If you don’t have the tools in place that allow you to truly let go, life will seem as though it’s personal and in the process you will remain attached to using the tools that cause you to suffer.
There are many ways to let go of something, here are three that I’ve found useful and although I is at the root of all attachment, we can use these three ways that may make letting go a little easier. Not labeling is one way to not attach and let go. The base of this way is understanding the impermanence of all things and how this applies regardless of what arises. Whatever arises won’t last including life itself, so when one sees this, it makes it easy to let go because there’s the understanding there’s nothing to truly hold onto.
Another way that one can practice letting go is by not wishing for things to be different, this is used to let go of control. This not wishing way can also be used to not attach to what arises and although the wording may be different, non attachment and letting go are essentially one in the same. If you don’t attach to something it never has you in its grip and if you let go of something it relinquishes its grip.
So now this leaves the third way and although it’s last it’s certainly not least. This one is the no self identity way which allows one to see the self that truly exists, not the one made up by the Conditioned Mind. To understand this one must see the emptiness in holding on their created identity. It’s not that the self doesn’t exist, it just doesn’t exist in the way that one’s conditioned to see it. This is the self that’s has existed throughout one’s life regardless of what happened.
Life doesn’t happen to you, it’s not personal it just happens, the false self is what makes it about you and until this seen, suffering will remain. You don’t have to use all three of these tools to let go, one will be enough, you don’t even have to use one if you choose not to, but understand if you don’t the tools in place that allow you to truly let go, you will make life personal and in the process you will keep using the tools that cause you to suffer.