Emotions can’t rule you if a self isn’t created. This concept of self is the operating system behind our emotions, so when this self isn’t reacting to the outside circumstances of life, there is peace.
Emotions are something that most people don’t give much thought to, the experts with their degrees will say they’re needed and many go along with this without investigating if it’s true, but I say the hell with the experts and their degrees because if I followed the nonsense that is spewed from the arrogance of their degrees, I would be dead. The turning point in learning about emotion was seeing how although they may manifest in different ways, they all arise from the core of I. What was revealed to me is that there’s a created self that gets tied into our emotions in many ways. The concept of this sense of self is the operating system behind our emotions. These emotions are tied into how we see ourselves, for instance guilt arises when we do something we consider bad or wrong. Anger arises when this self is hurt in some way. Fear arises when our self is threatened. Sadness arises when there’s disappointment. All these emotions arise because of very different circumstances, this is as far as most people get when it comes to understanding emotions.
The way I investigated emotions is not in how they were different, but what they all had in common, this was where my focus centered. What this led me to see was there’s one common source of every emotion and that source is the created self. Emotions can’t rule you if a self isn’t created. Please investigate this for yourself if it’s true or not, don’t listen to anyone and their view, develop your own. I said earlier that my emotions would have killed me because I had a tendency when reacting to things emotionally, to use things that were self destructive. It’s not this way today because I’ve learned somewhat (nobody’s perfect) not to attach to a self that gives my emotions life and when there’s not this self reacting to the outside circumstances of life, there’s much more equanimity to remain at peace and not do something that’s self destructive.