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A Tribute

Here is a tribute someone messaged to me about my book. I was so honored by this that I wanted to share it.

I have 2 online businesses, on both I posted your book, It’s Monday Only in Your Mind as reading material for 2015. Your written experience has influenced me more than any book I have read, what my M.A. in psych has taught me, 16 years of on/off therapy, Byron Katie workshops, personal interaction with Phil Lombardo, Shakit Gawin , Bob Stahl, Louise Hays and various Hay House authors that I personally know who have directed me towards my true being of love. I haven’t seen my therapist in 6 weeks. I am looking forward to a new relationship with him and with myself. Thank you so much for discovering the truth and sharing it with the world. Without meeting you, I believe you are my friend.

Thought Process

It’s your own mind through your thought process that makes life what it is. Your mind creates your entire world through the possessiveness of your thoughts…

There are things that one would rather not happen, but they do. They have to be accepted or there will never be peace in one’s life. At least to where one can be with what is happening instead of getting bogged down in pushing it away. Although the small stuff can seem difficult, the life altering things can seem devastating if there isn’t an awareness of how it’s the Conditioned Mind that makes this so. Loss of loved ones, homes destroyed; along with all our possessions and memories, accidents, illnesses, these are just some of the occurrences that can alter our state if they’re not accepted for what they are; and what they are is nothing but a thought.

Life occurs and through your thought process things appear as the mind makes them appear. There is nothing to life except what the Conditioned Mind makes it out to be. Our own mind uses a thought process to create an entire existence that is only real to itself. The more life is lived in this manner, the more difficult it is to accept the daily occurrences. This lack of acceptance only occurs because of the lack of understanding of your own mind. It’s your own mind that creates the appearance that life is difficult and this happens because you’re trapped in the thought process that everything is as it appears, but only because your mind has been conditioned to do so…

Spiritual Nonsense

Sit often and watch your thoughts come and go, eventually there will be more and more space between them. It’s in this space that you will see all the spiritual nonsense holding you captive…

With the emergence of the internet there’s so much information available on spirituality that it really needs to be investigated before considering what to use in your development. Here is the definition of Nonsense: 

  1. Words or signs having no intelligible meaning.
  2. Subject matter, behavior, or language that is foolish or absurd.
  3. Extravagant foolishness or frivolity.

To see if the information you‘re using to develop the direction or path you are on is authentic and truly beneficial, there can’t be anything associated with it that forms attachment. Methods, programs, guru’s, life coaches, teachers, or any other form of nonsense that is used to keep you attached, just keeps you in bondage to the very thing you‘re trying to break free of. Just as there’s a lot of “fake news” out there today, there’s also a lot of fake information on spirituality. Bondage is not something that’s truly understood by many people and so most of the information out there is nonsense to keep you in bondage in some way.

The only thing one needs to do is look within so one millisecond of space is created between your thoughts. Once this occurs and there’s awareness of it, more and more space will slowly creep in. It takes nothing but awareness to expand this space. The nonsense out there that someone’s program, book, method or whatever has your answer will keep you in bondage to the very thing you trying to break from. I know people defend their so called guru or people they follow adamantly, but it’s only because there’s no awareness of the bondage they’re in. Sit often and just watch the thoughts come and go, eventually there will be more and more space between them. It’s in this space that you will see all the spiritual nonsense holding you in captivity…

Undisciplined Desires

The undisciplined mind creates a view based in the desires of the world. It’s difficult to break this spell because most of what goes on in our daily lives reinforces the undisciplined desires. A free mind doesn’t desire the world…

I understand the struggles with life have nothing to do with life. It’s my view based in the world of undisciplined desires that causes my struggle because this view is controlled by the undisciplined mind. When desires are fulfilled and things are going my way, there’s not much of a struggle; life is considered good. And when things are going my way I forget about what causes life to be a struggle. When I do this it makes my base centered in the world of undisciplined desires and I get pulled around by my undisciplined mind and become its puppet.

The more this occurs the more suffering there is in my life. Sometimes it is very subtle, but its there. As a matter of fact even if I’m aware of being controlled by an undisciplined mind, it still produces suffering. The suffering doesn’t occur if I don’t get what I want, it occurs just by being in a state where the undisciplined mind is in control.

The less I allow the world of undisciplined desires (which is just me wanting what I want, when I want it) to be the base of my view, the less I struggle with myself and with life. This is simply because undisciplined desires aren’t in control. But when I forget this and the undisciplined mind is creating chaos by desiring, I suffer immensely. Desire less, suffer less, but only when an undisciplined mind develops discipline…

Intellectually Stuck

If a person is stuck in an intellectual based world they’ll be controlled by an intellectual based existence. This is a prison that you will only be released from by going beyond your intellectual thoughts into the realm of silence…

It’s impossible to be stuck in an intellectual existence that isn’t created by your own mind. What this means is regardless of what happens, it’s your minds intellectual thoughts that create your conditioning; this comes from within yourself. Lots of things happen throughout the day and each time there’s a choice to intellectualize it or not. Everyone has the ability within to cease causing their own conditioning, it just takes a certain amount of discipline for this to occur. What discipline does is it slows down the intellectualizing process that runs continuously. This slowing down is the beginning of truth being revealed. Without it the necessary silence that allows less intellectualizing will not happen.

If there’s continuous intellectualizing
and no silence all there will be is thought and this will not allow the ability to watch the moment unfold. If this isn’t seen your mind will never slow down and there won’t be any space created between your intellectual thoughts. Life will simply be intellectually based and the result of this will create your conditioning. When life slows down you’ll see how it’s your own mind that takes something that happens and puts it into a conditioned category. When you see this you can break free of the hold your mind has over you and you will be able to see that you’re not your intellectual thoughts; you’re beyond this thought based existence…

Unconsciously Imperfect

Waking up doesn’t make you perfect, but it does give you awareness of your unconscious imperfections in place. And when you’re aware of the harm unconsciousness causes, letting go of its imperfections naturally occurs…

It’s pretty crazy the way life is. It’s something that can’t really be figured out, but I wouldn’t change anything about it even with all the unconscious suffering that went on for years. The best thing about my life is all the love that I’m surrounded by. To me in the end if anything really matters it will be this. At age twenty eight I stopped using alcohol and drugs as a coping mechanism, four years later I got married which is over thirty years ago. Although that in and of itself is amazing, at the age of thirty two my father saw a son who caused him years of worrying finally begin to grow up. I was not a burden to him or to my mother any longer. Mom died a few years back, my dad died some months after my wedding. Him seeing me get married is something I cherish to this day.

The part the gets me the most about being unconscious is the people it affects without any knowledge that it’s happening. From the friends I had growing up, to parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, strangers, and just about anyone else who there was contact with; being unconscious causes much harm. It’s why today I simply don’t want to hurt anyone, but because of the conditioning in place at times I still do. However the intervals between hurts are much further apart than ever before. The unloving energy of “I” is at the core of being unconscious, it actually is what makes one unconscious. And just because you may want to be loving, it doesn’t mean you will be, especially if there’s much unloving conditioning in place. Waking up doesn’t make you perfect, what it does do is it gives you the awareness of your unconscious imperfections in place and when there’s awareness of the harm it can cause, letting go of these imperfections naturally occurs, one unconscious imperfection at a time…

Discontent in Place

Although it seems what occurs in life is the cause of one’s arising discontent, this is not the case. The discontent that arises is already in place, if it wasn’t there’s no way it would arise…

You can only react to life with what you have in place. Something like anger arises because its been learned, this also goes for fear, greed, hate, and so on. I constantly reacted like this for many many years without any understanding whatsoever and it kept me locked into my discontent without any inkling that the only reason it was occurring was because it was in place. Simply put, when something occurred that I didn’t like my discontent arose without any knowledge as to why I reacted in the way that I did. What arose was whatever my conditioning deemed appropriate. The only reason this happened is because it was already there laying in wait: like a shark waiting to devour its unsuspecting prey.

Understanding this is where there is power in knowledge. If why your discontent isn’t understood, there will be very little true periods where the discontent is not in control. Awareness of what’s arising gives you something tangible to use to get beyond what arises. Why most people remain as they are and repeat the same reactions over and over is because of the lack of awareness of why it happens. To me this knowledge has immense value because when it’s seen one can truly decipher whether what’s in place is beneficial or not. At this point a course of action can be developed to change whatever’s in place that’s causing your discontent to rear its ugly head…

Quietness

The mind will only settle when there is quiet. You cannot do anything to be quiet, it arises from itself. When the intellectual mind stops intellectualizing, the internal urging will quiet in its own quietness….

When one truly awakens, there’s an understanding of quiet and how it relates to life. When this occurs there’s freedom because quietness arises naturally. We seek because of an internal urging for quiet which is what a true awakening reveals. This cannot be known intellectually. Intelligence is actually noise, quietness can only be known by being quiet. The lack of quiet makes life very mundane. It makes you less aware of the internal urging of quietness provided by the Universe. Without this awareness you cannot truly understand what the benefits of being quiet are. Understand though quietness is always there, it’s just not understood. Nothing is needed to experience quietness; the only way you can be quiet is to being quiet. Methods may be useful in learning to be quiet, but the only reason this is so is because the mind hasn’t been developed for quietness, it’s been developed to generate noise.

It’s a human fault to need to make life about something, but if something is needed, make it about being quietness. I know this because it’s the only thing that truly makes sense to me. It’s the only place where I don’t need to think and there is peace. Not to think is to be in a state of no mind and in this state is true peace. How can it not be peaceful in this state, there’s nothing to cause one to suffer. There’s no generated noise in the head. The quietness of I Am. Nothing more will ever be needed because in quiet is where everything arises from; unless you want to live by the generated noise in your head. Quietness is the ultimate truth, but even saying that is noise. Quietness of no mind is all that is, when one stops seeking it or trying to define it that’s when it arises…

Giving or Taking

It’s really very simple to understand the mind. It can be broken down into two mind states, giving or taking. Everyone who is alive will be guided by one or the other…

There’s a lot of stuff (thinking) that goes on between the ears that determines what mind state you will be guided by and when it’s broken down, you will be guided either giving or taking. To me everything that happens is the result of something previous so the results of living in a state of giving or taking are vastly different. This isn’t to apply a label that one is right and one is wrong, but if investigated it can be seen how giving produces results aligned with love, kindness, peace, harmony, joy, and taking aligns you with results of anger, greed, hate, unhappiness, discontent and do on. I had a mind of taking for many years and this resulted in much suffering in the form of feeling isolated and alone most of the time. As a result of this, I used many different things to try and not feel this way, but to no avail because not matter what, the taking mind state would always return.

Some years ago I began understanding the different results of these two mind states and started developing certain things that put me more in line with giving. A mind of taking is selfish in nature and produces selfish results; desirable results if you’re based in the material world. A mind of giving has no selfishness to it and the results prove this. This doesn’t mean the taking conditioning is gone for good, but it has lessened to a large degree and hence there is literally no more isolation in me. If the difference of these two mind states aren’t seen it seems the taking state controls more; it’s because of the influences of the material world that make this so. Even though by being alive you are part of the world, when you finally wake up what’s seen is you don’t have to allow the selfish collective mind state of taking to control you…

Truth/No Story Needed

Versions of truth cease to exist in the present moment because there’s no need to create them. And without a storied version of truth, it’s not necessary to decipher what‘s actually true…

Your story is only true in the sense that it’s your version of what’s true; deciphering if the content of your story is true is difficult. This is so because you are the creator of your story and you believe them wholeheartedly. This is what directs your energy and how life is lived. The thing to investigate is how many stories there are. There’s the parents story, the childhood one, the teen and young adult story. There’s the boy meets girl story, the get married story. The work story, family story, and on and on. There are so many stories and only one you. If you say all your stories are true you should be able to sense why it’s so difficult to see the true version. There’s the true version in there somewhere, but that’s probably the only story not written yet. When that one arises the written ones all fall away.

So how would a person know which one of their stories were true? My experience has been I know which one is true because there isn’t a need to create one. You see a true story arises it’s not created. It’s basically what’s there in the present moment. This is the value of using the body as an anchor for present moment living. The body doesn’t create stories, only the mind does so when the body is used to be present no story is needed. This is beautiful in its simplicity. Resonate with this and most stories will cease to exist because the need to create one won’t arise. And without a storied version of truth there’s no deciphering the truth of what actually is…

Less is More

While you’re busy making plans life happens. If you’re not careful most of your life will be missed because you’ll be too busy looking for more instead of understanding less is more…

The only thing that makes a person think something more is needed to enhance life is their own conditioning; until this is realized this conditioning will keep you searching for more. As this searching for more seems to be continuous for most, this means most are missing what life truly offers. If a person is alive life will be experienced. Ask yourself if your life is being fully lived or are you under the spell of your own Conditioned Mind that makes you think more is needed to enhance it? If needing more is the default setting of your mind and unfortunately it is for most, so much of life will be missed because you will constantly think you need more. This is a mind agitation that keeps the searching for more in place which doesn’t allow any contentment with what’s actually taking place.

Life is never personal, it just continues on regardless of what happens. Humanity has become its own worse enemy. Mostly because of always needing more instead being content with less. Grab more of whatever you think you need, but except for a few brief moments your contentment will be fleeting. Sit and visualize having all the riches of the world and being the most intelligent person to have ever lived and see what this really changes in your life. It will only be a matter of time before you will need more. If there isn’t some level of contentment with less, you will constantly need more and the search for more of what one thinks will make life better will make discontentment and searching for more the norm…

Conventional Suffering

The conventional way of the world is to cope with suffering by suffering. This is the programmed delusion in place that keeps one suffering by attaching to the belief that suffering must cause more suffering…

When you wake up and see the delusion of the attached programming that’s been put in place, it’s freeing, but only to the extent that the delusion is let go of. This basically means going against the conventional way that most people view life and although waking up doesn’t make a person special, it does make one seem odd or peculiar because they aren’t in line with the conventional way everyone else responds to life situations.

This writing stems from the fact that a woman I know is going through the stages of dementia. What has arisen in me is seeing how much suffering this situation is causing all those who are involved with it. Although the suffering is optional, it’s not seen in this way because of the conventional coping mechanisms caused by attaching to the delusional programming the world has in place; this is delusional thinking even though it seems in line with the world. Understanding this affords you the awareness of not being pulled into the suffering, but it’s perceived by others as though a person doesn’t care about what’s happening. Compassion has arisen in me for all those involved with this situation because of how it’s causing so many to suffer, but this compassion isn’t seen by those who are suffering.

It’s only the delusional programming of attachment that causes one to suffer with any situation. The conventional way of the world is to cope with suffering by suffering. It’s believed suffering must cause more suffering. And although the one who wakes up from the sleep of this programmed delusion may be looked upon by others as being peculiar, odd or not caring, the alternative is to attach to the conventional way of the programmed delusion that suffering has to cause more suffering. Insanity to say the least…

Agitated Lie

Truth makes a person look at themselves, all sorts of things arise when this happens. Most times though the agitated mind creates a lie to avoid the truth…

It’s unfortunate, but most people live a life consumed by a lie more so than one of truth. They believe they’re living by truth, but upon further investigation this fallacy can be seen. On the outside the lie seems so much better and this is what keeps a person locked into it, but this is only because of one’s conditioning that makes it seem better. The truth makes one look at themselves and all sorts of things arise when this happens, so without this understanding the truth will be avoided as if it was a plague. Becoming aware of the lies so truth can be revealed is essential in understanding oneself. Sit with the assumption that you will sit in stillness and watch how little stillness there is. Just sit and be with whatever is there, that’s where stillness is. When the mind isn’t looking for anything but what’s there, it’s still.

Only an agitated mind needs to create a lie, only with being with the agitation does the mind settle. This doesn’t mean one doesn’t make changes, but when changes aren’t necessary the mind is settled. This is why I don’t share about positive versus negative, because if it’s negative and you want something positive, it’s no different than if you are positive and you don’t want anything negative. An agitated mind is a mind that needs things to be a certain way whether it’s positive or negative. This is the agitated lie, the truth is nothing needs to be different and one’s mind will settle when life is accepted as it is, positive, negative, or neutral…

Stagnant Emotions

Nothing from the outside either real or made up truly controls you regardless of the injustice. It’s the stagnant emotions attaching to what happens that cause certain behaviors to arise…

Staying with the flow of what arises in our daily life has immense value in the process of waking up from the sleep of unconsciousness. What happens if awareness isn’t expanded upon is the arisen emotions become stagnant and controls you; they become the master and you the slave. The stagnant emotions is what causes one to react to life in the way that they do. Nothing from the outside truly controls you regardless of the injustice. It’s the stagnant emotions attaching to what happens that causes one to behave in a certain manner. When one awakens, the attachment to emotions lessens and their control lessens. My mom was 85 when she died, to say I will felt no emotions is ludicrous. But I don’t have to have stagnated emotions and turn them into suffering of grieving. Same thing if something is done that makes you mad, feel being mad, but let being mads energy to keep flowing, don’t attach to it and stagnate it so anger arises, this way you remain in the flow of life.

This is how it is with all our emotions, fear becomes crippling when it becomes stagnant and takes you over. It’s doesn’t mean things won’t scare you, but it’s doesn’t have to be given the energy that turns it into fear. This applies to any emotion you become attached to, it stagnates the associated emotion and there’s no telling what behavior will arise. I guarantee you, it’s not going to be a behavior that has love flowing as its base. Emotions will arise, it’s the way the brain seems to be wired, but our energy doesn’t have to give them more power than they’re worth. We can cry our tears, or be fearful of the future. We can dislike that things aren’t going the way we think they should be, but the bottom line is it’s only when the emotions get stagnant that they are given the energy to stop the flow of truly living life and not cause not only our own suffering, but the suffering of all beings…

Thought Control

It’s imperative to learn to be aware of your thoughts because if what you do comes from a labeled place, this label produces the bondage of a blind thought which controls you like a puppet on a string…

If there isn’t awareness of your own thoughts to decipher which ones are truly beneficial, hold on because you’ll be taken on the ride called life. Not that life does anything directly to anyone, but thoughts arise and they determine what kind of ride you will be on. Being aware of your thoughts is essential if you’re not to be controlled by them. Thoughts are a natural part of life, they will arise. As far as I know there’s no way of controlling what thought arises. I have found that being aware of them allows for a split second hesitation that can be used to decipher whether or not the thought is beneficial. And remember, attachment to any thought causes suffering no matter how it’s labeled.

The Conditioned Mind is diabolical and unless there’s some awareness of how controlling your thoughts actually are, they will control you as if you were a puppet on a string. So subtle is this control that even if you are doing things that are labeled as loving, the label will eventually control you. And remember bondage is bondage regardless of what label is applied to the thought. This is why the Conditioned Mind is diabolical because of its subtleness in using whatever it can to remain in control. This is also why it’s imperative to learn to be aware of your thoughts because if what you do comes from a labeled place, this label produces the bondage of a blind thought which controls you like a puppet on a string…

Truth Within

When one awakens there’s a shift that opens your heart which allows the truth within to surface. When this occurs where you were once blind you now see…

People think they change when they learn something new, but the essence of what is truly happening is there’s a discovery of what has always been there. It’s not really a change that occurs, it’s a shift from delusional thinking, with the shift being an understanding of the true nature of life starting with your own mind. You cannot know truth if you don’t know yourself, and you cannot know yourself if you don’t know your own mind. This reason why it’s so difficult for the heart to open so you can live differently is because the mind will not settle down without a struggle. It will tell you to do just enough to get by in life as long as it’s pleasurable or it will tell you not to do anything because you’re okay as you are.

Self investigation is not pleasurable especially when it’s first started, that’s why many are hesitant to do it. It’s much easier and pleasurable not to investigate and do what’s familiar, but there are only benefits when an honest self appraisal is done. A step into the unfamiliar will need to be taken so you can get to know the truth of who you are.

The mind defaults naturally to what’s familiar because it’s the conditioning in place. An honest self appraisal allows for truth to be revealed and rise to the surface; this is how truth becomes what‘s familiar. When truth is what’s on the surface what happens is the veil of ignorance is removed and where you were once blind you now see. It’s not a change, it’s a shift that allows truth to be revealed, but you’re only seeing what has always been there…

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