One can only see what’s going on in their life when there’s clarity of each moment. And clarity of each moment will only occur when a practice is developed that stops the mind from looking out there.
Make no mistake whatever you see you see and it can’t be any other way. Each moment of life is viewed as what’s going on out there or what’s going on inward. Although a person will fluctuate between the two, only one view is actually happening, it’s up to you to decide which one that is.
When there’s a clear view of what’s going on in one’s life, it will because looking out there for something has ceased. If not one’s view will remain based strictly for self serving purposes (an out there view) and issues will continue for all involved. How clear one sees directs the course of their behavior and one can only behave in ways that are aligned with what’s seen. If what’s seen is self serving than being aligned with a self serving direction will be the way one behaves; it has to be this way. But if love is what’s seen than one will behave in ways that are aligned with love; it has to be this way.
A person can only be what they are, one cannot be anything else. One can never be what they aren’t and it’s the clarity of one’s values that makes this so. It’s so important to have a clear view of our values so we can see if they’re aligned with Universal Love or not, because it will be than that one’s life will be a benefit to themselves, others, and the Universe. But if love isn’t clearly seen this won’t be clearly known and one will behave in ways that aren’t clearly understood. So what’s valued is how a person behaves and to have clarity that your values are based in love will ensure that everyone benefits as far one’s behavior is concerned.