The thoughts that one thinks can be cultivated to be based in love, but it will take much practice to develop the discipline to observe one’s unguarded thoughts to see what they’re based in.
“Your worst enemy cannot harm you as much as your own unguarded thoughts.” ~ The Buddha
There are as many different views of life as there are people, not one is entirely right or wrong. We each have our unique way of perceiving and interpreting life, but that’s not where our differences manifest from, it’s the base of one’s perceived interpretations where our differences arise from. This creates separation from each other and that’s when inner and outer conflicts follow, but the true conflict is with ourself. No one makes a person feel or do anything, if we all viewed life from the base of love than love would be the base of existence, regardless of what goes on out there. Life is naturally based in love, but then comes each individual’s perception and interpretation, this is where one’s break down occurs because the mind isn’t taught to be disciplined as we are growing up, it runs wild trying to satisfy pleasures and desired that are created by an undisciplined mind. Our unguarded thoughts are our greatest misgiving, to ourselves and all beings. This is why one is their own worst enemy.
If all we had were thoughts of love, conflict within ourselves would never arise so it would be non existent and if we have no conflict with ourselves we wouldn’t have conflict with others. No one can do the harm to us that we do to ourselves, but when we get quiet and this becomes known, we can start becoming aware of our unguarded thoughts and stop being our own worse enemy. We can then start truly loving ourselves in the way the Universe intended, and in the process love all beings, but this will not occur by itself it will take discipline to allow for this to happen and it will only happen when one is able to observe their unguarded thoughts.