If a person is to be an effective instrument in assisting others, their foundation has to be based in truth provided by love. One’s effectiveness is a direct result of love, not a doing of their own.
It’s impossible to be all things to all people, so to know your deepest inner urging allows for you to be your true self; who is drawn to you is from their own inner urging. To know yourself is to develop the ability to remain true to yourself and regardless of how one is perceived by others, it’s an inner truth that provides a solid foundation of love. The more truth is known about oneself the deeper and more solid the foundation.
We can learn from others, but not by trying to conform to the way they want us to be. We have to stick to truth, but only if it’s deeply known. The Conditioned Mind creates a world of surface lies and without going to a deeper level to really understand truth, the surface lies become one’s truth and the foundation for living. Which foundation do you think is going to better suit you to weather the storms of life? So watch what is held on to with a steadfast grip because if it’s a surface lie it doesn’t matter how much perseverance you have, it will not be a benefit to your life or the lives of others. Being steadfast and having perseverance are admirable traits, but only if they’re backed by truth, not one made up by you or anyone else’s, but the truth that’s found in the stillness of the present moment which allows for the entering of a deeper place that few go.
Don’t be so taken back by what others do or say, when the foundation of their life is that of the surface lies, the lies have to be the foundation of their life. Do you see any way around this? But understand they’re not at fault, they’ve been conditioned to be this way, as was I. But I have gone deeper to a level of stillness that allows for me to see the truth in stillness and have it as my foundation. The truth of all this is nothing happens that isn’t truth, but if the level of stillness isn’t instilled in your very being, it will not be seen and a story of truth will be made up. Truth will never be seen except in the present moment, and the simplicity of this is, the present moment is always within one’s grasp, but because of the way one is conditioned it’s not seen and it’s unfortunate because the surface lies are then the foundation that one lives their life by.