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Attribute of Love

To be imperfect is human, to be of love is perfectly Universal, so when one lives from the hearts intention to love there’s alignment with the Universe and all that is done is an attribute of love…

Regardless of the story that one makes up, most of what is done in life is to satisfy self and when one dies it goes to the grave or urn with the individual. There are things that will be left behind and how they will be remembered is determined by the intention of the heart’s attribute of the love. This isn’t something that can be manufactured; love is natural and always genuine. It comes from the heart and whenever something is done from the heart it is an attribute of love because it touches people; maybe not all people, but that’s mostly because of the Conditioned Mind. If something is done from the heart and one out of a hundred people has issue with it, the issue is with the one not with what is done.

One day all of what one has done in this life will come to pass. Everything left behind matters little in what is said and done, but the things done from our hearts intention to love do matter and although what we say and do may not always be agreed with, as long as what’s done is from an intention of the heart, it will be an attribute of love. To be imperfect is a human trait, but love is Universal so when we live from an intention of the heart there’s alignment with the Universe and all that is done is attributed to love. This is because when what is done is from the intention of a heart of love it touches others whether it’s agreed with or not…

Extend Your Dash

To live your life to the fullest is to be aware of each moment as it is. In each moment you can at least relinquish some control of the Conditioned Mind by being aware of what is truly occurring…

It’s amazing how quickly the days go by. It seems like it’s the morning and before you know it it’s nighttime. All the stuff that goes on in between just seems like a blur, and one day just like that when some condition happens which doesn’t support life anymore, it’s over. On most gravestones there’s usually the date life begins and the date life ends, in between those dates there’s a dash; the dash is our life. Much occurs in between those dates, but it goes so fast; the dash is the sum total of what occurs.

The question is how can we slow down life? I don’t really think this is possible, but there can be more awareness of what is truly going on. The more awareness there is the better chance there is of living it to the fullest. Maybe we can extend our dash to be more in line with something like this ———- instead of this – lol. To me it seems the more awareness I have of my emotional state the less life controls me and the less I think about how fast it goes by. Emotions are tied into the state of being and the state of being is tied into how quickly it seems life goes by. When emotions are stable so is one’s state of being and with a stable state of being there’s more awareness of the dash. Life goes by regardless of one’s state of being, but at least it will seem to go a little slower when there’s awareness of what’s occurring as opposed to living in a state of unconsciousness. In a state of unconsciousness, by the time that you awaken it may be to late to extend your dash because the day that life ends my not be far behind…

Silenced Awakening

When words are used to try and convince someone that a certain way to live is right, it’s of the ego. A true testament to any awakening is demonstrated in silence because silence is what one awakens to…

Social media is a useful tools that can be used to connect with people and assist each other where years ago people were basically on their own, as far as interaction was concerned. Books were always available, but books limit your expansion to what’s written because you only learn what the content that’s presented in the book. It’s very difficult for the expansion of the mind through knowledge alone. It’s why I find social media so comical at times because of some of the content of the things that are written, they’re as limited as the content of a book. People throw phrases around like the words really mean something, well they do but only to a Conditioned Mind.

You see if the mind wasn’t conditioned the need for defining phrases wouldn’t be needed. Take the phrase “there is no self” when this phrase is explained by someone, who is it that’s explaining it. It’s in trying to define that there’s no self that one enforces a self. When there’s an awareness that there’s no explaining necessary to try and convince anyone of a correct way, it’s then that real freedom from the bondage of self can be realized. Everyone’s way is correct in a way because it’s what’s provided to them and this is because no two people are provided with the same exact view.

The point of this post is to state words aren’t truly needed to define an awakening, no self, Nirvana, God, love, or whatever else one wants to use to define their great insightfulness which by the way are mostly made up by the Conditioned Mind. When true freedom is discovered it manifest as silence; words aren’t needed. The less one uses words to try and convince others that there’s a certain way to live the more the way is demonstrated to others; being an example of love needs no convincing…

Reap What is Sown

You will always reap what you sow. This has to be because it’s a Spiritual Law so if your behavior isn’t cultivated from the heart, it will not be the behavior exhibited…

The mind may know on an intellectual level that one should be acting from love, but if love is not cultivated from the heart, it will not be the behavior exhibited; this is the meaning of “The road to hell is paved with good intentions”. Your head tells you one thing and your heart tells you something else, they aren’t in sync. There may be intention to act out of love, but with limited resources it’s not i’ll difficult to follow through with loving intention; hence we mean well, but we don’t act well. This is a major cause of the struggle with life. We think we need to do the next right thing but the necessary resources aren’t cultivated, so we don’t even know what the next right thing truly is. We may think we know in our head what we need to do, but it isn’t developed enough so we don’t behave from our source of love. This is difficult to accept, but once it is accepted you will be able to understand what needs to be done to listen to your heart and get your head out of the way.

Love is not something manufactured. It emanates from the depths of the heart when the necessary practice is done that allows it to arise. It will not arise unless you do what allows it to arise. From Jesus, to Buddha, and all the great mystics, they are touched by God because they are the ones who are doing the necessary touching. The Father of all creation always is, we are not. So it is up to each one of us to go to the Father in love so we can be touched by that love in return and maybe, just maybe we will be able to act out of love, like Jesus, Buddha, and all the other great mystics did and like them reap what is sown…

Appropriate Action/Results

When the action is appropriate so will the results be appropriate. The results cannot be loving if the action is based in ego. Loving action determines the results will be loving…

You can only be drawn in by something that you consider real and you make something real by labeling it; the title given something is what sets it in concrete. Take someone with the title “boss” all they are is another human who is in charge of something. They can never be in charge of a person’s mind unless that person allows it and if they think they can control people all kinds of dysfunctional behavior ensues. When a connection to people is lost the connection to life is lost. I pity the person who thinks they are in charge of others because their existence is a living hell.

A true leaders is one who loves. You can have all the knowledge the world offers, but without people you know nothing. People make the world what it is and it will be that way when we are long gone. It is truly a shame what we are experiencing in life at this time. The dissension individuals can cause to disrupt the lives of so many is astonishing; to say the least. To see disdain and hatred aroused in people is saddening, it is the true essence of unconsciousness.

There are many lessons in all of this although it’s never pleasing to learn in this manner, but at times it’s the only way that anything can be taken from a situation to make it useful. Only love changes, well not really because even chaotic behavior changes things, but only love changes things for the betterment of all those involved. When something is of love this is an appropriate action which results in an appropriate reality…

Love Based

There’s always a base from where life is basically lived from and this base determines if the energy emitted to the world is truly from love or from the way one thinks the world should be…

For years the base of my life was anchored in self serving energy, this didn’t leave much room for anyone else to be served so to say the least my life was always filled with drama and chaos. This is what a base anchored in self serving energy produces; it has to because that’s the nature of self serving energy. No one is truly at fault for this base, it’s basically in place because it’s the way of the world. There are so many bases anchored in this self serving energy and it’s the cause of every conflict that has ever occurred since the beginning of humanity.

Ever so slowly bases of love are being established and those with this anchor are making the worlds energy different. The only way things will become different in the world is one base at a time that’s anchored in love. A base in love is one of quietness, it’s not a made up anchor where you have to constantly defend that your based energy is the way. True love needs no defending because it’s in unity with all of life regardless of what someone else’s base is anchored in. If for some reason you’re in conflict with someone, your base is not of love, it can’t be because that’s not how love rolls; it never ever has conflict because it’s energy doesn’t allow it. Love simply loves and isn’t dependent on being loved. Take care of your base and make sure you allow everything and everyone to be as they are because that’s when you will truly be aligned with love and the world will be different because of it…

Present Moment View

Viewing life where the focus is the past or future is as though one is blind. The Conditioned Mind makes you think you see, but it’s only in the present moment that the puppeteer strings of the past and future are severed…One string at a time…

There are so many benefits living in the present moment as compared to living in the past or future, it’s amazing that this isn’t realized by more people. If it was the world would be so different because greed, hate, and delusion would not exist. This would occur naturally because when one lives in the present moment, most of if not all the nonsense of the Conditioned Mind also wouldn’t exist; at least this has been my experience. There’s very little attachment in the present moment and to be without attachment is to be without burden. Life still happens in the present moment, but without attachment it’s allowed to be as it is; without the need for nonsense.

This shouldn’t be mistaken for not caring because there’s much more compassion living in the present moment than living in the past or future; the nonsense is recognized for what it truly is so this produces less unnecessary reactions. It’s a little baffling why the present moment isn’t everyone’s default way to live because living in the past or future isn’t beneficial in any way. It’s the cause of why there’s so much greed, hate, and delusion in the world, and yet the past and future are blindly clung to. It’s unfortunate that living in the present moment is so fleeting, but until the outside reaching for things isn’t needed, the present will not be experienced; only the nonsense of the past and future will be experienced. Outside circumstances will continue their onslaught of control and the past and future will remain as your puppeteers. Only in the present can true freedom be experienced and what that freedom manifest as is in no more attachment or clinging to a self that only see things through the view of the past or future…

Love of Jesus

You cannot act out of love if love isn’t what you are cultivating. It’s we who need to do the necessary practice so we can clear the way to become touched by the love that Jesus showed us…

The other day I was talking to someone who acted in a way he wasn’t pleased with. What he said to me is, he would have liked to have acted more loving like Jesus. My response to this person was unless you are practicing the way Jesus did, there is no way you can act like him. Occasionally I see a bumper sticker that says WWJD “What Would Jesus Do” but you cannot do what Jesus would do if you are not practicing what Jesus practiced. And what did Jesus practice, he submitted to the Father (love) in prayer and meditation ceaselessly; this allowed the Father energy to make unconditional love the base of his life.

If you practice like Jesus maybe you can act more like him or in times of difficulty when you ask WWJD you will have the necessary tools to behave in the manner of Jesus, but don’t expect it to happen on its own because you can only act in the way you have practiced; whether its done consciously or unconsciously. Acting from the love that Jesus exhibited is available to us all, but it can only happen when our entire being is given to follow the Father which is love. This is what a spiritual journey entails, love has to be its base for it to be genuine. Give a little, receive a little, not many are willing to give their entire life over to the energy of the Father of love, just realize this if you don’t there’s no way you can act in the ways that Jesus acted…

Inner Agitation

All agitations arise from within your inner questions. Without discipline the mind that’s full of questions won’t have any answers provided so you will have to look externally and constantly be agitated…

All agitations are ego based because they come from the Conditioned Mind. If you’re agitated with what’s written here that arises from within you, the words don’t cause it. It doesn’t matter if you agree with this or not, just understand if there’s an agitation it comes from within you, not from what’s written. Oh how we love to point at others for our own self created agitations, but the only reason this is so is because of the lack of understanding of your own mind.

Nothing causes an agitation unless it’s allowed. If you can change something by all means change it, but if it’s being changed just because you don’t like it, it needs to be looked at why there’s an agitation to begin with because even if the thing is changed, you will just move on to the next thing that will cause you to become agitated once again.

Everything that I have come to understand over the last thirteen years has arisen from within myself. It has been through the practice of discipline that real answers have arisen directly from my own inner questions. I can’t have anyone else’s answers because the one who questions is the one who has the answers. I do not have your answers because I do not have your questions; everyone has their own questions to answer. Truth is the same for all beings, but how we come to its understanding is from the questions within ourselves. When one sits in stillness, revealed are answers to our questions, this is when agitations with yourself and with the world will be no more…

Flower Stillness

A flower doesn’t make itself grow. In the Spring it arises from stillness and in the fall it returns to its idleness. This occurs naturally from its own stillness; it needs no assistance…

When the stillness of a flower is seen as life itself and not as the flower, at this point the flower is truly seen. Through the flower is how you will begin to understand your own existence. When there’s awareness of the stillness within you will truly see yourself; this is when life begins to be seen as it is. It will be in this awareness of stillness that the stillness of the the flower will be understood. Enjoy your life, but the joy is not in the things of life, joy is in the experiences of stillness; conditioning produces noise, stillness produces joy. That which most seek to enjoy is noise, joy cannot be attained because it’s already there within you and you cannot attain that which you already possess; this will only be known when there is stillness.

Find a place to sit where it’s quiet, sit and be mindful of each breath, not you breathing in and out, but how each breath occurs on its own. Sit with this mindfulness, watch how many breaths can be counted before the mind wanders. I get to about fifty and no matter how hard I concentrate the mind wanders; when I began doing this six was the number. This is one method used in developing stillness discipline. When you know what noise is, it will be known what stillness is. Just watch the flower, don’t label it just watch it, the flower never labelled itself; through the stillness it arises. It never consciously did anything, from the stillness of the Universe it appeared. In stillness is where all of life arises from because stillness itself is life; just go ask the flower…

Worldly Limits

When worldly methods are used as a means to live by there will be a one view limitation set by the content provided, but when the mind settles a second view of simply what’s in front of you is provided with limitless content…

When worldly methods are conformed to this leaves only one way to see life,. Those methods are so restricted and limiting it’s really a wonder we as a species are still around. We think by studying and reading books we become knowing, but the only thing one knows by using these worldly methods is what the content of the book is. If the book isn’t totally correct or only has partial facts about a subject that will be what’s learned. People get degrees because the content of a book is memorized. These worldly methods are used to create experts by the worlds standards, but this method produces a limited view of the way life is seen; the limit being whatever the content of a book is.

We have wars against each other, we fight with each other all the time and mostly about nonsense; there is little unity in our world. Everyone thinks they are right because of what the books say, but the books just fill one’s head with noise. This noise is the only version of reality that will ever be seen unless the mind becomes quiet enough to allow a second version of reality to be seen.

What happens when the mind settles, it allows for two versions of reality to be seen. One is the reality of the made up stories of the Conditioned Mind and the other is the reality of seeing what’s in front of you because it’s what’s there. Both realities are from the same mind, but the latter will not be an option until the mind settles. When this occurs and the reality of a second view is seen, the limitations provided by the worldly methods fall by the way side. This is when you will go beyond the limited view of the world to see the limitless view of what’s in front of you…

Storyless Peace

The only way you will ever be truly at peace is without the story that something other than this moment will provide peace. When this is understood so to will your peace be understood…

Everyone has a story, no one goes through life storyless, but the story really isn’t the issue, issues arise when the story becomes your controlling energy. A few years ago my mom was sick so I wrote the story of my mom not doing well, how that affects me is how I make it my story, but it isn’t my story, it’s just what was happening. Since there are five siblings in my family, we all have a different version of the mom story, none are the right or wrong one, they’re just what each one of perceives.

Here’s why any story creates an issue, someone posted how happy they were that in a few days they were going on vacation; this means right now they’re not happy. Although this seems innocent, it’s not because this simple statement blocks out truly living life and being at peace with right now. This is the issue a story creates, it doesn’t allow you to be with the fullness of the life you’re actually living in this moment. It’s always when this or that happens, fill in your own story………. I will be at peace, but that story is your block to your freedom. The only way you will ever truly be at peace is without the story that something other than this moment will provide peace; when this is understood so will your peace be understood…without a story…

Becoming Aware

Becoming aware and learning from your practice allows for those who were once lost to now be found and those who were blind to now see, but only if there’s awareness that allows this…

If there’s not an awareness process in place for your practice, it will be difficult to proceed in a direction where there will be any expansion in your life. The first thing to become aware of is if you even have a practice in place that’s practical and beneficial. I don’t mean a practice of belonging to certain groups, although there’s nothing wrong with that, but if it’s in place to just keep you busy, it’s not really a beneficial practice. Although it is a practice, how it’s working to quiet the mind or how it keeps the mind agitations in place is what one needs to be aware of to allow for the continuous expansion of life’s process. I’m sharing this because this is what has allowed me to see what is seen today. There’s no magic to this, a beneficial practice has to be in place if one is to experience beneficial results, this is as simple as one plus one equals two.

Be aware of your behavior, reactions, attachments, annoyances, and whatnot and see what is the driving force behind them. This driving force is the block to expanding beyond the nonsense of the Conditioned Mind. Without a solid practice in place that allows this to be seen, you might as well not practice at all because it’s just a waste of time and energy. Either do what’s beneficial or don’t do it at all. One can only be free by being free as only a practice that puts you in harmony with life allows harmony with life. I practiced unconsciously for many years and it produced results that weren’t beneficial, but I’ve since become aware and learned from this and because of this, where I was once lost I’m now found and where I was blind I now see, but only because of having the awareness in place that allows this…

Prayers of Love

The nature of our prayers determines the energy manifested in our life. If they’re selfish in nature they’ll be from our head, but if they’re of love their results will be from the energy of our heart…

A quiet mind is a praying heart, “Thy will not mine be done” is the essence of prayer. When we transform our energy from the noise in our head to the love in our heart, this quality of energy has the transforming effect from destructive to loving. This can be done with something as simple as a deep breath. This is the true nature of prayer that can be used to keep our self-serving Conditioned Mind Patterns from controlling our life. The more we learn to use it, the more we will want to use it. “Praying ceaselessly” to me means being aware of your thoughts, understanding which ones are useful and letting go of the ones that are not. It’s rather simple, one will either do the things that are useful and beneficial to their life or one will not.

Everyone has a story of what love is, but love will only truly be known in silence. The more noise there is between one’s ears the less one lives from the love in their heart; not because one doesn’t want to love, but because one doesn’t know how to love. Love is not selective so if you don’t love everyone, you don’t love. Ether see this truth or remain in the created story of what love is. I’m not saying I know what love is, but I certainly know what love isn’t. Not because it was read in some book, but because it is the prayer of my heart and when one prays ceaselessly it’s from the heart and love is the energy that’s emitted to others…

Attached Thoughts

It’s imperative to learn to just be because even if what you do comes from a labeled place of love, this label produces the bondage of an attached thought which controls you like any other attached thought…

If you can’t watch your own thoughts to decipher which ones are truly beneficial, hold on because you’ll be taken on the roller coaster ride called life. Not that life does anything directly to anyone, but thoughts arise and they determine what kind of ride you will be on. Noticing the attached thoughts is essential if one is not be controlled by them. Thoughts are a natural part of life, they will arise. As far as I know there’s no way of controlling what thoughts arise, but I have found that noticing them allows for a split second hesitation that can be used to decipher whether or not the thought is beneficial; remember attachment to any thought causes suffering no matter how one labels it.

I often say the Conditioned Mind is diabolical and unless there’s some awareness of how controlling your thoughts actually are, they will and this has to happen control you as if you were a puppet on a string. So subtle is this control that even if you’re doing things that are labeled as loving, if these thoughts aren’t watched they will eventually control you; bondage is bondage regardless of what label is applied to the thought. This is why the Conditioned Mind is diabolical because of its subtleness in using whatever it can to remain in control. This is also why it’s imperative to learn how to just be because even if what you do comes from a labeled place of love, the bondage this produces is that of an attached thought which controls you like any other attached thought…