mind: You Are Not Your Thoughts” I asked someone “How are you” and they answered, “You know it’s Monday” as I was walking back to the locker room I thought to myself how automatic the response was. Since it was Monday it meant the day had to be one of drudgery. Fortunately for me I was developing discipline so I understood the response was just from their Conditioned Mind. The Conditioned Mind is the core content of what I have learned and it’s this conditioning that leads one around as if they were a puppet on a string. This saying sums up my entire experience “As long as you do what you have always done, your results will be what they have always been”. If those results aren’t allowing you to live life to the fullest, it’s because your Conditioned Mind is keeping you from living in complete balance with your own mind, body, and spirit. I implore you to check out my website to see for yourself why your own mind tells you to do something and then the same mind ask why did you do it. If you want answers you will have to look within to find them. My book is a tool that explains how to begin this process of understanding what’s needed to truly live a life that is happy, joyous, and free…

Unity With Yourself

The results of what you do in life are in direct proportion to what’s practiced. Tomorrow’s results are because of what you do today. If there isn’t a practice that allows for unity with yourself, unity will not be possible…

What makes you do things that breaks the unity with your mind, body, and spirit? I have been working out for nearly thirty years, for many of those years it was strictly done so I wouldn’t get fat, not a bad reason by any means, but it had nothing to do with being in unity with my mind, body, and spirit. It was done so I would look good to others and keep my ego satisfied. I never understood the importance of having mind, body, and spirit in unity, so there were many things I did that caused my life to be unbalanced. Even though the physical was being satisfied, because of my lack of understanding of the importance of mind, body, and spirit unity I didn’t know how to do the things necessary to allow it, and unknown to me at the time, this caused much self-inflicted suffering in my life.

I was doing things like using tobacco products, not eating heathy, drinking too much alcohol, abusing pain medication, gambling, amongst many other behaviors that kept me in bondage. In 1987 I stopped drinking alcohol and using drugs, but all the other behaviors remained in place, and even though I started working out many times I was just going through the motions. I also had some anger issues and didn’t know why. Once my alcoholic drinking and drug use stopped, life naturally got better. By societies standards I had the perfect life or so it seemed, but there were are many things that kept my life from being in unity. What I have since discovered is this, if there’s a deficiency in any one of the three areas of mind, body, or spirit, this will create a deficiency within oneself, which in turn creates disharmony with life. When there’s disharmony with life, there’s disharmony with yourself; without harmony life has no choice but to be out of balance. The simplest tool to be balanced is to look down at your feet, when this is done unity naturally occurs because there’s no thought of separation…

Harmonic Discipline

The development of discipline is what brings it all together. Without it you will always be as you are, doing the things that you always do…

It all began when I started sitting and I did so because I understood that discipline is needed if the mind going to settle. Everyone has a physical place that’s called home, but what of a spiritual home? This is what disciplines allowed you to establish, a spiritual home: a place to go where the mind can be in unity, with the body, and spirit. This place isn’t for a select few, it’s available to anyone who has a willingness to want to look at and change their life. The key to this is being in the exact moment that you are in.

Sitting is an anchor to the present moment and it becomes more of where time should be spent instead of looking for an outward fix; this outward fix is what takes you from being in unison with yourself. Sitting for me is strictly done to develop discipline. It’s not done to attain a certain state, although that can occur. I don’t sit in any special position, mostly because there’s no need, but the main thing is to find a position that’s comfortable and focus on it. I also like to use the sensation of touch as an anchor, but I  use the breath as well as guided meditation. The important thing for me is to just sit because each time I sit I am developing the discipline to become more aware of the nonsense that goes on between my ears. This discipline is what brings it all together. Without it I would be as I always was, doing the things that I always did. As my mind has become more settled, this practice has become second nature to me; there is no other place I’d rather be because there is no other place I can be. So I sit whenever possible and it has been at the core of why my life is as it is; in harmony with my mind, body, and spirit…