This site has been created to expand and share on some of the insights that led to the writing of It's Monday Only in Your Mind: You Are Not Your Thoughts.

Space of Awareness

Everything arises from the space of silence, but not everything’s heard from the space of awareness. Freedom from the known can happen, but only when it’s learned how to truly listen from the space of awareness…

It matters little what noise arises, but how you listen does matter in the sense if it comes from the space of awareness. There’s all kinds of noise around most of the time, but what’s mostly heard is labeled from impulses and opinions. Freedom from the known can happen, but only when it’s learned how to truly listen, and you can only listen when you’re in the space of awareness; this is when you’ll truly hear. This space of awareness arises from silence, there’s nothing to think about in this space. A dog barking, a car beeping its horn, a helicopter, a waterfall, the ocean, all sounds can be heard and as with any sound they can annoy you or the can anchor you in the present moment. There’s so much noise that goes on in between your ears, but it has nothing to do with the sounds that are around you.

Everything arises from the space of silence, but not everything’s heard from the space of awareness. As I was sitting in my backyard the other day, listening and watching the birds, the neighbors son came out to play basketball in his yard, he also preceded to play his music very loud to where my serenity was disturbed. I immediately took a deep breath and realized that although I was enjoying the birds, I wasn’t in the space of awareness. If I was when the sound changed to what arose from the silence, in this case my neighbors music, there wouldn’t have been a disturbance. One deep breath showed me this as it allowed me to be in the space of awareness to the sounds that were there in the present moment instead of the mind agitation of the way my impulses and opinions wanted it…

United by Love Podcast

The most recent episode of my podcast: United by Love https://anchor.fm/michael-cupo/episodes/United-by-Love-ea7msi

If you keep allowing the past thoughts to become entangled in the present, your life will be very unstable. This is because all the emotional pain of your entangled past will control the present…

The amount of times that you relive something that causes emotional pain is mind boggling because it’s your own entangled thoughts that do this and it probably happens thousands of times throughout your life. This is why most people suffer endlessly because what happened in the past becomes entangled in thought and is constantly brought into the present; although the body is always in the present moment, your entangled thoughts constantly in the past. This is the entangled state most people live their life from and if nothing is done to change this, it will continue until your existence ends. This isn’t a philosophy or theory nor is it something I made up, you need only look at this for yourself to see this truth, but If you don’t look at it you will most likely remain entangled in your thoughts with no way out.

As a species we are lost and entangled because looking at ourselves in an investigative way is not something that many people are willing to do. It’s so much easier to remain entangled and point the finger at someone else, but unfortunately when you point your finger at someone there are three pointing back at you; check this to see its truth. You can ignore this and hope the entangled thoughts will work everything out or you can take control of your life, at least to some extent and stop attaching to the entangled thoughts that cause your own suffering. After all the same entangled thoughts constantly arise so if they’re not attached to them eventually they’ll stop and so will the repeated entangled emotional suffering they cause…

Now Completeness

Cling to nothing and nothing will be needed. Imagine not needing to cling to anything to be happy, joyous, and free with the understanding your completeness is always Now…

Without the inner silence of Now you will not be mindful that you are creating stories. Even this writing is a story of how not to create stories, but being mindful of writing helps me to minimize the clinging to it and thus once it’s written it’s time to move on. If it’s the end of the story or not depends on how “I“ relates it to its identity. The more “I” needs it for an identity, the more “I” clings to it and the more a needed story is created. No clinging, no needed story, no needed story, no discontentment of what isn’t so all you are left with is what’s here Now, not the story of Now, but Nows actual reality.

Story after story. The story of how I feel, or the story of reading another book, or a life story, every life is an endless book of stories, that is until one becomes mindful that the story teller and the story are one in the same. Being here Now instead of a creating a story will be the most difficult thing you will ever do in life; just be in the silence of what’s here. Cling to nothing and nothing will be needed. Imagine that, not needing anything to be happy, joyous, and free with the understanding your completeness already is. It‘s right here within your grasp, but you will never truly be mindful of it until you realize it’s not a story that needs clinging to, it’s learning to simply be here Now…

Changing Your Conditioning

If anything is ever going to change in your life, the conditioning in place will have to change. This will only happen when there’s awareness the conditioning isn’t providing the most beneficial results…

When something is conditioned it will do certain things because it has to, whether it wants to or not; it has to do what it has been conditioned to do. Our mind becomes conditioned in this way and unless this is changed or at least noticed to some degree, it will remain conditioned. It’s imperative to understand this so first the conditioning in place can be identified and second so the conditioning that may not be serving you in the most beneficial way can be changed. The conditioning that ran my life for many years was a self serving one and after a long period of time (forty nine years to be exact), I realized the conditioning was not really benefitting me or anyone else for that matter. This realization was the beginning stages for the possibility of the conditioning to change. This will take some effort because of how ingrained the conditioning is, but the effort is more so about awareness than an actual exertion to get rid of it.

Once you become aware there may be other conditioning to live by, the process of changing it begins. This is difficult because part of the original conditioning is to hold onto the familiar even if it’s not providing much benefit. This is how the dog chasing its tail syndrome remains in place; to the point of its own destruction. The Conditioned Mind has many tools and influences it uses, some inner some outer, it’s just part of the conditioning. This is why when a person acts in a particular way they are accountable, but aren’t really responsible for what they do. If anything is ever going to change in your life, the conditioning in place will have to change which will only happen when there’s awareness the conditioning isn’t providing you with the most beneficial results…

No True Difference Podcast

Listen to the most recent episode of my podcast: No True Difference https://anchor.fm/michael-cupo/episodes/No-True-Difference-ea5hc7

Without recognition of the routines that are formed, one is blindly controlled by them. They say it’s time to jump and the only thing you can do is jump and if you are really attached, you will blindly ask how high…

If you want to understand your mind you will need to sit and observe it. Whatever you think and ponder upon that is what becomes the base of your mind and hence this is what becomes your routine actions. If there is no sitting, there’s very little chance for the mind to settle so it won’t be observed. As a routine is formed it becomes second nature, there’s very little observation in this mind activated action. These routine actions are different for everyone, but they are common at their root. They all arise in some way from the desire to seek pleasure. It matters little what one uses to fulfill this pleasure seeking routine and because there’s very little awareness of this, it’s in control of you. There needs to be an understanding that your actions become a routine that become ingrained by what you think. This is what determines whether your actions are wholesome (loving) or unwholesome (selfish). Simply put, loving actions should be cultivated so they become routine.

If there isn’t any sitting to allow the mind to settle, an understanding of it will be difficult and so observing the routine patterns will not be recognized. Without recognition of these, you are blindly controlled by them. This is why things are done without hesitation that aren’t in our best interest. Without the ability to observe the thoughts that arise, one is like a puppet on a string. Sitting allows the mind to settle so there can be an observation of this and one by one the puppet strings can be cut. If nothing is in place to allow this settling, the Conditioned Mind puppeteer will continue to control and you will blindly and without hesitation do things routinely that aren’t in your best interest or what’s best for others…