Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, but only with the intention that it would benefit them and not serve our own satisfactions.
It’s only possible to love unconditionally with a mind that’s trained for it. Without the proper training one will be controlled by their Conditioned Mind as if they were a puppet on a string.
This is probably the hardest step in terms of ego deflation. But if we want to continue awakening, we must continue purging ourselves of our blocks to love. We will need to make restitution to people, this can be done only when our intentions are to benefit them. If someone doesn’t wish to see us we can’t go to them to satisfy ourselves. We need to go into every situation with the energy of love.
The level of our conditioning and the lack of love we had growing up will be the determining factor in how much of our self-centeredness was and is the operating energy in our life. This will determine how many people have been affected by our self-centered behavior, and the severity of the harm done to them. It’s not that what we did was intentional, the nature of a self-centered Conditioned Mind is to get what it wants no matter whom or what gets in the way. At worse, self-centered conditioning can lead to criminal and brutal acts, but most do not and are less severe.
Although we are looking at what we have done, we have to realize that many people operate from their own self-centered Conditioned Mind Patterns. If we want freedom we will need to let go of any wrongs, imaginary or real, that were done to us. If we let the wrongs done to us fester we will start to create mental scenarios of how our encounters will play out. This is not allowing Universal Love to be our guide; this is our ego creating a way for us to show someone how we are right and they are wrong. To be guided by love has to always be our intention, always.
Why are we doing this? We are doing this so love becomes the default setting of our mind, automatically. We want to get to a place where we don’t have to think about how to act out of love, we want it to be who we are, even though it already is. This can be done if we are vigilant enough and we constantly practice quieting our mind so our intentions come from our heart more often than not.
The only problem that one will ever have with another person is always ego-based, and this regardless of how the other person behaves. So our intention is to go to those with whom we can make direct amends and be okay with those we can’t, for whatever reason. We aspire for their happiness and well-being, this will allow our heart to remain open and love to be the default setting of our intentions.