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The Separation Story

Thinking there is separation from others isn’t true separation, it’s only a thought, so when the thought does arise if there isn’t attachment to it there’s a connection with all of life…

The way the Conditioned Mind separates someone who is from another part of the world and sees them as different is not true; the only separation from anything because of the story of separation. There is no true separation and when you can understand that the nature of all separation is only from the way you’re conditioned, it ceases to exist. At the core of this understanding is a oneness within and thus a oneness with everything. This includes insects, animals, fish, plants, and humans, in essence the entire Universe, but don’t miss interpret this, it’s not a concept or theory. It’s a fact and this can only be truly sensed when the mind is very still and only when the mind is absent of any thought of separation.

There has to be a oneness within yourself before there can be oneness with anyone else. If this doesn’t occur it’s because you’re consumed by the thought realm and the thought realm is controlled by the Conditioned Mind. Please don’t take this lightly, it’s the reason, greed, hate, and delusion are the default setting of so many minds. If there isn’t quietness, there’s noise and if there’s noise it’s derived from one’s conditioning. Sit with this and notice when separation arises and what’s at its core. Let it pass without labeling it, just watch and don’t attach to it. Remember the thought of separation isn’t true separation, it’s only a thought and when it arises as it will because of your conditioning, if the thought isn’t attached to it will be impossible to be separated from anything…

Reality of Now

If you truly want to see reality look no further than right now. Unless the mind settles and there’s awareness of this, reality will never be realized because you will be stuck in a place that’s not real…

I know many in society attach to following your own reality, but if this is looked at closely you just may see how this holds you in captivity to thinking that a made up reality is needed for happiness instead of what’s here now. When you’re following the urge of something made up, the reality of what’s happening right now just passes you by. This doesn’t mean you can’t have your reality and go after it, just realize a made up reality is nothing more than a fantasy. Even if you get exactly what you want and it becomes your reality, thinking this will make you happy is where the fantasy arises from. This falls in line with “when this happens I’ll be set”…

How many people pick their job, the house they live in, children, spouse, or whatever else you think is needed to make up happy, only to turn around and complain about it. Your choices are made because you think you want them as your reality and yet when they become a reality it’s not long before you realize they’re not as fulfilling as you thought they would be. Or you’re okay with certain aspects of this reality, but there’s just something else to complain about. If you truly want to live in the reality of what is, look down at your feet and realize good, bad, or indifferent this is your only reality. Unless the mind settles and you become aware of this, your life will never truly be lived because you will be caught up in the fantasy of needing to follow a made up reality…

Kidnapped By Your Own Mind

When there’s a need to reach for something to quiet a mind agitation, one is kidnapped by this thought. Until this is understood, you will remain captive to the thought that peace is in the next thing reached for…

You will never find the peace you’re seeking if you’re being held captive by the thought of finding peace. Peace is something that’s already within each one of us, but because of the way our minds are kidnapped, we get held captive by the thought it’s something to find. Unfortunately this kidnapping makes the very thing you are seeking (peace) elusive. This kidnapping is the reason there is constant reaching for something from the outside and until this is understood you will remain captive by the thought that peace is in the next thing reached for. Pandemics, drugs, alcohol, gambling, sex, success, programs, therapy, self help books and on and on, this reaching is proof that you’ve been kidnapped. I can’t stress this enough as this kidnapping by your thoughts has to be seen if you are to truly experience peace.

No one thinks their way to peace, what does have to happen if you are to ever experience peace is there has to be an understanding of why there isn’t peace. The proof that you‘re not at peace is in the need to find it. When the need to reach for something arises, the kidnapping is done; this is a vicious cycle that’s very difficult to break free from. Peace isn’t something that can be attained or achieved so in doing less peace arises. Too many people get lost (held captive) trying to find peace, but since it’s something that’s already within you, the kidnapped thoughts about finding it need to be discarded so you can see. This isn’t easy, but in understanding that you’ve been kidnapped and are being held captive by the thought of not being at peace; peace simply arises…

Constant Problem Solving Podcast

Here’s the most recent episode of my podcast: Constant Problem Solving https://anchor.fm/michael-cupo/episodes/Constant-Problem-Solving-eeec5q

Unconscious Labeling

Seeing the truth of what’s going on in life will take some space so a past label isn’t instantly applied when something arises. No label is needed for truth to be, matter of fact labels restrict you to a lie…

If there’s an unconscious label instantly applied when something arises in life, it comes from some past conditioning that has you locked in just waiting for the opportunity to apply the label. This goes for just about anything that arises. Whether it’s something you read, another person, food, music, or whatever, the unconscious label is already there just waiting to be applied. It’s not easy to see this truth, actually there are very few people that will ever see this truth and hence it’s why there’s so much separation in the world. No label is needed for truth to be, matter of fact labels restrict you to a lie.

When I began using social media to post my articles, I would engage in discussions with people who didn’t agree with what I wrote. It would usually turn into a social media argument (lol) with me trying to explain the writing, this was due to the label being applied by all engaged in the discussion. I’ve since learned (to a degree) not to apply a label when someone disagrees with what I write. A very important tool to use when this happens is to simple say “It doesn’t really matter” This truth doesn’t usually sit well with the other person labeling what was written and since I know I can’t change how another person sees things, I find coming from a place where no label is applied is so much more beneficial for me to remain in a place of peace. After all peace is all I ever wanted in my life, but because of always applying a label to everything that arose, peace always eluded me. Today just because I’m not agreed with, it doesn’t mean I have to apply a label to appease someone else’s labeling process; No label, know peace…know peace… know truth…

Truly Content

The contentment which most seek is mostly contingent on something from the outside, if this or that happens then I’ll be content, but true contentment comes from within and doesn’t need anything to be…

Thinking about being content isn’t the same as allowing contentment to arise just because that’s what’s there. This seems to be difficult to grasp and it’s because one can’t think their way to true contentment. Stories can be made up that makes it seem as though one is content, but it never last. The contentment most seek is contingent on something, if this or that happens then I’ll be content, but this is another lie of the Conditioned Mind, and there are many. All kinds of examples can be used, if I win the lottery,  job promotions, end of pandemic, holiday off from school or work, children getting A’s in school, new car, you can add your own contentment attachment to the list. The point is, this list is endless and whatever it is that is attained I guarantee you the contentment it brings for that moment will not last. I have been off from work for twenty one days, but tomorrow I go back. True contentment can only arise if life is seen as one continuous event and there isn’t a need to have it different; this is how fleeting contentment is and how contingent it is on something for it to be.

The contentment mentioned in the beginning of the article arises because it’s what’s there, it’s not contingent on anything, therefore it is true contentment; I would put it right along side the peace that passes all understanding. I experience both of these everyday for most of the day and it comes from within. I don’t make it happen, but I am aware of my thinking which is a direct hinderance to true contentment and this is because you can’t think your way to being content, you can only think your way to a surface contentment which is contingent on something from outside yourself; the key to true contentment is not needing right now different. I know this is difficult especially when things don’t go your way, but the alternative is to want things different and keep searching for a contentment that will probably remain elusive until the day life in this form ends…

Unuseful Tools

There’s a pull that occurs in most lives that keeps one from investigating the unuseful tools in place. The issue with this is these unuseful tools are passed onto others so it’s as though the blind lead the blind…

If there are unuseful actions and reactions in the daily decision making process without investigating them, there will be many decisions made without knowing if they’re beneficial. When unuseful tools are passed on to others it equates to the blind leading the blind; very few people truly understand the Conditioned Mind. Without the discipline that provides some stillness, life becomes an unquestioned pull to use unuseful tools. To the Conditioned Mind there’s no need for questions because it has all the answers. Saying “I’m not there yet” is just crazy and it’s an unuseful block that hampers the ability to truly live. If you’re not there yet, wherever there is, nothing you do will get you there. What’s amazing is how people settle for an unuseful place just because someone else says it works. Using the saying “I’m not there yet” is just a way the Conditioned Mind remains in control.

It’s mind boggling how the unuseful remains in place without taking into consideration there might be another way to see things, and what’s mind boggling about this is how unuseful tools are held onto and keeps one in a self created prison that causes suffering. Life doesn’t cause suffering, the Conditioned Mind does and unless one is willing to sit and allow the mind to settle, the pull of the conditioning will remain in place and one will continue to use unuseful tools that cause suffering. Here’s the real issue with this, these unuseful tools are passed onto others and it’s as though the blind lead the blind…