This site has been created to expand and share on some of the insights that led to the writing of It's Monday Only in Your Mind: You Are Not Your Thoughts.

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About the Author

I grew up in Newark, New Jersey, one of six children. I have been married for 22 years. I own a home, and I have two children. I have been at the same job for 24 years. I am the happiest I have ever been and it is all because of the Love that has always been in my life. I attribute all that has happened to me to that Love. None of what has transpired in the last five years of my life has anything to do with any accomplishments on my part.

There was always a lot of love in our home as I grew up, but for reasons unknown to me at the time I was always in trouble. I was at the top of my brother-in-law’s “Who My Sister Shouldn’t Marry” list. I drank alcoholically, gambled, abused drugs and painkillers. I bounced from relationship to relationship. Even after I stopped abusing alcohol and drugs in 1987, my so-called outer troubles stopped, but my self-centered behavior never changed. All I did was substitute one compulsion for another. Although my addiction became more respectable—taking the form of material possessions—I was still trapped, migrating restlessly from one obsession to another.

I went to Twelve Step meetings, derived some benefit from them, and then fell away. My loved ones got me into de-tox and rehab programs. But once I was released, the cycle of insatiable craving started all over again. This cycle seemed to work for me . . . until it didn’t. And then my life changed — not instantly or magically, but profoundly.

I share this change in It’s Monday Only in Your Mind: You Are Not Your Thoughts. I discovered that I wasn’t dependent upon a substance or activity, but ruled by my ego. My need to reach outside myself for fulfillment was created by a false perception of deficiency. If this sense of lack didn’t exist in me, there wouldn’t have been a need to reach and grasp.

My credentials for writing this book are simply that I live this change each day. My view of life is so different from the way it used to be. Through the practice outlined in my book, I have learned to quiet my mind enough to allow my heart to open. The quieter my mind becomes, the more Love becomes the default setting of my life. This is truly a modern-day miracle, a miracle that can happen to anyone who has the urge to change.

Comments on: "About" (10)

  1. Paul Oldford said:

    I can, and do, completely relate to your background piece.

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  2. Hi Michael..

    I’ve been struggling my whole life with one addiction or another. I have more books (including yours) on spiritualaliy /buddhism etc. than I care to admit. I’ve been drawn to this path for years but still I struggle with drugs the same way I have for years. It’s so frustrating!

    Thank you for your daily emails. They mean a lot to me.

    Scott

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    • Let’s set up a phone conversation. It won’t cost you anything, you have nothing to lose.

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      • Scott Hay said:

        Hi Michael

        I’m so sorry. I never saw your reply. I get your daily email and never bothered to check back on the site after I wrote you. : )

        Thank you for replying! I would love to talk sometime…thank you so much. I can’t live like this any more. Your posts are so spot on about everything I’m going through. As much as I want to stop doing what I’m doing…I know it’s almost impossible once my mind tells me it’s time to go!

        Sometimes it gets too much and then Im off and running again. A vicious circle to say the least!

        Thank you!
        Scott Hay
        781 248 5043

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  3. Ok, I will call you in a while and we’ll go from there…

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  4. Comment for the post on Doing Nothing ..April 2018 …sorry dont have a facility for commenting on your Facebook posts…….but Loved this post and see it is so true …the minds agitations which keep most people busy and looking outward because we wsnt pleasant feelings and can’t seem to bear or look at anything which the conditioned mind deems as unpleasant ……having seen the worth in Theravadan Buddhism for a long time, I do spend extended periods of time at such monasteries …here there is a discipline which one freely takes which greatly helps to still the mind …at such a place the opportunities to go out of oneself for sensual pleasure are much limited …so one having no or much less escape routes, has to look inward …and in doing do the mind calms down and one is more able to see the conditioned patterns in the mind and let go of them ….and it does …i my experience take great diligence and effort …..I welcome such places as they make the task a lot easier …and the peace one feels there is tangible …as people practicing let go of their conditioning, what is left is love ….which can be felt ….

    May all find a way out
    of the suffering caused by the minds conditioning …..

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