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Conditioning in Place

Behavior is more conditioned than it is right or wrong. Because this isn’t understood, actions that aren’t based in love are justified and do seem wrong, but it’s only because of the conditioning in place that makes this so…

People, as am I, are conditioned to behave in the ways that they do. Our behavior is not something that just happens and depending on what the minds base is determines the behavior. If your conditioning isn’t to love how can your behavior be of love? Most people just think of themselves and form a belief system that’s used to suit their needs. They’re conditioned to make up a self serving world to justify self serving actions. When a person truly loves there isn’t any justification or judgment. People who judge do so strictly because there is lack in their life so love isn’t the energy of their actions. It’s written that Jesus said as he was dying on the cross “Forgive them they know not what they do” this is the ultimate example of how to love. If this example is followed the world would be much different, but unfortunately this is not the case. Jesus didn’t say forgive the wrong doers, he said forgive them they know not what they do.

Understand your own Conditioned Mind and you will understand the world. When this occurs judging ceases and things are allowed to be as they are. If this isn’t understood, self serving actions will be the uncontrolled norm because your conditioning will be your master. It’s only through ignorance that we’re conditioned, but through becoming more aware of this ignorance and being mindful of the conditioning, we can be set free, and what we are set free of is the conditioning that blocks our ability to love. When you love there’s a true understanding that if someone does something that isn’t loving it isn’t wrong, it’s just because so many truly know not what they do.

Looking Inward

Not looking at the way you live leaves it mostly up to chance that it’s being lived in the most beneficial of ways. Your mind can be your greatest asset, but it can also be the greatest block to truly living life to the fullest…

It’s a lot easier to go with the flow of what’s considered the normal way of thinking than to go against the grain because anyone who doesn’t agree with the norm is labeled as odd. I ask you this, how much of this normal way of thinking is actually yours? Before a person develops the coping mechanisms that are put in place, how much looking inward is truly put into seeing if these mechanisms are beneficial? Not many people invest money, get married, have children, by a house, take a job, or do anything before looking into if there are benefits, but how much do you look at your own behavior? This is what truly needs to be looked at if you ever want to understand yourself.

Life isn’t magical for anyone. Life is life pure and simple and it will not be lived to the fullest without doing the things that allow this. You can either cooperate with life and make it more beneficial or you can be controlled by a mind that doesn’t want you to look at why you do what you do. If you are content with being on an up and down emotional roller coaster so be it. I haven’t met one single person who at some point in their life hasn’t reached outside themselves for contentment. This contentment seeking is an agitation of the mind that few truly understand, not because they can’t, but because this agitation is not given the time needed to look at it and find real answers, not the make believe ones that you are probably living your life by right now…

A Firm Foundation

Standing your ground and having a firm foundation is essential in trying times as well as in good ones because the storms will come and they will blow you away without a firm foundation in place…

A storm will not destroy a structure that has a firm foundation to withstand its force. Standing your ground and and having a firm foundation is essential in trying times as well as in the seemingly good times because storms will come regardless. How firm your foundation is will determine how much damage will be inflicted on a structure. Standing at the base of a structure and looking up when it’s stormy seems as though the structure will buckle over as it sways back and forth to its breaking point, but with a firm foundation it will remain firm in its strong point. This occurs not because the structure is strong, but because the foundation is firmly rooted, this provides the support needed in the midst of a storm.

Many things will test your resolve in life, but understand it’s not life’s doing, it’s just the nature of how things are. The important thing is to have a foundation firm enough to bend but not break. Circumstances and other people’s belief will test you and without a firm foundation you will succumb to the pressure. It will be difficult to hold your ground and it may be as though you have broken, but a structure is only as firm and as resilient as its foundation. Make it as deep as possibly so when a test (storm) does come your way, you may sway, but you will have the support to remain firmly intact…

A Doing Agenda

When you have to be doing you’re distracted from your inner place of being (quietness) and if you’re not careful, even when you are idle you can be just as distracted from your inner place of being by needing to do…

It’s not like a quiet mind is something that just happens. At times it’s naturally more quiet than others, but quietness is not the default mind for most, at least it wasn’t for me. Sometimes if I can I have to stop doing and just sit, it’s almost like there’s a reset button for my mind. I can usually tell I need to sit when my view is to do. I’m not talking about when I have to do something like work, or I have an appointment, or certain things that need to be done, when this happens the mind is busy so the distractions don’t allow the mind to know it isn’t quiet. I’m talking about mostly when not much is happening and I’m afforded the flexibility to pretty much do as I want, that’s when the mind really wants to do because it doesn’t have a set agenda.

When there’s idle time without a set agenda it’s then that the mind creates the most chaos because it’s looking for structure, it’s looking to set an some kind of agenda. Your own mind will make you believe all kinds of nonsense and one of these is it needs structure. Quietness doesn’t need structure because it exist in the moment of what is so what’s occurring at this exact moment is all the structure the quiet mind needs. The doing mind needs structure so it has something to do. The quiet mind sustains a place of quietness simply because it doesn’t need to do anything to be quiet…

Thought Nonsense

Most thoughts become a self created prison because the thoughts are usually given so much unnecessary energy that they go beyond the point where they’re a benefit to you or anyone else…

It’s very important to grasp exactly what the process of a thought is and how it arises and is attached to by the Conditioned Mind. Here is a what occurs when a thought arises: let’s say it’s time to get in your car and go to work, you’ve given yourself plenty of time to get there and the weather is simple gorgeous, so now you begin the drive. As you’re driving you come to a train crossing, a very large train is in progress, it has to be at least one hundred and seventy five cars long; you are waiting patiently as you know you have plenty of time to get to your destination so the train finally passes and you go. Now though there’s traffic and it’s moving slowly (road work). As you’re stuck in this traffic the cushion you gave yourself to get to work has faded and now your Conditioned Mind begins its nonsense.

It all starts by the traffic being a trigger that activates the conditioning in the form of a thought, this creates a mind agitation telling you these delays are ridiculous. This is the first step in how a thought is given energy to grab hold. It has nothing to do with the traffic, but it has everything to do with the traffic, at least to the Conditioned Mind. Substitute the traffic with anything and see how what’s happening right now is wanted different and watch the nonsense begin. So now there’s traffic and you don’t want there to be any; that’s the arisen conditioning. Next in the thought process is the attachment to not wanting there to be traffic. The more attachment there is the more agitated the mind becomes and the more nonsense is created. Until you finally get to work, this energy will fester and you will keep telling yourself how you really hate traffic. The reality of all this is, although traffic is what grabbed you, it wouldn’t matter what it was. You really just wanted life to be the way that you wanted it and when it wasn’t, it opened the door for the conditioned nonsense to begin…

Attracting Energy

The energy of love has more of an impact than the energy of hate and although you may love, others around you may not, but their energy will at least be neutralized somewhat because that’s just how love rolls…

All energy attracts regardless of what the base of it is. You can’t have a melee with one person so if the energy of a given situation isn’t attached to, it will just dissipate and the melee will never occur. So it is also with love, when your energy comes from a place of love it also attracts, but it’s more powerful than the energy of hate and because of loves lasting effects, the results are much different. This is why it’s so important to be the instrument of love in a world where many are self serving instruments. Loving energy attracts naturally and if you aren’t making up stories it’s impossible to have one. When you’re with other people if you don’t have a story they won’t either and love will be the energy of that moment.

The energy of love is much more reaching than the energy of hate and although you may love, others around you may not; although their energy will at least be neutralized because that’s just how love rolls. You will change situations just by your energy being based in love, you don’t need to do anything. If someone gossips, don’t participate. When someone cuts you off on the road, just be with it and let it go. If a person tends to be angry, don’t feed their anger. By doing this it doesn’t mean others will change, but at least for the moment loves energy will be in control and the more this is done, the more attracting loves energy will become…

Lovingly Connected

There’s a oneness with life that comes from a deep place, it’s not something that any human activity can make happen, it’s the connection to love that comes from the heart of the Universe…

In my experience love cannot expand on its own, it needs others. Deepening a connection with others deepens the love in our heart, and this is what connects us. If this connection to each other were to happen, there would be no more greed, hate, or war because we will fall over each other in love; it’s in this love for each other that the true magnificence of life can be experienced. A majestic sunset, a cool ocean breeze, the magnificence of a star filled night, loving yourself and others, a connection to all humanity, these are experiences from the depths of love.

I don’t profess to know what love is, but I do understand how a connection to others deepens my love. When I experience this, it leaves me speechless and because of all of you, I have been speechless many times in the last eleven years. I’m using the word love to describe this, but to feel this connection words cannot truly explain it. To watch in awe as I’m speaking to someone and as I explain what I went through I see a sparkle of love in their eyes, to me this a true connection. This is a oneness with all of life that comes from such a deep place and it’s not something that any human activity can make happen…