We’re all a product of our influences so who can truly state a belief, idea, concept, or view can truly be called their own? These are all derived from some outer influence so one mostly lives someone else’s life.
The view that one develops over the course of time makes life what it is, but this isn’t to say one’s view is right and another is wrong or that one is better than the other. I’m just stating a fact that we are mostly a product of our environment and what view we have in place is only there because of the influences in our life. Not one single moment that’s in the past can be changed so there’s no reason to ever give that view a second thought. Giving it a second thought is just a waste of our limited precious time, unfortunately that’s the view most people have. The past will always be the past and nothing will ever change it, but we don’t have to view life from there.
There comes a time in every life when you know the only place to find what you’ve been looking for is within yourself. When one awakens to this, what’s usually revealed is that what’s been sought has always been there. This is the inner view that needs to be cultivated if one is to ever be free of a view that was put in place by others. There are so many of these influences that mold and shape our entire existence and until one awakens to this fact, the view in place will be someone else’s. Truly look at this, mom, dad, brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles, teachers, friends, tv, radio, and so on, everyone of them had some influence on our current view, so which belief, idea, concept and view can you truly call your own? None, zero, zilch, unless it was developed in an isolated cave somewhere and even then some conditioning will creep in.
The only thing that makes me different than anyone else is I’m more aware of my conditioning then most. I’m not less conditioned, just more aware, but it’s in this awareness that I can see how the influences have controlled me. This is the importance of awareness, it allows one to break free of this conditioning. How one does this is by sitting and allowing a mind that’s settled to become one’s influence, this won’t happen overnight, but with perseverance, the influences in place will slowly lose the grip and the influences of the heart (love) will become the new conditioning. This just so happens to be who you truly are without the influences of anyone else, and this is the view where one can begin to truly live their own life.