This site has been created to expand and share on some of the insights that led to the writing of It's Monday Only in Your Mind: You Are Not Your Thoughts.

Michael Cupo proposes that society does not clearly address the real cause of addiction. He has an understanding that all addictions can be overcome when that real cause is addressed and understood. – See more at: http://ow.ly/I57B1

A Tribute

Here is a tribute someone messaged to me about my book. I was so honored by this that I wanted to share it.

I have 2 online businesses, on both I posted your book, It’s Monday Only in Your Mind as reading material for 2015. Your written experience has influenced me more than any book I have read, what my M.A. in psych has taught me, 16 years of on/off therapy, Byron Katie workshops, personal interaction with Phil Lombardo, Shakit Gawin , Bob Stahl, Louise Hays and various Hay House authors that I personally know who have directed me towards my true being of love. I haven’t seen my therapist in 6 weeks. I am looking forward to a new relationship with him and with myself. Thank you so much for discovering the truth and sharing it with the world. Without meeting you, I believe you are my friend.

Abundance Mind State

Abundance is a mind state. You can have it all, but yet have nothing or you can have nothing, but yet have it all. Your life will revolve around the things you cling to…

When your place of existence is based in love, love will be a part of everything you do. With the understanding that nothing you do will ever complete you, that completeness is already within, you will not have a need or lack for anything. If there isn’t a need or lack, you have abundance. When love is at the base of your existence you will do all that you love and love all that you do; nothing more is needed; this is abundance.

Abundance is our state of I AM. It is the place when Universal conditions were right and our manifestation in this form began. It is a place of non judgement, and non bias. A place where there is no prejudice; in this place there is only Universal Love. There really isn’t a place to go back to because this is where you already are. There is just so much noise going on between the ears that it’s not known this place exist. When you learn to stop the noise, what is left is I AM. Practice diligently so you can be in the only place that truly exist. It is in the delusional state that most exist. You do not have to be any place except where you are. It’s your own mind that keeps you from this place because of its conditioning. Recondition it to remain in the Present Moment (I Am) and you will never leave your place of abundance. When you don’t want, you don’t need, when you don’t need you will have a state of mind of abundance. In this state anything is possible because in this state you are in alignment with Universal Love and in harmony with I Am…

“I” Created Problems

Being sad because a loved one dies is natural. If you could just be with the sadness without tightening up as a closed fist, you would remain open and a story of being sad wouldn’t come into play…

To me this is the main problem why so many people continually seek peace and why it remains elusive. Peace is mostly being sought as a concept through the thought realm and the thought of peace will never bring about that which is thought to be desired. Only the thought that you are not at peace makes you not at peace. You can ask, if I think I’m at peace will I be, I say no because it’s as if you are talking yourself into it. It’s like whistling in the dark to keep away the boogeyman; its more so a distraction than a real tool of peace. To go deeper, notice the thought “I” at the center of wanting peace. Anything from the desire of ”I” always creates a problem because creating problems is the nature of “I”. It pushes away the truth of what is and looks for what isn’t. This is what “I” does, it constantly looks for what isn’t in the form of wanting the present moment different. It uses all kinds of concepts and beliefs that one blindly adheres to when doing this.

Here’s an example using a loved one dying. The sadness that arises from this is truth, but now take grief and watch how it arises strictly from not wanting the person who died to have done so. I will miss them is an “I“ story, this creates tightness as if one is a closed fist. Being sad because a loved one dies is natural and if you could just be with the sadness, the fist would remain open and an “I” story wouldn’t come into play, nor would the suffering grief causes. Anyone who says grief is a natural process has never truly investigated it at this level; they’re probably only repeating what someone else said. Don’t take my word for this, investigate this for yourself, or not and remain a prisoner to the concepts and beliefs that “I” makes up which will always keep you from truly being at peace simply because of the thought you are not at peace…

We repeat the same mistakes over and over and we constantly respond to the same urges because we react out of the habit of what is known; this is done without even realizing it…

Why it’s so difficult to awaken is because of many reason, but to me the one that sticks out the most is how the Conditioned Mind holds onto what is known even if it causes extreme suffering. When I was twenty five my oldest brother passed away from an addiction related incident, this forced me (not on my own) to look at my own alcohol and drug use. His death opened my eyes to a degree, but even though my life was a mess it didn’t mean I was willing to accept the unknown without my pacifier coping mechanisms. It took another two years before it was realized alcohol and drugs were causing problems, but even though I was going into unknown territory I figured it had to be better than the way I was living.

The reason it took two years was because although I was in extreme emotional pain, my conditioning led me to believe facing the unknown was to scary and staying with the known was the way to go; the lies of the Conditioned Mind run deep. This is why we repeat the same mistakes over and over and it’s also why we constantly react to the same triggers, we react out of habit without even realizing it. The conditioning in place dictates what to do and it’s obeyed without question, and here’s the real irony in all of this, people actually believe they have free will and they have a choice, but the only thing you do is submit to what’s known because that’s what’s in place. Once there’s awareness of this, succumbing to the known can be stopped and the choice to live life freely becomes a possibility along with the ability to not give in to the Conditioned Mind…

Human Attachment

Not only is to err human, but it’s also strictly from being human that one attaches to wanting things different which is the cause of one’s own suffering…

If you really want to know what the basic flaw is that keeps you trapped to your own suffering, it’s attaching to your humanness to a fault. It’s not that we aren’t human or that we’ll be able to transcend our humanness, it’s more so to find a way to embrace it, but not be trapped by it. It will always be by giving in to our human side in some way that causes our suffering. It doesn’t have to be attached to, but it will take discipline so the mind settles to see this. It’s simply human to want things different and it’s attaching to the story of being human that causes suffering. This is true regardless of what’s wanted different.

It’s always the human “I” that wants something different and it’s the charade of being human that pulls one into suffering. I ordered sweat pants on line last week and when they were delivered I tried them on and they didn’t fit. By my first reaction you would have thought I was going to have to go around naked, but obviously that wasn’t the case. “I” attached to the fact the sweat pants didn’t fit. This is what attaching to being human does and when it was seen how insane this was, wanting things different fell away and Under Armor was called for an exchange. You can substitute the sweat pants with anything and you’ll get the same result of suffering. This is all because not only is to err human, but it’s also strictly from being human that there’s attachment to wanting things different which in turn causes one to be humanly trapped to their own suffering…

The consequences that arise from living a conscious life naturally puts you in alignment with the loving vibrations and frequency of the Universe. Apples grow from apple seeds… 

Nothing has to be done for one to enjoy the consequences of consciousness, they arise simply from living in a conscious manner. The definition of consciousness – “the fact of awareness by the mind of itself and the world.” When this is the focus, the consequences that naturally arise are love, compassion, kindness, understanding, non judgement, to name a few, you cannot be conscious and have unconscious consequences. Unpleasant things will still occur, but the way they’re dealt with will not allow their suffering to control you. There will still be pain, heart ache, and loss of loved ones, but by living in a conscious way, suffering will be much less than if unconscious principles were in place. Planting apple seeds can only result in growing apples, but the seeds have to cultivated for this to occur. The seed only has potential, it is not the apple.

The qualities of consciousness will also have to be cultivated if there are to be conscious consequences in your life. Most people intuitively know what consciousness is and what it is not. If there’s difficultly in deciphering this, a great guide to use is consciousness is of love as unconsciousness is of selfishness. The unconscious mind doesn’t have many conscious qualities. I always knew the difference between the two, but because of my conditioning being conscious was beyond my capability. It was only when I began sitting and my mind settled did I develop the awareness to see and act in a conscious way; this arises naturally as the mind settles. The more the mind settles the more conscious are your actions and thus the more the consequences of those actions are of a consciousness quality…

Listen to the most recent episode of my podcast: Understanding Why https://anchor.fm/michael-cupo/episodes/Understanding-Why-ec5qkl

No view is inherently right or wrong, but if you only have one it limits you and doesn’t allow any other results except those from that one view…

Changing your view is what makes life different, but it doesn’t make what happens different, it only makes the view of what happens different. If you’re locked into a certain view, this only allows one way to see things and the more that view is based in the intellect, the harder it will be for there to be another view that allows you see things differently. Not that there’s anything directly wrong with the intellect, it just doesn’t allow for much openness. When one sees things from only one view, it limits your entire life to that one view. Most times this view isn’t even your own, it’s formed from someone else’s opinion, teaching, book, video, discussion, and so on.

To be fixated on one view keeps you entrapped to the results of only that view, think about how limiting that is. No possibility of other views, always going down the same path, never allowing anything new, this is so limiting, but with only seeing things through one view how limiting this is will not be seen. Sitting and developing discipline so the minds grip lessens can assist in possibly altering a one view mind set, but there has to an inkling there’s another way to see things for this to happen. It’s not that your way is wrong, it’s just that seeing things one way limits your view of life and in the process it doesn’t allow any other results except those from that one view…