This site has been created to expand and share on some of the insights that led to the writing of It's Monday Only in Your Mind: You Are Not Your Thoughts.

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A Tribute

Here is a tribute someone messaged to me about my book. I was so honored by this that I wanted to share it.

I have 2 online businesses, on both I posted your book, It’s Monday Only in Your Mind as reading material for 2015. Your written experience has influenced me more than any book I have read, what my M.A. in psych has taught me, 16 years of on/off therapy, Byron Katie workshops, personal interaction with Phil Lombardo, Shakit Gawin , Bob Stahl, Louise Hays and various Hay House authors that I personally know who have directed me towards my true being of love. I haven’t seen my therapist in 6 weeks. I am looking forward to a new relationship with him and with myself. Thank you so much for discovering the truth and sharing it with the world. Without meeting you, I believe you are my friend.

Mind Created Problems 

The mind loves to create problems and until this is seen, it will continue to do so even though everything passes in life, especially the problems that are created.

Problems are created by a mind that doesn’t accept what’s occurring in the present moment. It wants the present moment different and it actually makes you believe if it was different all would be well; this is the fallacy of the Conditioned Mind. All is well right now, but because of one’s conditioning it’s not seen so the mind has to create a problem so it has something to do. I’ve always had a tendency to make everything that occurs is like it’s the end of the world, and although I don’t attach to this as I once did, many times the end of the world view is my first reaction.

Yesterday I was washing clothes and I put them in the dryer. When they were almost finished drying, I opened the dryer to pull out a shirt, there were red spots on it and also on some of the other clothes. I pulled them all out and found a red pen in the dryer. There was also red ink all over the dryer. The first response was my usual end of the world reaction, the clothes are ruined. I took a step back and took a deep breath. I grabbed a shirt and cleaned a spot, the ink came out. I then cleaned the inside of dryer. I rewashed all the clothes and an hour and a half later I folded all the clothes and it was like nothing happened. This notice happens with most things in life, and although I don’t concern myself too much with my reactions, the attachment to what occurs is what I watch now. In this case the clothes can be substituted with anything. The mind it seems loves to create problems and until this is seen, it will continue to do so even though everything passes, especially the problems that are created.

Karmic Results

Each of us gets back the karmic results of our actions. We are our own judge and jury and for the most part our verdicts are determined by the actions that are done in secret.

I remember cartoons from years ago when a Devil and Angel would pop up on the characters shoulders. This happened when a decision was needed about something. The figures that popped up were always the image of the individual character, it was because that’s who the real struggle and conflict is always with. Nothing outside of you can do you the harm as your own unattended thoughts, and this mostly occurs when things aren’t lining up with the story of the way you think things should be. Karma is something that’s real, I can make it like I’m this spiritual guru and behind closed doors be selfish and unloving, but I’m not fooling anyone because wherever I go there I am. Each of us gets back the karmic results of our actions. We are our own judge and jury and for the most part our verdicts are determined by the actions we exhibit; its never about what I show you, but what is done in secret. What is done behind closed doors shapes one’s life. To thine own self be true.

I can preach love and recite all the airy fairy nonsense that fits nicely into a so called spiritual box, but if I’m not showing loving kindness to all beings, it’s all being done to for one reason and that’s to satisfy the Devil cartoon character (ego) on my shoulder. So many conditioned stories are made up about life and this keeps one in their own prison. You can get in touch with this simply by seeing how much love you show to all beings. Lip service means little here because it’s not only the world that gets hurt, it’s also yourself. So much arises throughout life as the Devil and Angel characters pop up, just make sure the one selected allows for the loving kindness of all beings.

Two Sides 

One’s higher vibrational energy has to be understood so the bondage of self is truly let go of and one’s higher self can reach its true potential to be an instrument of love instead of an instrument to satisfy one’s lower self.

The are two sides to just about everything in life and although many times only the one side is seen, in order to go beyond the small self (one sided) the second side (love) has to be noticed. This is just about the only way one will be able to go beyond the limited view of one side. If your human existence is viewed only from the human side, the spiritual won’t come into play and life will seem very mundane. But when one starts looking at life from the side which doesn’t require human attachment, another view opens to the true beauty of what life has to offer. This beauty manifest in different ways for people, but what it has in common is it comes from the space of a higher self. We exist in the form of energy and one side is selfish, the all about me view. This is a lower vibrational energy that doesn’t allow one to reach their true potential. The other side or view is the energy of stillness which manifest as love, this is a higher vibrational energy which allows the beauty of life to manifest and thus our true potential is maximized.

Learning to understand these two sides will assist in truly letting go of the blocks that keep the lower selfish energy in place. The higher vibrational energy is always there to tap into, but if there isn’t alignment to it, it cannot manifest. This isn’t to deny our human side because it’s the form we are in, but attaching to it and making it an end to a means is where the expansion of one’s consciousness ceases. The tighter the grip of the human side, the less the higher vibrational energy will be operational. This is a Universal Law that has to be understood so the bondage of self is truly let go of. When this occurs one’s higher self reaches its true potential and you can be an instrument of love instead of an instrument to satisfy one’s lower self.

Storied Differences 

Watch the moment to moment stories arise as they try to attach to whatever it is that’s occurring, if you truly see this, you just may be able to break out of the prison of needing a story.

The stories created become one’s bondage, this is what the Conditioned Mind does, it creates stories. When I look back the only differences I had with anything, be it something that happened or another person were our stories were different. This is also true today, although the story doesn’t usually come from me because I’ve learned enough to allow everything to be as it is and not want it different, for the most part. I say for the most part because I still have triggers that get activated, but it is more of a momentary reaction than one that hangs around long enough to create a story. I only created stories when I wanted something different so if I don’t want you, life, or what happens different, than I’m in a place of peace. This peace doesn’t seem to change one single thing that’s happening around me, but with me remaining unattached and at peace, it changes everything, at least for me.

Every disagreement one has with another is because their stories don’t match up. Everyone thinks their story is the right one, do they not? The fact of the matter is until you learn to stop making up stories, one will always be in conflict with something, but what’s not realized is the conflict is with yourself. This happened to me twice yesterday, it wasn’t me trying to change anyone, it was two people having strong opinions and them not liking that I didn’t agree with it. I didn’t disagree with it, I didn’t really care. The funny thing to me is, it doesn’t matter how anyone else sees things because we’re all conditioned differently, but to some they sure seem hell bent on making others see things their way, and when it’s not look out. It’s so freeing to live without needing a story. Watch the moment to moment stories arise and try to attach to whatever it is that’s viewed, if you can truly see this you just may be able to break out of the prison of your needed stories.

Conditioned Suffering 

Everyone truly has the love in their heart to be free of their conditioning, but because it’s not understood how harmful the Conditioned Mind is, it locks one into their own suffering.

The Conditioned Mind is diabolical. It’s so cunning that it will make you prefer suffering over peace. It’s so sly and cunning it will use every trick known to keep one from looking within. It uses past beliefs and concepts to hold one in bondage to its lies. Although I know I can’t change anyone, this was proven again yesterday, I will continue to share what I know. I do truly love all beings, but I don’t love all the conditioning that’s in place. I understand how diabolical it truly is. It will tell you to remain selfish and hold on to the little self. Whenever I respond to someone it’s never about the person, it’s always about the conditioning and what’s best for humanity. Past conditioned energy is selfish and when one says something like I don’t want to be fixed, it’s not the person, it’s the conditioning in place making one say that. Everyone truly has the love in their heart to be free of their conditioning, but because it’s not understood how truly harmful and diabolical the Conditioned Mind is, it remains in control.

It breaks my heart to see a person unconsciously reinforce their own suffering, but there’s only so much me or anyone else can do. I understand it’s just the conditioning in place, but the selfish energy it locks one into is harmful to not only oneself, but to all of humanity. This isn’t even a choice for one to make and I get that, but it doesn’t stop compassion from arising for those who remain in their suffering. Someone responded to me saying they were in the process, and they are, but unfortunately if it’s the conditioned process, it’s the process of suffering. I cannot sit back and remain idle when I see this and although I know one will do what they do, when one’s life is by the Conditioned Mind, it truly breaks my heart because it locks one into their own suffering.

It’s often stated and many have a belief that God is love, but if this is truly investigated, it may be revealed that God needs the story of love to exist, but love doesn’t need the story of God to exist.

Mindfulness is of value because it helps one overcome their selfish nature. This is what I discovered was blocking the love of my heart from being the operating energy of my life. I don’t know how it was for anyone else, but this is what was revealed to me. Why it was this way I don’t really know, but I do know most of my life was selfishly lived trying to grasp pleasure at all cost to satisfy a self that didn’t exist in the way it was perceived. The only mindfulness there was in my life was how to get more things to provide pleasure so this misunderstood self could be satisfied. It wasn’t that the self didn’t exist, existence just wasn’t what I was conditioned to believe it was. It’s one of the reasons I don’t attach to beliefs today because I see them only as a story. It’s often stated and many have a belief that God is love, but if this is truly investigated, it may be revealed that God needs the story of love to exist, but love doesn’t need the story of God to exist. Check it for yourself and see this truth.

Being mindful of what’s actually happening now, minimizes the stories that are needed to make life the way you think it should be. Mindfulness stops the story of the way you think something should be and allows the freedom of the way it is, which becomes the view of the way it should be. After all wanting the present moment different than what it is is where all discontentment arises from. When one is simply mindful of what arises as it arises, there isn’t a need for a story and one’s selfish nature doesn’t come into play as the love of one’s heart naturally becomes the operating energy of their life.

Three Mental Factors 

Wisdom arises when one is fully mindful because the distractions of the unwholesome mental factors fall away, it’s in being fully mindful that the mind settles and allows one to truly see.

There are three mental factors in the way the minds view arises in each moment, wholesome, unwholesome, and neutral. The first description is the mental factor of the unwholesome view, this would be anything that leads to suffering. Wholesome mental factors are those that lead to peace and joy. The wholesome ones don’t need a belief to be true, they just needs to be investigated to see the truth of their wholesomeness. The third mental factor is probably the most difficult one because it’s strictly based in perception. It’s often confused with mindfulness. It’s neither wholesome or unwholesome, its neutral. It arises for everyone in the present moment and its function is to recognize a particular object. This mental factor interprets what arise by distinguishing the qualities of it, this is different for everyone. Think of a traffic light, whether it’s red, yellow or green, it doesn’t take a label to view and do what each color represents, there’s nothing inherently attached to any color, it just is. To some yellow means speed up, to others it means slow down, this is determined by one’s perception.

These three mental factors intertwine through mindfulness in some way. Ordinary attention, semi mindful (neutral) is like a cork in the ocean, it constantly wobbles. Focused mindfulness is like a rock, its has a non wobbling effect. Unwholesome mental factors arise and are attached to, although one is mindful of this to a degree because it is happening, it’s labeled and thus attached to basically unconsciously. It’s the focus of these mental factors that determine their effectiveness. Being fully mindful allows one to see, but without needing a label. Being neutral allows one to recognize (perceive) but not necessarily fully mindful. Wisdom arises when one is fully mindful because the distractions of the unwholesome mental factors fall away, it’s in being fully mindful that the mind settles which allows one to truly see. Wisdom isn’t something learned, it’s what arises when one is disciplined enough to remain fully mindful in the present moment more often than not.