Made a list of all persons we had harmed due to our self-centered behavior and became willing to make amends to them all and be an example of Universal Love.
Love has no judgment, it isn’t conditional, it’s of the heart. Either you love all or you love none. If you pick and choose who you love, you just may not be picked to be loved back.
To continue on our journey we need to make a list and become willing to look at the relationships that have been affected by our self-centered behavior. We’ll need to draw upon every ounce of our willingness to be entirely ready as we did in Step Six. Essential to one’s peace of mind is a willingness to put to rest any animosity or hostility felt about anyone which was brought on by our self-centered conditioning. This list is to include everyone. AGAIN: This list is to include everyone. The mind will never become quiet enough and one will never be an example of Universal Love if there isn’t a complete willingness to set right all relationships, intimate and casual.
We must simply be willing to do what’s necessary to keep our heart open. When one understands what was done in the past was only done because of a state of unconsciousness, it’s at this point that others will be understood. Jesus said, “Forgive them for they know not what they do.” He didn’t say forgive the evil ones. When we understand we didn’t know what we were doing, we’ll understand neither do others understand their own unconsciousness.
This allows for the compassion to understand not only ourselves, but to understand others and to also not want to ever harm anyone by repeating our past selfish behaviors again. It will probably be repeated though, at least until our practice allows our heart to remain open, but the willingness to not want to repeat the behavior is what’s important. Slowly the mind patterns that controlled our self-centered reactions will dissipate with one’s willingness being the key.
We can’t afford to allow anything that has happened in our past or present relationships to control us if we’re to continue discovering the truth about ourselves. If Universal Love is to be the default setting of our mind all the time, we can’t have one ounce of hate or discord towards anyone or anything, regardless of what’s been done to us or what’s been done to those that are closest to us. It matters little who’s right or wrong, but what does matter is that we understand what it will take to keep our heart open so we can be an example of Universal Love and remain willing to keep our side of the street clean.