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What’s Valued

You can only give to others what you value, be it of selfishness or of love is what determines what this is. To have values that are based in love is to ensure an existence that’s beneficial to all beings…

When there is a clear view of what’s valued in your life, it’s at this point that you’ll see if what’s valued is truly beneficial to you. If your values are based strictly for self serving purposes, there’s the cause of all the so called issues that you have with life. What’s valued directs the course of your behavior and you’ll behave in ways that are aligned with what you value. If your values are self serving than being aligned with a self serving direction will be the way you behave. It has to be this way, but if love is what’s of value in your life than you’ll behave in ways that are aligned with love.

You can only be what you are, you cannot be anything else. You can never be what you aren’t, your values is what determines this. It’s so important to have a clear view of your values so you can see if they’re aligned with Universal Love because it will be than that we can maximize your existence to be a benefit to yourself and also the Universe. If this isn’t clearly seen this won’t be clearly known and we will behave in ways that aren’t clearly understood, so looking at what is valued is how a person will behave and to know that your values are based in love will ensure your existence is a benefit to all; it has to be this way…

Beneficial Actions

When you’re not distracted by “I” it provides a clear view of your actions and the associated mind state, with this clear view you become more aware if your actions are truly beneficial…

When there aren’t distractions of “I” you’re able to decipher the immediate affect of your actions and their associated mind states. Seeing clearly doesn’t mean greed, hate, and delusional won’t be one of the mind states that arise, but seeing the affects of them for what they are and the controlling characteristic of the associated mind state helps to alleviate their hold. If this isn’t clearly seen these characteristics will continue to control you as if you were a puppet on a string.

Some mind states to observe would be greed, hate and delusion and their polar opposites, generosity, love, and wisdom. These are the mind states most people fluctuate between, but when you see clearly on how your actions and the associated mind states are linked, what happens is first you can decipher what mind state is associated with your action and second you’ll see if the action is beneficial. It’s very easy to see anger and its association with the mind state of hate. It doesn’t take much intelligence to see how this action isn’t beneficial to anyone, but without awareness of this you’ll remain entrapped to the mind state of hate and hence the associated action; intelligence has no bearing on this whatsoever.

It works this way with the action of giving. Giving without expectations is an action associated with the mind state of generosity, you can definitely see how this action benefits everyone, to me this is what being awake is. You aren’t rendered white as snow because you’re awake, but by the mind settling you’ll see clearly and you’ll be aware of your actions and the associated mind state of that action; you will then see if your actions are truly a benefit not only to you, but to all beings…

Governed By Principles

Just as there are physical principles that govern the universe, there are spiritual principles that govern our lives. Adhering to these principles determines the way we live, but understand there are consequences for not adhering to them…

We are our own judge, we’re not condemned by others as much as we condemn ourselves. By not adhering to certain principles there is a price to pay and that price is in our harmony with life. When we aren’t doing things that cultivate love most likely we are cultivating selfishness; this is a consequence. Selfish is selfish as love is love, there is very little middle ground. This is why when a person is unconscious there is much discord and very little harmony because the nature of unconsciousness is selfishness.

When loving principles are adhered to, the flow of life happens without resistance. When the base of life is love life is free flowing; non restricted. Our relation to love is seen through our relationship with life manifesting as the base of our behavior. This is reflected in our relationships with others and the decisions we make. Our life is measured by the principles or lack of we follow and our behavior reflects this measurement. If the behavior is self seeking, there aren’t many universal or spiritual principles being followed. If the behavior is to love than we’re in harmony with life and with others. This is reflected in the light we give out in the daily choices we make because universal and spiritual principles are being followed. Do what you may in life, but do not blame anyone for what happens to you and what is happening in the world because it’s each individuals choice what principles are being adhered to…

Void Filling

Why people are searching, reaching, looking for the pot of gold at the end of a rainbow is because the proper filler isn’t being used; limited material fillers are being used to fill your void…

Here’s the truth of people who are on an awakened path. The view that is being used to fill the void is not based on an object out there somewhere, it’s an inner view that has no objects. What happens is this; what is being used to fill the void is Universal eternal, merciful, limitless love. Universal love is not something that anyone can possess, it can only possess you. It is everlasting because it is eternal. Nothing from the material world is eternal so nothing will ever fill the void for good. This is why people are always searching, reaching, looking for the pot of gold at the end of a rainbow because the proper filler isn’t being used; limited fillers are being used to fill the void.

If you can truly understand this you probably had a shift in being so the way you view life and the things you hold onto are from the eternal love of the Universe instead of one from the material view. This shift is what makes a persons sees things differently, nothing else. If your view doesn’t shift then your view will not change and you will keep using the material realm to fill your void. This in turn will not allow you to see that what you are using to fill your void isn’t working. If you do not see this you will remain on the path with the majority of the world and you will keep searching and reaching trying to fill the void with the things of the world that will never ever allow the void to be filled…

Love Filled Void

When there’s a void within it’s because of a deficiency of love. If you fill the void with things of the world it will never be filled, but if you fill it with love the void ceases to exist…

The difference in a person who seems to be on a path that is different than the majority of the world is there’s no void needed to be filled. I didn’t always know this, but it was revealed to me the void was the absence of love. This is a very simplistic, yet a profound explanation of the underlying nature of the void. Without love this void is the cause of every dysfunctional behavior in life. It makes you view life from the material realm and the void cannot be filled from this realm. It uses whatever it can to be filled, and until it is filled with love you will keep searching to fill it. This is why dysfunctional behavior manifest because when your view is from the material realm it’s self-serving and lacks love.

This viewed is developed because you think your answer to fill the void is in the form of some object. Nothing this void is filled with is lasting because whatever you use is limited. Think about this, any object that you use from the material world has a limit to it. Nothing of this world will last forever, except the eternal love so there’s no way the void can be filled with anything materiel. Any object used is limited so the amount of time the void is filled will be limited; it will never stay filled unless it is filled with love…

Total Trust

There’s a love of the heart that is only known when there’s total trust in the Universe, and although one may want things to be different there’s completeness in the way things are…

A true sense of completeness is the result of total trust that what is given in life is what the Universe wants one to have, but only when one is ready to receive it for the betterment of the Universe. This pertains strictly in matters of a heart of love, not one that is selfish although material possessions are also given. It isn’t in the things attained or that life is in the way that one wants it that provides the completeness, its the total trust that things are as the Universe wants them to be. This is the fulfillment the Universe provides as opposed to some human want or desire and it provides more fulfillment that anything that our human side ever will. This occurs when this is allowed to occur and even this is provided; it’s not something that a person can make occur.

There’s nothing wrong in the wanting itself, whether its to better your life, trying to assist others, or just having an ice cream sundae, but if there is attachment to the wanting, this is where problems arise because no longer is the Universe allowed to provide. It becomes “I” providing for itself and when “I” provides for itself it blocks the availability to the love of our heart , and it’s from the total trust of the Universe that one knows in the heart that nothing else is needed to be complete…

Reflecting Awareness

Reflecting and learning from life allows for one who was once lost to now be found and one who was blind to now see, but only because of having the awareness that allows this…

If there’s not some kind of way to be reflective, it will be difficult to proceed in a direction where there will be any expansion in your life. The first thing to reflect on is if you even have a practice in place that’s practical and beneficial. I don’t mean a practice belonging to certain groups, although there’s nothing wrong with that, but if it’s in place to just keep you busy, it’s not really a beneficial practice. Although it is a practice, reflecting on how it is working to quiet the mind or how it keeps the mind agitations in place is what one needs to be aware of to allow for the continuous expansion of life’s process. I’m sharing this because this is what has allowed the view I have today. There’s no magic to this, a beneficial practice has to be in place if one is to experience beneficial results, this is as simple as one plus one equals two.

Reflect on your behavior, reactions, attachments, annoyances, and whatnot and see what is the driving force behind them. This driving force is the block to expanding beyond the nonsense of the Conditioned Mind. Without a solid practice in place that allows this to be seen, you might as well not practice at all because it’s just a waste of time and energy. Either do it right (beneficial) or don’t do it at all. One can only be free by being free and only a practice that puts you in harmony with life allows harmony with life. For many years I did things that produced results that weren’t beneficial, but I’ve reflected and learned from this and because of this where I was once lost, I’m now found and where I was blind, I now see, but only because of having the awareness that allows this…

Surface Perspective

If you can develop some awareness of inner stillness, the surface perspective will have less control as your mind agitations subside and without these agitations you will never have a need to reach for anything…

If you’re always seeing life from the surface perspective of the objects the eyes see, those objects will be judged accordingly and what’s going on beneath the surface will not be noticed. Although with an object minded perspective life still goes on, but it’s very limited almost to the point of being delusional; I say this because it’s how I lived for forty nine years and it caused my life to be a constant struggle. The constant struggle was self created and controlled by the surface perspective, although this wasn’t understood at the time. An surface perspective life is one where there is constant reaching and the reaching is caused by the mind agitations which aren’t seen. This is why someone will reach for anything without giving it much thought regardless if it’s beneficial or not. In that moment the Conditioned Mind deems it beneficial, but this is a big fat lie.

The surface perspective will only be noticed when the Conditioned Mind stops its incessant busyness. One will have to be able to just be for the busyness to subside; you will not see the essence of the forest from the trees if the mind is to busy being focused on the trees. This surface perspective is strictly mind based, hence the reason it’s not conducive to one’s well being is it’s unstable, as there are so many things on the surface to see, one right after another. This is why the big fat lie is in the forefront of most lives and stillness takes a back seat. If you can develop some awareness of inner stillness, less and less the surface perspective will be in control because the mind agitations will subside. It will be at this point that the need to reach for something will be lessened as it’s probably the first time in your life that this has happened…

Backwards Thinking

Accepting everything as it is seems like a tall order, but the alternative is to not accept it and look at things from a backwards point of view (wanting things different) and in the process cause your own suffering…

Nothing stays the same so it’s not the changes that occur in life that throws one for a loop, it’s the backwards thinking that things will always be as they are, this is what makes changes much more difficult to deal with. If everything could be accepted as it is, one would never be thrown for a loop because the backwards thinking that tells you things should remain as they are wouldn’t occur. Accepting everything as it is seems like a very tall order, but the alternative is to not accept it and look at things from a backwards thinking point of view and in the process cause your own suffering.

For one to get beyond their backwards thinking, it has to be understood that it’s your own mind that’s causing it. Life is seen through the way it’s created and its created through how it’s viewed. Why a view is considered backwards is because of how rigid the mindset is when changes occur and they’re not accepted. This rigidness keeps the mind closed to the conditioning that sees things as backwards; if this conditioning isn’t changed nor will the backwards thinking change. It’s not that forward thinking needs to be implemented, all that’s needed is to be aware of the backwards thinking. Awareness is key in change because it allows for acceptance and when the world can be accepted as it is, good, bad, or indifferent, then just maybe one can think in a way that allows you to put your best thinking forward…

Mind Noise

A noisy mind won’t quiet on its own regardless of what your belief system is. Beliefs hinder the quieting because they’re just a response to mind noise that blocks your inner presence…

If your mind noise is in control and running your life, it doesn’t matter much what’s going on, it’s going to be difficult to be in a place of peace. It’s such a noisy world and what makes it so is most people are looking for an answer outward when the answer is within. What the noise actually is and how it’s created is by not being aware that you already have your answers. With a mind that’s conditioned to want answers you have to constantly look for them, hence the mind noise. This is how the noise of a Conditioned Mind is formed and how it blocks awareness to your inner presence. It’s noise created because if you knew you had your answers, the need to look for them would be non existent and so would the mind noise.

Everyone has the ability to consciously remove the mind, but it’s just not something that’s going to happen on its owns. Isn’t it beautiful that your peace is in your hands, that it’s totally up to each individual how much peace is brought into your life. A little practice equates to a little peace so it’s up to each individual to do what’s necessary to stop the mind noise. As you practice being in the moment the mind noise quiets and you’re left with an inner presence. If you are waiting for anything else, you will be waiting a very long time and it will probably not happen while you are alive in this form…

Instant Change

Life as it is right now can change in an instant. Although change is the nature of life, the problem lies in holding onto things as if they will remain the same forever…

Last night I had a sharp pain on the right side of my chest which lasted for about five seconds; it went away and never returned. In those five second many thoughts entered my mind. One was what if I’m having a heart attack and my life was to end right now; everything I think is so important would be gone. I reflected (rather quickly) on how it would all be gone in an instant and none of the nonsense that goes on between my ears really means anything. None of it. If life were to end right now for me what is it that I think is so important? My answer, nothing because there’s nothing that would be taken with me; it would all cease to exist.

All my writings, my daily post, what I think is of value, my social status, my family, all my possessions, everything, sixty two years of existence, poof just like that, gone and all without my permission. Death comes in an instant. This isn’t morbid to contemplate, it’s reality in its truest form. Death is inevitable, it’s just not known when. Many will die today who aren’t expecting it. It may be me, it may be you, so nothing should be held onto.

There’s freedom in knowing death doesn’t need permission to occur. Things don’t need to be in order, it all falls by the wayside regardless if it’s welcomed or not. Nothing is really that important, it my seem like it is to the Conditioned Mind, but upon further review it isn’t. This is because nothing is taken with you and the world created between your ears no longer exist. The thing about this is it all occurs without your permission so there’s no benefit holding onto anything because none of it can be taken with you…

Contribution to Humanity

All of life hinges on a single thought that makes life what it is. Learning to skillfully decipher which thoughts are truly beneficial determines your contribution to humanity…

What a person is up against in life and why change is so difficult is because a deeply rooted belief system that’s almost impossible to break free from is in place; this occurs even if truth is revealed. I say almost because even though this belief system is constantly reinforced and remains the default setting of one’s mind, if a person has a shift in their perspective, their created reality changes. Without some kind of shift the old way remains in place and this is why there are so many different beliefs in the world and why everyone thinks theirs is the right one; it’s so deeply ingrained it’s impossible to see beyond it until something removes the veil of ignorance.

The thoughts that you cling to that make up a belief system are done so because you think they’re beneficial, if not there wouldn’t be clinging; if these thoughts aren’t seen as erroneous they remain in place. The more one thinks their created belief system is the right one the harder it is to see beyond it. Seeing the world through thought is ignorant because everyone has different ones and that’s why everyone see things differently.

There’s only one truth and until this is seen ignorance remains. To get to the point where you’re not ignorant you have to go beyond the thoughts that hold your belief system (conditioning) in place. It all begins as one single thought and then a person’s conditioning determines what happens next. Clinging to it or not is the difference in how life is viewed and if there’s going to be unity or separation with others. The truth is there is iever separation, but it feels this way when there’s a thought that makes you think there is. Life hinges on a single thought that makes it what it is so skillfully choose which ones are truly beneficial to humanity…

Operating Energy

When you’re not being controlled by things from the outside, therein lies your freedom, but it isn’t freedom because life is how it is wanted, there’s freedom because you’re with life how it is…

The operating energy that controls your life makes your life what it is. It doesn’t make life what it is because life as it is never changes. It does however make YOUR life what it is and until your operating energy puts you in harmony with life, there won’t be any and hence your life will be the way that it is because it’s the way you are making it. It’s actually a beautiful thing when one becomes aware of this because it puts you at the controls; there’s nothing more that a person could want. When one isn’t being controlled by things from the outside, therein lies your freedom, but it isn’t freedom because life is the way that it’s wanted, there’s freedom because you’re with life as it is.

What happens with the mind that has operating energy not based in love is it gets hijacked by its own conditioning which holds you hostage to your own conditioning. I know this sounds crazy, but this is exactly what happens and it’s all because of the operating energy based to self serve. When the operating energy in place is controlled by a me, me, me mind, crazy is the norm or so it seems, but it’s only because of the operating energy; when the operating energy changes the craziness subsides. So when you sit and see what the base of your actions are, you just may be able to change them. It will take some time though because of the conditioning in place, but the alternative is to remain the way you are; being controlled by an operating energy that holds you hostage…

Heart Unity

There’s a unity that comes from a deep place, it’s not a place that’s associated with any human activity, it’s a place which simply unites us all to the love in our hearts…

In my experience the love of my heart cannot expand on its own, it needs others. Deepening a connection with others deepens the love of the heart which is what unites us. If unity to each other were to happen there would be no more greed, hate, or war because we would fall over each other in love; it’s in this love for each other that the magnificence of life is experienced. A majestic sunset, a cool summer breeze, the magnificence of the ocean, a starlit night, loving oneself and others is a unity to all humanity, these are experiences from a deep place within.

I don’t profess to know what life is about, but I do understand how a connection to others deepens our love. When this is experienced it leaves one speechless. For me because of all of you I have been speechless many times in the last thirteen years. I’m using the word love to describe this, but to feel this unity words cannot truly explain it. To watch in awe as I’m speaking to someone and as I explain what I went through, I see a sparkle of unity in their eyes, to me this is our hearts connecting. There’s unity that comes from such a deep place; it’s not something that any human activity can make happen. Only when there’s a deepening connection with others which allows for a deepening love of our own heart will there be unity; with ourselves and with all humanity…

Opinionated Prison

When there’s awareness that your opinions put you in a self created prison, freedom takes their place. This freedom is always there, but not experienced because opinions block it from being seen…

Without being in prison to your opinions everyone would view life through the eyes of freedom which by the way are the eyes of peace, but because of a opinionated prison this view isn’t seen. The prison of opinions are made up by the energy of unconsciousness, this makes everything that happens in life about your opinion, but it isn’t truly ever about what is seen, it‘s not about anything in particular except the prison your opinion puts you in.

Opinions are what makes the mind attach to thoughts and those attachments becomes the prison that cause the associated thoughts to control your life. What is really happening is this, life just happens it’s not personal, it’s not about anything you think it is. It’s not about right, wrong, love, hate, good or bad, it‘s mostly about learning to understand your minds true nature of quietness and not be imprisoned by your made up opinions. When there’s awareness of this you will truly be free; a freedom that has always been there in the space of quietness, but it was never experienced because your own mind form an opinion that imprisoned you…