There is never a lack that isn’t created so there is never a true need to rely on anything from the outside of oneself and until this is seen one’s bondage will remain intact.
Think of this, every time someone goes to a program designed for a specific issue because they believe they are this or that, or a person goes to see a therapist, or they reach for another self help book, or if any other type of outside help is sought, because of the applied label of having a certain problem, all one is doing is reinforcing the attachment to that label and hence they’re keeping themselves in bondage to a label that exist only because they themselves have applied it. Read this very carefully because why this label is being applied will be the difference in breaking free from your bondage or remaining entrapped to it. It’s not that some of the things mentioned don’t have value if needed at certain times in one’s life, but if they’re being held onto as an end to a means, they lose their value as the needing morphs into bondage.
Not many will see exactly what I’m talking about here, but I’m writing it because it’s what I experienced after many many years of trying to fix an internal lack which was self created, with things from the outside, and I have found the very things that I was using to fill this lack is what kept me in bondage; this was regardless of what was being used. Why I created this lack is what I needed to find out because it didn’t truly exist and since it didn’t truly exist, why was it there? To me if something from the outside is needed to live life, something isn’t right. If I can’t just be with myself without the reliance on something outside of me, I have to ask myself why this so. There is never a lack that isn’t created so there is never a true need to rely on anything from the outside of oneself and until this is seen one’s bondage will remain intact.