This site has been created to expand and share on some of the insights that led to the writing of It's Monday Only in Your Mind: You Are Not Your Thoughts.

Posts tagged ‘Inner Beauty’

Labyrinth of Thought

If you keep allowing the past to control the present the past will be where you live your life. Why this is unfortunate is because all of the emotional pain of the past will also be carried into the present…

The amount of times that you relive something that causes emotional pain is mind boggling because it’s your own mind that does this and it probably happens thousands of times throughout your life. This is why most people suffer endlessly because what happened in the past is constantly allowed into the present and although the body is always in the present moment, the mind is constantly somewhere else. This is the constant state most people live their life from and if nothing is done to change this, it will continue until existence in this form ends. This isn’t a philosophy or theory nor is it something I made up, you need only look at this for yourself to see this truth, but If you don’t look at it, you will most likely remain stuck in the labyrinth of your thoughts without a way out.

As a species we seem to be lost in a labyrinth and it’s because looking at ourselves in an investigative way is not something that many people are willing to do. It’s so much easier to point the finger at someone else, but unfortunately when you point your finger at someone there are three pointing back at you; check this to see its truth. You can ignore this and keep the story that everything will work out or you can take control of your life, at least to some extent and stop attaching to the thoughts that cause your own suffering. After all the same thoughts constantly arise and if they’re not attached to them eventually they’ll stop and so will the repeated emotional suffering they cause…

The Value of Awareness

Many have a belief that God is love, but if this is truly investigated it may be revealed that although God may need the story of love to exist, love doesn’t need the story of God to exist…

Awareness is of value because it helps you overcome your selfish nature. This is what I discovered was blocking the love of my heart from being the operating energy of my life. I don’t know how it was for anyone else, but this is what was revealed to me. Why it was this way I don’t really know, but I do know most of my life was selfishly lived trying to grasp pleasure at all cost to satisfy a self that didn’t exist in the way it was perceived. The only awareness there was in my life was how to get more things to provide pleasure so this misunderstood self could be satisfied. It wasn’t that the self didn’t exist, existence just wasn’t what I was conditioned to believe it was. It’s one of the reasons I don’t attach to beliefs today because I see them only as a story. Many have a belief that God is love, but if this is truly investigated it may be revealed that God needs the story of love to exist, but love doesn’t need the story of God to exist. Check it for yourself and see this truth.

Being aware of what’s actually happening now minimizes the stories that are needed to make life the way you think it should be. Awareness stops the story of the way you think something should be and allows the freedom of the way it is which becomes the view of the way it should be. After all wanting the present moment different than what it is is where all discontent arises from. When you’re simply aware of what arises as it arises there isn’t a need for a story and your selfish nature doesn’t come into play as the love of your heart naturally becomes the operating energy of your life…

It’s Your Life

It’s your life and as easy as it may be to follow someone else’s way, if they didn’t live the life that you’re leading their tools just may not be the tools for living the life you live…

There are many people that came before us who left pointers to follow a way that they used to bring peace into their life. Follow Jesus, Buddha or some others, but the thing to ask yourself is did they live the kind of life that you live and if not although their teachings may have value, unless they can be applied to the life you live, their significance may not apply. This isn’t to down play anyone’s path, but I’m a parent, a husband, I have a thirty year same job career. I own a home which requires constant maintenance amongst all the other responsibilities that come along with this kind of life. I don’t know of many that came before me that led this exact kind of life so although I studied many spiritual teachings (not followed) I’m carving my life with tools that apply to the way my life is, leaking roofs, car accidents, and all.

What happens when you blindly follow someone is you remain blind to the experiences in your own life which is what allows you to learn and grow. It’s very nice to say I’ll just let it go, but unless this is truly understood when the boiler stops working in the middle of the winter or the AC is blowing hot air when it’s 95 degrees outside, let’s see if who you are following went through that and how easy it is to let it go, especially when your family is involved. Like I said this isn’t to down play anyone’s path or not to utilize the tools that others left behind, but carve a way that’s practical to your life and since everyone’s life is different and a person can only share the tools as they apply to their life, stop following anyone and start using the tools that are practical and beneficial to you, simply because it’s your life…

Already Validated

We need nothing to be complete, but at times we look to others for our validation because it’s not understood that the only true validation needed comes from within ourselves…

Others should never be allowed to be the source of your validation because the driving force behind it may not be warranted. A few months ago I was approached by someone about my writings who said they have really evolved and was told I was doing a very good job and to keep it up. I proceeded to tell them I wasn’t really doing anything differently than I had done previously, but I thanked them and didn’t give it much thought. The funny thing is the base of my writings have always been the same.

The question is how mush should the assessment be listened to? Obviously my mind tells me to listen to it because it’s favorable, but I chose not to put my validation in what someone else says. Since nothing has changed in the way my writings are approached since day one, why should I allow someone else to affect me in any way. That’s really the point of this, until we truly love ourselves, we will always look to others for our validation. The mind wants to be told we are doing well, but it’s not really needed. It’s just that without the understanding that you are complete as you are and the worlds validation isn’t needed for this completeness, you will continue to look outside for a validation that can only occur from within because your validation is already in place…

Circular Energy

Aversion will never be driven out by aversion so if it’s not observed that aversion is in place, it will remain and the energy that you despise in another will be the same energy that’s controlling you…

Many things will cross your path throughout the day, some will be liked, some will not and others you couldn’t care less about. The key to the things that arise is being aware of them and observing which ones grab you, which ones are pushed away, and which ones naturally come and go without attaching to them because nothing sticks. These observations become more and more important as you become more aware of them. Things occur all the time, but they’re not noticed. Very few people are in touch with just observing them which allows the things that occur to be in control. Many things occur in life that aren’t particularly cared for, but all the energy that goes into not accepting them and trying to change them with non loving actions generates the same energy.

Unloving energy will never be changed with unloving energy, especially when the driving force behind it arises because you didn’t get your way. If this isn’t observed it keeps the unloving energy in place. Aversion will never be driven out by aversion, so if it’s not observed that aversion is in place it will remain and the very thing that you despise is the very thing that you become; this is the way it is when one is unconscious and allows things to affect you. There’s nothing wrong with being disappointed for a millisecond, but after that it becomes attachment and suffering begins. This suffering isn’t because things didn’t work out the way that is wanted, no the suffering arises because you have no clue the energy you despise in another is the same energy that’s controlling you…

Openness Possibilities

There are so many possibilities in life when there’s no past labels applied to what’s occurring in front of you. The Universe provides these possibilities when you’re in harmony with a life and not living in the past…

Openness is your greatest asset because without being open nothing arises or at least nothing that’s beneficial. Openness leads to possibilities never experienced before, but when the heart is closed and the mind is in control the doors to possibilities are also closed. Whatever arise in life can be seen as it is with an openness only if it’s not labeled. In this way life can be experienced anew as the Universe opens up more and more possibilities. Even if some past behavior arises, without the judgment of applying a label it allows the heart to remain open and the possibility to go beyond the past label to experience something new.

Newness doesn’t always have to be an aha moment, it can be a simple act of not judging what’s in front of you and just experiencing that and moving on. Once something is labeled, the heart closes and so do all the possibilities along with it. To experience all the possibilities that life offers is to not allow the past to be a part of what is being done right now. If it is, obviously it remains as something old not something new, but even though it may be from a past habitual mind pattern that’s in place, it’s only old because it’s labeled as such. Without applying a label, the heart remains open and the possibilities that are provided by the Universe are beyond anything a limited mind can conjure up…

Life Just Is

When the past is used to form an identification as you, it doesn’t allow getting in touch with what’s truly going on, therefore most of life is missed simply because life isn’t personal, it just is…

A person is always changing unless the past is being used to define who you are. This is done by holding onto past behaviors patterns and identifying them as you. This you had no control whatsoever in what was done in the past. This you just did what your developed Conditioned Mind told you. This you was influenced by other people’s conditioning (who unfortunately know not what they do). The more this you is identified with the past, the more control it will have in holding you in captivity to it. There isn’t one thought from the past that truly identifies you. When your named at birth, is that you? When school begins and certain traits are noticed that are just there, is that you? Is your athletic ability you? Your IQ, looks, talents, weight, personality, is that you? If you say yes, who is it that’s saying yes? How about when you get older, job, social status, significant other, pets, children, material worth, what you’re attracted to, what you attach to, and so on, are any of these things truly you? They can all be you if that’s what you’re attaching to and identifying with, but the real question is are any of them truly you?

When the false identity of you is revealed, you’re still the same person in the sense of what your experience has been, but there’s no clinging to it so the mental formation of you isn’t created. This is when true freedom is experienced because the concept of you isn’t blocking it. You creates your prison, but you doesn’t create freedom because a you based mind can’t fix itself. Beyond the concept of you in the space of stillness is an inner sanctuary that will only be seen when it’s realized life isn’t personal, it just is….