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Seduced by Desire

The most important thing to understand about being seduced by desire is the less you’re attached to “I” the less you’ll be seduced because without “I” there’s no one who needs…

Being seduced by desire is so enticing because it feels good; this is why the draw of desire is so powerful. There’s only issue with this because of the impermanent nature of desire. It simply will not last, it has no staying power so something else will be needed almost immediately following the satisfaction of each desire. Think about it, with all the desires that have been fulfilled throughout your life regardless of what it was, it does not bring the satisfaction now that it brought at that time, and most times even if the same exact desire is physically repeated, it’s usually not as satisfying as the first experience. I used so many things as I was seduced by desire, but the satisfaction of giving into the desire never lasted; the seduction of the next needed desire always arose. This went on all the time, satisfying one desire after another and never being fulfilled.

I’ve come to understand being seduced by desire as the main reason people start using substances and become addicted. If fulfilling desire wasn’t sought, nothing would be reached for so there would never be an addiction, but unfortunately being seduced by desire has its way with humanity. It’s deeply ingrained in the subconscious and has been in place since our existence began. I know being seduced by desire is what controlled me for forty nine years and it was in direct relation with “I”. Without “I” no one is there to be seduced. Even with this understanding being seduced by desire doesn’t just disappear, but it does lessen somewhat. To me the most important thing to understand about this is the less you’re attached to “I” the less you will be seduced and it’s because without “I” there’s no one who needs to satisfy the next desire…

Understanding Attachment

Nothing is attached to without a cause and if that cause isn’t understood you will unconsciously succumb to the attachments consequences as if you were a puppet on a string…

When some feeling or emotion arises something causes it. Learn to see the cause of the emotion arising and the feelings that go along with the cause. Whatever arises has a cause, the reason for that cause and the sensation of it needs to be understood if your aren’t to be blindly drawn in and controlled by it. Nothing is attached to without a cause and if that cause isn’t understood, you will unconsciously succumb to it as if you were a puppet. Why people don’t see how this attachment holds them in captivity is because many of the things that are being attached to are used to make your identity and also the attachment is done because your conditioning tells you it’s needed. When the cause of what’s attached to is understood or at least noticed, there arises an awareness of what you are thinking. When this occurs there’s the possibility it will fall away and in the process your attachment falls away.

As stated before, why it’s so difficult to see this is because what’s being attached to is thought to be bringing you pleasure of some kind, and it may be in some way, but it’s not true pleasure because no object has the capability of providing true pleasure; one is easily deluded by this. Regardless of what it is, if it’s causing you to think you need it to feel good (pleasure) the object becomes your prison. So if the cause of why attachment arises isn’t understood, you might as well remain limp because when your conditioning says it’s time to attach, you will have to obey as the conditioning telling you to do so is in control…

Inner Unrest

The inner unrest that keeps you from your peace has nothing to do with life, your unrest is a creation of your own mind and that’s what makes you believe you are not at peace…

There are practical ways to minimize the inner unrest that causes one to sabotage their own existence, but it has to be understood that the mind creating the unrest cannot be quieted by itself. You will have to find out why your own mind is telling you the unrest is needed to live life; a life that is controlled by the conditioning to create this unrest. Your own mind creates all the unrest you have by choosing to attach to thoughts that allow the unrest to arise, this unconscious conditioning is why one gets agitated. The Conditioned Mind develops this as you do things that are destructive to your own well being. Why this unrestful mind set is developed I’m not sure, but I do know it can be described only as insane because your own mind does this.

I now know it was my own mind that created my unrest and it arose from within myself. Because of the shift that occurred some years ago, there is now awareness that unrest doesn’t have to be created anymore. I sit for the sole purpose to develop the discipline that allows the mind to settle. If there isn’t discipline, the conditioning won’t be understood nor will why unrest arises so you will be led around by the unrest. Life does nothing to you, it’s your own mind that does it all. Why one lives in a unrestful place as opposed to a place of peace will never change until the conditioning that makes it so is changed. All I ever wanted was to be at peace, but I wasn’t aware it was my own mind that created the unrest that made me believe I wasn’t…

Changing Your View

The only way to change a conditioned view is to have something in place that will allow it to be changed. This is where quietness comes in because without it there won’t be awareness your view needs changing…

Watching television is not my favorite way to past time, but the other night I caught the last period of a hockey game. When the game was over I began looking for something else to watch. Twenty seconds on one channel, ten seconds on another, five on another, than another and another, you get the idea. It’s amazing how we stay fixated on something, in this case the TV, when it comes to the mind. We’re so reluctant to change our view even though we’re going round and round in circles. Actually what’s on the TV (the fixation) is mostly reruns, yet we’ll watch the same channel (thought) over an over. Even though there are many channels (thoughts) we get stuck on the TV and don’t know how to change this.

Think of something you get fixated on and see how hard it is to change your mind when you’re stuck in your view. Unless there’s total awareness of this, changing your view will be just about impossible. The only way to change the conditioned view is to have something in place that will allow it to be changed. This is where quietness comes in because without it there won’t be awareness the view needs changing. It may be a repeated thought disguised with many different labels, but it’s still an old thought. Watch the subtleness of this and in time you’ll see the mind for what it is and how it likes to default to a familiar view. The issue is you can get so comfortable with this that it’s not realized the view needs to be changed; for this realization to occur you have to have another view that’s seen as more beneficial than the one in place…

Stages of Attachment

Everything passes in life and that’s a fact, but attachments trait is to make everything permanent. Only when the mind is settled will one see attachment for what it is and only then will your attachments fall away…

Holding on to your view even in the face of evidence to the contrary is the most binding attachment of them all. Basically attachment occurs in stages, believing what is seen, the mental reactions to what is seen, and holding on to what is seen even though it’s proven not to be as it’s seen. The first two are the ones that occur the most. Most people learn from these to a large degree, but the last one is where attachments become deeply embedded in the subconscious. They grab hold of you and make you do all kinds of nonsense. There are many ways for attachment to manifest, just look at all the things that are reached for. Attachment is the thing that will bring satisfaction, but as soon as it’s held onto it’s gone so the next thing is needed. This is attachment at its most diabolical.

To me this is how attachmentu operates, you think someone is following you, that’s the beginning; it starts with a thought. Now the mind takes over and the mental reaction occurs or as I like to say “let the nonsense begins”. If the person thought to be following you passes you, the attachment will simply fall way, but if you’re in the grip of it, you will think the person passing you is just part of the plan; attachment will always have to run its course before subsiding. No matter what it is in life, it will pass away, that’s a fact, but attachments trait is to make everything permanent so it can remain in place. Only when the mind is at ease will attachment be seen for what it is and only then will your attachments fall away…

Spiritual Rubbish

Sit to develop discipline and watch your thoughts come and go, eventually there will be more and more space between them. It’s in this space that you will see all the spiritual rubbish holding you in bondage…

With the emergence of the internet there’s so much more information available on spirituality that it really needs to be investigated before you consider what to use to assist in your development. Here is the definition of Rubbish: Worthless material that is to be disposed of. To see if the information you‘re using to develop your direction is beneficial, there can’t be anything associated with it that forms attachment. Methods, programs, religion, God, guru’s, life coaches, teachers, or any other form of rubbish that’s used to keep you attached just keeps you entrapped to the very thing you are trying to break free of. Just as there’s a lot of “fake news” out there today, there’s also a lot of fake information on spirituality. Bondage is not something that’s truly understood by many people so most of the information out there keeps you in bondage in some way. Those telling you to buy their book, pay for retreats run by paid speakers, or follow a program (instant bondage) are clever to a fault, with the fault being you are kept in bondage by following them.

The only thing you need to do is look inward so one millisecond of space is created between your thoughts. Once this occurs and there’s awareness, more and more space will slowly expand; it takes nothing but awareness to create this space. The rubbish out there is that someone’s program, book, method or whatever will keep you in bondage to the very thing you’re trying to break free from. I know people defend their so called guru or people they follow adamantly, but it’s only because there’s no awareness of the bondage they’re in. Sit often and just watch your thoughts come and go, eventually there will be more and more space between them. It’s in this space that you will see all the so called spiritual rubbish holding you in bondage…

Energy of the Moment

Life is constant energy, it never stops. If the energy of the moment is noticed it will allow much more understanding of your life than if you’re blindly controlled by habitual energy patterns…

If the energy of the moment isn’t seen, that’s when the habitual conditioned mind patterns take over; it’s just the process in place. You can be in a state where you’re happy and out of nowhere arises something that triggers one of your habitual conditioned patterns. Depending on the base of what arises determines if you’re still happy after what arises is attached to. This is how it works, you’re pulled around by habitual mind patterns and the energy of the moment is unnoticed so it’s controlling energy attaches to what pattern is associated with the moment. This is where everything arises from, feelings, emotions, sensations, and whatnot, hence the puppet on a string syndrome takes hold if the energy of the moment isn’t noticed. Think about this, you can’t have any feeling or emotional swings without attachment to the energy of the moment. Most people don’t really have a clue of this do very few truly live life. I don’t say this in jest, I’m no different, although I do notice this energy a little more these days.

Here’s something to possibly assist in understanding the energy of the moment a little better. Make a commitment to sit for a certain time, say thirty seconds, keep it real. In those thirty second just watch what arises, watch the energy, a thought arising and just notice its energy. Just sitting, looking, acknowledging, noticing, letting it arise and pass; all of this is just the energy of each particular moment; this should assist in getting a better grasp on the moments energy. Increasing or decreasing the committed sitting time is up to the individual or don’t sit at all and remain a slave to the energy of the moment as it arises and habitually controls your life. It’s the energy of each moment that makes your life what it is and if this goes unnoticed so will most of your life…