This site has been created to expand and share on some of the insights that led to the writing of It's Monday Only in Your Mind: You Are Not Your Thoughts.

A Storied Crutch

A story is a crutch used to wish your life away as it keeps you from experiencing the present moment. It’s used as a crutch because what’s occurring right now is always what’s here as opposed to a story of needing the present moment different…

Many people think a story is something that’s needed, but it’s used strictly as a crutch by the Conditioned Mind and it keeps you from not understanding what it means to be in the present moment. It’s a direct cause of suffering as it makes you believe it’s something that’s needed by making you live life in the in the past or future. How the Conditioned Mind does this is by creating a story that the present moment isn’t good enough and it needs to be different if you want to be happy. It projects a lie that things would be better if they were in some other way and maybe on the surface they would be, but inward is where one derives the perception that makes life what it is; life will be of suffering or of contentment. Even if the story of what is created comes true, it won’t last especially when it’s on the surface. Inward there is a slight better chance for it to have a lasting affect, but this is only if you’re awake enough to not create a story.

Let’s say you’re diagnosed with some kind of illness, the only thing a story does is it makes you wish the diagnoses was different, but it doesn’t change the fact of what is occurring right now. The illness remains regardless of what story is created. If your life isn’t storied to be different and it’s accepted as it is, you will experience the peace of the present moment and this is regardless of what’s occurring. By the way, the present is where all stories and wishes come true because it’s the only place that truly exists. So my story for all beings is that this is seen, not in the future, but right now because right now doesn’t need a story because it exist without one…

No Real Struggle

The only time there’s a struggle with life is when it’s made to be a struggle, this only occurs when the Conditioned Mind is in control. The mind will settle when the quality of acceptance is developed…

Your struggles are neither with life nor with people or circumstances so who does that leave you with but yourself, this is who the struggle is always with. I’m not saying that some of the things that happen are easy to accept, but the struggle is still within yourself. Sometimes it just doesn’t seem like life is fair, that it shouldn’t be so difficult, but again this struggle is only because of your view, not because of life. The view (conditioning) of how things are is what causes you to struggle as it’s simply what goes on between you ears, this is where any so called struggles manifest. There’s a need to allow the mind to be present so it can settle down and focus on what is actually occurring instead of creating a struggle.

At times it’s as if there’s one thing after another, but there really isn’t, it’s just the Conditioned Mind making up a story. Each moment is independent of itself so it has nothing to do with any other moment unless it’s made so. When this is understood tools can be developed so this happens less and less. Peace is directly linked to how much control your conditioning has over you. If there wasn’t conditioning you wouldn’t be controlled and there would be total peace. For me this is the path I must learn to stay on and head in the direction of peace. Peace is already there, but it’s needed to learn not to allow the Conditioned Mind to block it from your view. The more the view is in the present moment, the more peace there is because the view to peace isn’t being blocked. The only reason life is ever a struggle is because it’s allowed. It’s up to you to change the conditioning that blocks you from understanding you’re already at peace and the key to this is to see that life really isn’t the struggle that the Conditioned Mind makes it out to be…

Phenomenon of Memory

Understanding the phenomenon of memory and how it constantly uses pleasure is very important in breaking the chains of bondage; it’s the attachment to “I” that makes one only remember what’s pleasurable…

The phenomenon of memory and constantly using it to bring things of pleasure into the present is simply that, a phenomenon. Although this happens without it being realized, when it is realized it changes everything. Memory of how things truly are gets distorted in a way because they are seen through the conditioning that’s in place. This conditioning mostly manifest in constantly seeking pleasure. Think of this, when someone dies nobody says the person was an SOB. What’s usually said borders on making the individual a saint and that’s even if when the person was alive they were an SOB. This is the memory phenomenon that’s in place and until it’s realized, your life is spent constantly pulling in pleasurable memories. The mind doesn’t like unpleasant memories so it uses pleasurable ones, regardless if they really happened or not. This is also part of the survival instinct engrained in us. Even those who remember painful events, they’re still used to find pleasure, even if it’s to just push them away, hence this is why one reaches outside themselves for comfort.

Nobody reaches for anything for any other reason except to provide themselves comfort, but in this comfort seeking is so much unconscious suffering; comfort and pleasure go hand in hand. Understanding the phenomenon of memory is very important in breaking the chains of bondage because it’s the attachment to “I” that makes you only remember what’s pleasurable; even to the point of its own destruction “I” seeks pleasure. Just look in any rehab or detox, every drug or drink of alcohol that’s ever taken has the lure of pleasure associated with it or it wouldn’t have been reached for. This isn’t limited to just those substances, this goes for anything that’s reached for. The mind defaults to what’s familiar as it uses the memory of pleasure as its lure and until this is realized you will continue to pull in the memory of pleasure, even if it didn’t happen the way you remember it did…

Attachments Outcome

The more controlled you are by your thoughts the more severe the outcome will be, with the outcome being determined by how much of a hold the attached thoughts have over you…

Problems with attachment don’t occur when you’re busy, although thoughts still randomly arise non stop, but because of the busyness there isn’t much attachment to them. Attachment arises when you’re doing the daily mundane tasks that don’t take much focus, like sitting in traffic, shopping, watching tv, eating, doing yard work, lying on a beach, etc. In this state of semi idleness if you’re unaware when a thought arises, there’s nothing to distract you from becoming attached to it because the mind has no focus; this opens the door for attachment to occur.

Let’s say you’re at home relaxing, all of a sudden a thought arises to have a beer, substitute the beer with something more suited to your conditioning. There’s not much of an outcome from one beer, but the outcome for six is different. The more controlled you are by a thought, the more the affected outcome. Because so much of the thought process is to provide pleasure, there’s nothing this pleasure seeking (which is the bondage of “I”) can’t make worse. Understanding this is priceless if you’re ever to be free from attaching to your thoughts. If it’s not understood, your own Conditioned Mind will continue to create attachments. Without the awareness of this and with no tools in place to prevent it, not much thought is a given to what the outcome of your attachments will be…

Emotions of “I”

Emotions aren’t created and can’t rule you if “I” isn’t the focus. This concept of “I” is the operating system behind emotions so when “I” isn’t reacting to the outside circumstances of life, there is peace…

Emotions are something that most people don’t give much thought to. The experts will say they’re needed, but if I followed the text book nonsense of the experts I would be dead. The turning point in learning about emotions was seeing how although they may manifest in different ways, they all arise from the core of “I”. What was revealed to me is that there’s a created “I” that gets tied into our emotions in many ways. The concept of this sense of “I” is the operating system behind our emotions. These emotions are tied into how we see ourselves. For instance guilt arises when something is done that “I” considers bad or wrong. Anger arises when “I” is hurt in some way. Fear arises when “I” is threatened. Sadness arises when “I” is disappointed, and on an on. All these emotions arise because of very different circumstances, but this is as far as most people get when it comes to understanding emotions.

The way I investigated emotions is not in how they were different, but what they all had in common, this was where my focus centered. What this led me to see was there’s one common source of every emotion and that source is the concept of “I”. Emotions can’t rule you if an “I” isn’t created. Please investigate this for yourself, don’t listen to anyone and their view, develop your own. I said earlier that my emotions would have killed me because there was a tendency when reacting to things emotionally to use things that were self destructive. It’s not this way today because I’ve learned somewhat (nobody’s perfect) not to attach to an “I” that gives my emotions life. When there’s not this “I” reacting to the outside circumstances of life, there’s much more balance to remain at peace and not act in ways that is self sabotaging.

Gauging Your Practice

Gauging and learning from a practice allows for those who were once lost to possibly now be found and those who were once blind to possibly now see, but only if there’s a practice in place that allows this…

If there’s not some kind of practice in place so your can gauge your behavior, it will be difficult to proceed in a direction where there will be any expansion in your life. The first thing to gauge is if you even have a practice in place that’s practical and beneficial. I don’t mean the practice of belonging to certain groups, although there’s nothing wrong with that, but if it’s in place to just keep you busy, it’s not really a beneficial practice. Although it is a practice, the gauge of how it is working to quiet the mind or how it keeps the mind agitations at bay is what one needs to be aware of to allow for the continuous expansion of life’s process. I’m sharing this because this is what has allowed me to be as I am today. There’s no magic to this, a beneficial practice has to be in place if one is to experience beneficial results, this is as simple as two times two equals four.

Gauge your behavior, reactions, attachments, annoyances, and whatnot and see what is the driving force behind them. This driving force is your block to expanding beyond the nonsense of the Conditioned Mind. Without a solid practice in place that allows this to be seen, you might as well not practice at all because it’s just a waste of time and energy. Either do it so it’s beneficial or don’t do it at all. You can only be free by being free and only a practice that puts you in harmony with life allows harmony with life, to me this makes sense. I practiced wrongly (unknowingly) for many years and it produced results that weren’t beneficial, but I’ve gauged and learned from this and because of it, where I was once lost, I’m now found and where I was once blind, I now see, but only because of having a practice in place that allows this…

The Comfort Story

Until you can be with life as it is without needing it comfortable, a comfort story disguised as truth will continue its control and unfortunately so will the suffering of constantly needing to reach for comfort…

Just because you think something that doesn’t mean it’s necessarily associated with truth. It may be associated with what is thought to be truth, but upon further investigation it’s probably just a made up story providing you with a comfort of the way you think things should be. We use the story of helping others in this way, but it’s really in place to pat ourselves on the back because we make up the story that helping others is a good thing; we get comfort out of anything labeled as a good thing. We use God in this way to strictly provide comfort, nothing more; like there’s really something out there that cares about what you do. All these made up comfort stories block you from seeing the truth of what is really going on. If a story is being used to make up what truth is, I guarantee you it’s not truth, it’s only a story that’s providing comfort.

Truth is not something to know. It can’t be defined adequately with words because it’s only seen when the mind is settled. When you judge someone regardless of what they do, you are applying a story (your version of truth) of how you think they should be. This is the same with life situations, and these judgements are only there to provide yourself with the comfort of the way you think things should be. Life is always as it is and until you can just be with it instead of always wanting it in a way that provides comfort, truth will never be experienced. Thus your story of comfort (a made up version of truth) will continue its control and unfortunately so will the suffering of constantly needing to make up a comfort story…