Stability in the way one reacts to life occurs when life is based in love. This doesn’t mean life will always be as it’s wanted, but the more one loves, the less I there is to react in non loving ways.
It’s so easy to feel connected to life when things are going the way one thinks they should be, but how connected do you feel when things aren’t in that way? Our connection to life should never waver regardless of what’s occurring, but because of our Conditioned Mind most people have a tendency to think life is better when it’s going the way that it’s wanted. One’s connection to life shouldn’t be contingent on the circumstances because this will make one’s reactions very unstable. To be controlled by the circumstances of life is to be controlled by one’s conditioning, which makes one react as if they were a puppet on a string. This can only occur if we ourselves unconsciously allow it; no one would consciously allow this control. If one is conditioned differently the reactions to life circumstances would be different, not necessarily better, but definitely different.
One way to break the hold of being a puppet on a string is to become aware if the way one reacts to what occurs is beneficial or not. When there’s awareness of this, it’s one’s obligation to preserve it, so one can be beneficial to others, but if one’s reactions aren’t a benefit it’s up to the individual to change it. Reacting a certain way will not change just because one wants it to, many people have an inkling their reactions aren’t much of a benefit to anyone except themselves, yet they still react the same. Why do you think this is? It has to do with what’s at the core of our being, if love isn’t at the core, our reactions we will be hard pressed to be of love. When there’s awareness of this there’s a certain responsibility because it’s love that changes the world, with this awareness, there’s an obligation to cultivate love so it’s at the core of one’s reactions. When this is done one becomes the change this world so desperately needs because all one can do is love. It’s fairly simple, if love is in place, one’s reactions will be of love, if it isn’t, one’s reactions will be based to satisfy I and that benefits no one, not even I.