There are choices in every moment that occur in life and it solely puts your life in your hands. It has nothing to do with your circumstances, but if you don’t have awareness of this, you will continue to push life away as situations arise.
Being all inclusive to what occurs in your life (embracing the moment) is living life as it unfolds without excluding any part of it. It’s easy to push away what’s not wanted, but to include everything even though it may not be beneficial or wanted is truly living. If something wants to be excluded find out what it is and why it’s being pushed away. Obviously on the surface it would look as though it’s just not liked, but if it’s what’s occurring, what good is it doing in pushing it away and not liking it. This becomes a defense mechanism that keeps one from truly enjoying life. If one only enjoys life when things happening are liked, there will be much suffering because of the nature of the fluctuations of things. If you go on a vacation to a beach resort and it’s cloudy and rainy and you expected it to be sunny, therein lies your suffering; if it’s sunny everything is great. This is but one example, I’m sure you can find your own that fits your current life.
In the situation described, why it causes suffering is because what’s there is being pushed away, maybe not even consciously, but it’s not wanted so it causes a mind state of agitation. The thing about this is it’s totally out of your control, there’s nothing you can do to change this situation as it is, meaning you can’t change the weather. Well you could do a Sun Dance, but I doubt that will work, so you will either be with life as it is or you will continue to push it away by wanting it different. These are our choices in every moment that occurs in life and it solely puts your life in your hands. It has nothing to do with anyone else or your circumstances, but if you don’t have awareness of this you will continue to push life away as unwanted situations arise, until one day there will be nothing to push away because life in this form will be no more.