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Solutions of Love

The more you have to do to make your life complete the less free flowing your life will be, and this free flowing energy is contingent on having love as the base of your solutions…

There are choices that are constantly made which determine your life’s direction, and the key to those choices will be in how ingrained the self serving mind is at the base of your solutions. The more ingrained the base, whether of love or self serving, the more it determines the solutions used to cope with life. The more the solutions are of the self serving nature which is usually associated with seeking pleasure, the more you have to reach to feel a connection to life, but when it is learned to have solutions that are based in love, life becomes more free flowing, there is less reaching and more peace.

Even if your hearts desire is to save the world it can still be a self serving solution. This can be gauged by the ease in which life flows because there is never any tension in what is being done if it’s being done from a solution based in love. There is never a struggle when life is based in love. It doesn’t mean every solution works out as wanted, but the struggle isn’t there. When there is a true connection with life it’s generally free flowing because love is free flowing. If you are bound up by your solutions they’re more than likely solution based to self serve.

To overcome solutions based in a self serving mind the conditioning that makes this so must be recognized. Once recognized it will be overcome by allowing love to become the free flowing base of your life. Since love is never binding it will be the gauge to determine whether the solutions being used are of love or of a self serving variety. It will be the level of honesty with yourself whether you see your life as free flowing or not. Only you can change the direction of your solutions…

Picking a Side

When you stop picking sides the mind settles into a state of just being with what’s in front of you. After all no side is right or wrong so when none is picked all you are left with is peace…

When a person picks a side, it’s always done with the intention that it’s the right side. What happens next is anyone who isn’t on that side is automatically considered to be on the wrong side. What’s missed when a side is picked is the awareness that there really isn’t a true right or wrong side; there’s only a perception. Get this though, what side is picked is not really the issue, it’s the picking a side that’s the issue. This is because picking a side instantly causes separation, even when people pick the same side. Whether it’s a religion, a political party, for or against something, or just about anything, issues arise because when a side is picked attachments energy begins its control, and with attachment being the root of suffering, well let’s just say there you have it.

The Conditioned Mind has to pick a side, it’s the nature of the conditioning. It cares little what is picked just as long there’s a side picked. It needs to define itself by attaching to something so picking a side falls right in line with its nature. A quiet mind needs no such definition. Quietness isn’t picked, not picking a side simply results in the mind settling and thus quieting. An example would be driving a car and constantly switching (picking) lanes, if you stayed in one lane and simply drove, you would still get to where you were going, there would just be a lot less noise so more peace would naturally take the place of the noise. When you stop picking sides the mind settles into a state of just being with what’s in front of you. After all no side is right or wrong so when no side is picked all you are left with is peace…

No Love in Revenge

Even if you’re wronged and you’re justified in getting revenge, it will harm you more then it will the other person because it will keep you in the grip to an energy that doesn’t allow you to love…

What someone does is never personal even if it is something done to you, but what if what is done affects people you love, then what? Don’t you have the right for revenge? The problem with making it personal is even if you or someone you love is hurt it doesn’t take away the hurt; it doesn’t undo what is done. Revenge, as in an eye for an eye doesn’t really work because it keeps you locked in the same energy as what you are seeking revenge for. You may tell yourself it makes you feel better and you may even believe it does, and to the Conditioned Mind you will say justice is served, but it won’t change any of the facts of what happen. The mind always looks for some form of comfort and it uses revenge as one of these forms.

Things are said like people get what they give out in life and if they hurt others they should get what they deserve, but it doesn’t take away the pain of those who are hurt. That’s the irony of an eye for an eye, it doesn’t really make a person feel better. To me the reason why Jesus taught to turn the other cheek was not for the benefit of the person who is causing the harm, but for your own heart to remain in the presence of love. The mind wants an eye for an eye because it’s part of the conditioning, but for the heart to remain of love the other cheek has to be turned. Your “I” will tell you to attack back, seek revenge, but the heart knows if you want to remain at peace the other cheek will also have to be exposed. This is difficult as is most behavior based in love because of the conventional methods that are in place, but the alternative is to remain controlled by a mind anchored in greed, hate, and delusion. Its a decision that’ll decide your life’s direction and the level of peace you have. The more you try to get revenge whether it’s justified or not, the more you are dragged down into a place that makes love just about impossible to live from…

Completeness of the Heart

If our reliance is on our self we will be severely limited in our inner sense of completeness. Regardless of what’s accomplished the source of completeness is never from our self, it’s always of the heart…

To experience a sense of completeness one must understand what it means to be complete. This isn’t something that comes about by doing good deeds, by volunteering, or by being good. It’s not random acts of kindness that makes one complete, or donating old clothes, none of these things will bring the sought after completeness. These are very good attributes to cultivate and make a part of daily living, but they do not make you complete. It has been my experience that any sense of completeness has to come from within, and it has to be acknowledged through the heart. It’s only through the love of the Universe that completeness can be known regardless of what is being done to try to promote it.

This has been the shift in my journey, to notice how wrapped up I am in myself, but by noticing this I have also been shown the direction to freedom; the direction is to let go of the small me. If we rely on our own self serving limited mind we will faultier and not reach our true potential. We may accomplish great worldly success, but this will be our limit, and it’s a limit that has to cause suffering throughout our life because there’s only a self serving source of strength to draw on. When we rely on the heart for our source for strength, we not only align ourselves to reach our true potential we remove the limits we put on ourselves. We stop being controlled by our small self. This limit on the reliance of self is what causes our incompleteness. Our completeness is in our inner reliance on the heart’s unlimited source of strength, without it the burden to find completeness falls solely on you…

Freedom from Yourself

Your own energy determines how you will live. If that energy is constantly focused on yourself, you will be selfish. If you possess the whole world, but aren’t free from yourself, you’ll remain stuck in your self created prison…

Being free from the prison of self requires turning your energy away from self serving thoughts. When the mind gets stuck in these thoughts, for you to be free your mind needs to become unstuck. What makes it get stuck is your energy is mostly focused on satisfying yourself in some way. Focusing on the sensation of mind, body, and mental formations helps to alleviate the prison of self. This is a direct path to how one can become free from suffering. You can only be free when the focus is on what allows freedom, but it’s tricky because to master yourself takes constant vigilance. It will be your directed focus that determines the extent of your freedom and that will be the determining factor in how your life is lived.

Freedom from suffering is not pain free, it’s learning to be with the pain that arises. You cannot hide from what’s happening, you can only focus on something that anchors you in the Now. To no longer have your focus on satisfying yourself is where freedom is and how this is done is by simply not focusing on yourself and focusing on what will free you. The self is there and it has been given a name, it has so many other different labels attached to it, but it creates a prison because of the mere fact of the attachment to yourself. Freedom occurs when there’s an understanding of the lies, not in creating concepts or beliefs. Where your energy is focused determines how you live. If that energy is constantly focused on yourself, you will be selfish. If you possess the whole world, but aren’t free from yourself, you’ll remain stuck in a self created prison…

The Space of Isolation

When the mind settles the need to reach for something lessens, in the process the space of isolation disappears and it’s simply because an “I” story of separation isn’t being created…

The space of isolation seems to get wider as one ages, but it doesn’t really, what happens is there’s just less busyness so “I” takes more of a hold. The natural process of life seems to be to stay busy trying to figure things out, and regardless of what exactly the figuring out manifest as it certainly creates a lot of noise. There are periods in between the busyness where there’s some idle time as the space of isolation arise, but it doesn’t usually last very long because the busyness of trying to figure out life returns. This busyness last most of one’s life, but there does comes a time that the natural process of being busy lessens. At this stage many people experience an isolation that hasn’t been noticed before, it will either be addressed by looking inward or one will get busy again trying to figure out how to fill the space.

Eventually the busyness will end for whatever reason, but unfortunately for most people without the busyness the space of isolation rears its ugly head. Many elderly people struggle with this because there just isn’t a lot going on. Kids are grown, retirement, house paid off, more time behind you than what’s in front of you, and the list goes on; I was busy for many years. There were very brief periods of not needing to reach, but these periods were far and few in between. That is until eleven years ago when I hit an emotional bottom. I began sitting and simply looking inward which allowed me to see the busyness story of “I”. As I sat the mind settled and thus the “I” needing to reach for something lessened. In the process the space of isolation disappeared and it’s simply because an “I” story of separation wasn’t being created…

All Is Well

When a person awakens it doesn’t make them perfect, but what it does do is it gives them an awareness of being imperfect and when one is aware of that and accepts it, all is well…

The are many twist and turns in life. It’s not something that can be figured out. What a strange phenomenon it is, but I wouldn’t change anything about it, mostly because I can’t, but even with all the unconscious suffering that went on for years, all is well. The best thing about my life is all the love I’ve been exposed to. To me in the end it’s the only thing that really matters. At the age of twenty eight I stopped using alcohol and drugs as a coping mechanism, four years later I got married which was over twenty eight years ago. Although that in itself is amazing, at the age of thirty two my father saw a son who caused him years of angst finally stop being a burden to him and to my mom. My Mom died a year and a half ago, my dad died some months after my wedding; my parents seeing me begin to grow up is something I cherish to this day.

The part the gets me the most about being unconscious is the people it affects without any knowledge that it’s happening. From the friends I had growing up, my parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, strangers, and just about anyone else who I had contact with, being unconscious caused much harm. It’s why today my direction is to simply not hurt anyone. I still do because of the conditioning in place, however there is much more space between those unconscious actions than ever before. The unloving energy at the core of being unconscious has lessened immensely. This unloving energy is what makes a person unconscious, and just because you may want to be loving it doesn’t mean you will be, especially if the conditioning in place is unloving. An awakening doesn’t make you perfect. What does happen is it gives you an awareness of being imperfect and when you’re aware of that and accept it, all is well…