Things happen in life that are sometimes downright nasty, but this doesn’t mean you have to allow them to control you to the point where your mind becomes agitated and you lose your anchor of peace.
When and if your mind settles, you will have more awareness of when it becomes agitated and you just may be able to do what’s necessary to transform that energy so the agitations quiet. This benefit is in the awareness of energy because it’s directly related to transforming the agitated energy to the energy of quietness. How the agitation is created is by attaching to “I” which gives it energy. There is no such thing as an agitated mind unless you feed it. If you want something and you don’t get it, but you feel you need it to be complete, in that moment you will create an agitation. The energy of wanting the moment different is what directs the agitated energy. Take the same situation and just accept that you didn’t get what you wanted and there isn’t any energy feeding an agitation; it’s totally up to you if the agitation exist or not.
Life is life. It will always be as it is. You never have to be agitated, but it will take practice not to be. Every now and again life will be just as you want it, but if that’s the only time you’re at peace, being at peace more often than not will be very difficult, and it’s because life will not remain the way that you want it for long. The most consistent part of life is its inconsistency; just like my golf game. So the key to not having a mind agitation is to accept what is and not to want it any different. Very difficult because there will be many things in life that aren’t pleasant and you will wish they were different. All the wishing in the world will not change what is so it’s just wasted energy creating an agitation. An agitated mind cannot arise when there’s acceptance of what is. Even if you’re not totally pleased with what is it can be accepted so the peace that passes all understanding can be the energy that’s guiding your life, but understand this will only occur when you accept what is as opposed to the way you wish it was.