The base of the thinking that one attaches to can be cultivated to be of love. There’s not much one can do about the first thought that pops in, but with practice discipline can be developed to watch one’s unguarded thinking.
There are as many different views of life as there are people in the world and no one view is entirely right or wrong. We each have a unique way of perceiving and interpreting life and the base of what is perceived and interpreted is where our differences come from. This is where we create our delusional separation from each other and this is when conflicts ensue, but the conflict isn’t truly with others it’s with our own thinking. If we all viewed life the same, from the base of love, it would be the base of our existence and there would never a conflict with anyone including ourselves. Our true essence is Universally based in love, but then comes each individual’s perception and interpretation, this is where the break down occurs because the mind isn’t taught the discipline to watch our unguarded thinking as we are growing up. Our thinking usually runs amok trying to satisfy pleasures and desires that are created by an undisciplined mind. Our unguarded thinking is the greatest block to loving ourselves and all beings.
Our unguarded thinking is why we become are our own worse enemy. If all we had was thinking based in love, conflicts with ourselves would be non existent and if we have no conflict with ourselves we wouldn’t have any conflict with others. No one can harm you as much as you can harm yourself, but when the mind settles and get quiets one becomes aware of this. Once a person becomes aware of their unguarded thinking, they stop being their own worse enemy. They can then begin to think of loving themselves the way the Universe intended, and in the process love all beings.