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The Most Beneficial Tools

Everyone uses the tools they think provide the most benefits or they wouldn’t develop them, but this doesn’t mean they are the most beneficial. If a tool is truly beneficial, it will never ever cause suffering to you or anyone else…

You can only use the tools you have developed to react to situations as they occur. Whatever ones you have developed to cope with life, whether it be alcohol, drugs, anger, programs, tobacco, getting tattoos, therapy, medication, suicide, cutting, fantasizing, success, wealth, meditation, mindfulness, greed, envy, false pride, religion, tv, politics, sex, food, and so on, you only use them because they’re thought to be the most beneficial tools you have. When the developed tools stop working, new ones will need to be developed that are deemed more beneficial. If no new ones are developed, the old ones will be used again and again; this equates to the dog chasing its tail syndrome.

You will know when you’re using the most beneficial tools because they will never cause you or anyone else suffering. What’s meant by a beneficial tool is reflected as love in the actions you manifest. If there is conflict within it will cause conflict with others, so something is awry. A beneficial tool will never cause conflict because that equates to suffering. The gauge to see if the tools being used are truly beneficial is in how much attachment you have to it. Attachment is the cause of all suffering so it’s a true gauge that can be used. Self investigation is also a tool, matter of fact every reaction you have is the result of a developed tool.

A beneficial tool will also never ever cause suffering to yourself or others, this is a fact. It can’t because it’s based in the quietness of love. Tools that are based in attachment to satisfy yourself cause suffering and this occurs regardless if you think the tool you are using is a beneficial tool. Love doesn’t attach or ever causes suffering, and nor will developed tools, as long as they are the most beneficial ones being used…

Pleasure Seeking Hunger

Although the pleasures of the world take on many forms, it’s the hunger of the mind that makes you seek them. This hunger can only be satisfied in stillness, because when the mind is still, the heart has no hunger…

The main aspect of the Conditioned Mind is how it’s in pleasure seeking mode most of the time. Even when you put yourself down, it’s a perverse form of pleasure. The mind wants to keep all the pleasure thoughts and discard the non pleasurable ones, it spends most of its time doing this. Whether it’s weaving in and out of traffic, only to catch a red light and have all the cars that you just passed pull up along side you, or doing something and asking yourself why did you do it, the reason any of this done is to satisfy strictly some form of pleasure. That your own mind questions why you do whatever it is that you do is how diabolical it is, but understand it’s only this way because of the way it has been conditioned.

The hunger of the pleasure seeking mode is not one which is in our best interest, but the Conditioned Mind doesn’t really care about that; that it’s in control is all it cares about. It makes you think seeking pleasure is a necessity, but when the mind starts to settle and loses its hold, you will see the fallacy of this. True pleasure is in stillness, not in things, and the pleasure of stillness is not the same pleasure that the world provides. The pleasure of the world is based in lies, the pleasure of stillness is based in truth. The hunger of seeking pleasure is of the world, this is the hunger the world creates, but it cannot ever be satisfied by the world. It’s only in stillness that this hunger will be satisfied, not because it’s given something, but because in stillness there’s no pleasure to satisfy so hunger never materializes…

“I” Addiction

If it wasn’t for the attachment to “I” that creates bondage, addiction would be non existent because the desire of an “I” self needing life to be in some other way would not exist…

Each day most of our waking hours are spent trying to arrange the day to the liking of “I”, the only problem with this is most of the day is wasted trying to arrange our day to the liking of “I”. This happens because we have been conditioned to believe there’s a needs for things to be different. This conditioning keeps the mind addicted to “I” which creates a constant need, and when the mind needs it will use whatever tools it has developed; not so much to quiet the need, but more so to distract from it. The distractions in this case manifest as “I” based Conditioned Mind Patterns that are constantly trying to arrange life by using whatever “I” deems necessary to satisfy itself.

If it wasn’t for the need to satisfy “I” the desire to want life to be in some other way which is caused by the mind of “I” wouldn’t exist. This need is the cause of the constant rearranging of life and it’s because of “I” needing life to be a certain way, but something would exist without the addiction to “I”, that would be peace; the peace of simply being because the addiction to “I” wouldn’t exist. If you don’t think this is true, it’s probably because of the addiction to “I” that’s not allowing your mind to settle so you can be aware of the peace that passes all understanding. Go beyond the desires brought on by “I” wanting things to be in some other way; until “I” doesn’t need, addiction remains so nothing ever changes…

Running From Yourself

To accept yourself as you are is your greatest relief because your only real misery is wanting you to be different. When it’s realized you’ve been running from yourself, you will be at peace…

When a person awakens the secrets of the Universe aren’t revealed as many would have you believe, what really happens is you stop running from yourself. The main attribute of not running from yourself isn’t figuring out what life is all about, it’s not being concerned with what life is all about. The running, searching, and reaching, ceases as it’s realized what you have been running from is yourself. It’s a great relief to accept yourself exactly as you are because the only real misery is wanting you to be in some other way. When this is seen the need to run subsides as does the need to be right, and the need for things to be different, especially yourself. This doesn’t mean you don’t move forward and make life more beneficial, but it’s done so in a way that it doesn’t cause the very suffering that you are trying to avoid. When you stop running from yourself, you stop reaching, this occurs naturally. I ran from myself for forty nine years and it nearly killed me.

To see that I was always running from myself was my awakening. It was revealed to me that I could stop and I was going to be okay. This is a beautiful place to experience, it’s the place where the peace that passes all understanding arises. It’s not a magical place for a select few, it’s a place where everyone’s heart dwells, you just have to stop running to experience it. The possibilities when you stop running are endless, there are no blocks here so your creativity arises. No one knows exactly what may arise, but I can tell you this, when you stop running, reaching for things stops and life is lived in the peaceful state of accepting yourself as you are; no more running needed…

Virtuous Results

The results that occur from living a virtuous life naturally puts you in alignment with the loving vibrations of the Universe. The seeds that you sow result in what everyone reaps…

Nothing has to be done for you to enjoy virtuous results, they arise simply from living in morally. The definition of virtuous is: having or showing high moral standards. When this is your direction, the results that naturally arise are love, compassion, kindness, understanding, non judgement, to name a few, you cannot be virtuous and have immoral results. The unpleasantries of existence will still occur, but the way they’re dealt with will not allow their suffering to overcome you. There will still be pain, heartache, loss of loved ones, but by living in a moral way, suffering will be much less than if immoral principles were in place. Planting certain seeds can only result in what’s planted, but those seeds will have to be cultivated for their results to occur; a seed only has potential.

Our virtuous qualities will have to be cultivated if they are to results in a moral life. Most people intuitively know what is moral and what is not, but if there’s difficultly in deciphering this, a great guide would be being moral is of love and immoral is of selfishness. The me me me mind doesn’t have many virtuous qualities or results attached to it. I always knew the difference between virtuous and immoral, but because of my conditioning being moral was beyond my capability. It was only when I began looking inward that my mind settled and there was awareness to see how immoral my behavior was; this occurred naturally as my mind settled. The more the mind settles the more virtuous are your actions and thus the more the results of those actions are of a moral quality…

A State of Awareness

Everything arises from silence, but not everything’s heard from a state of awareness. Freedom from the known can occur, but only when it’s understood how to truly listen in a state of awareness…

It matters little what you hear, but how you listen does matter in the sense if it heard from a state of awareness. Most of the time there’s all kinds of noise around us and most of it is labeled from our impulses and opinions. Freedom from the known can happen, but only when it’s learned how to truly listen, and you can only truly hear when you’re in a state of awareness. This state of awareness arises from silence, there’s nothing to think about in this state. A bird chirping, a car horn beeping, a helicopter, rain, the ocean, all sounds can be heard and as with any sound, they can annoy you or the can anchor you in the present moment. There’s so much noise that goes on in the head, but it has nothing to do with the sound being heard.

Everything arises from a state of silence, but not everything’s heard from a state of awareness. As I was sitting on my front porch the other day, listening to leaf blowers in the distance, the neighbor preceded to play his music very loud to where my so called serenity was disturbed. I immediately took a deep breath and realized that although I was enjoying the sounds of the moment I wasn’t in a state of awareness. If I was when the sound changed to my neighbors music, I wouldn’t have been disturbed by it. One deep breath showed me this, and it allowed me to be in a state of awareness to the sounds that were there in the present moment instead of the mind noise of my impulses and opinions of how I thought it should be…

Inner Conflict

All conflict arises from within your inner questions. Without discipline the mind that’s full of questions won’t have any answers provided so you will have to look externally and constantly blame others…

All conflicts are ego based because they come from the Conditioned Mind. If you’re in conflict with what’s written here, that arises from within you, the words don’t cause it. It doesn’t matter if you agree with this or not, just understand if there’s conflict that it comes from within you, not from what’s written. Oh how we love to blame others for our own self created conflicts, but the only reason this is so is because of the lack of understanding of our own mind.

Nothing causes conflict unless it’s allowed. If you can change something by all means change it, but if it’s being changed just because you don’t like it, it needs to be looked at why there’s a conflict to begin with because even if the thing is changed, you will just move on to the next thing that will cause you to become agitated and then in conflict once again.

Everything that I have come to understand over the last eleven years has arisen from within myself. It has been through the practice of discipline that real answers have arisen directly from my own inner questions. I can’t have anyone else’s answers because the one who questions is the one who has the answers. I do not have your answers because I do not have your questions. Everyone has their own questions to answer. Truth is the same for all beings, but how we come to its understanding is from the questions within ourselves. When one sits in stillness, revealed are answers to our questions, this is when conflict with yourself and with the world will be no more…