If one doesn’t take care of themselves first, it will be very difficult to take care of anyone else. Only when one’s own house is in order can order be brought to others.
When you board a plane, before it takes off there are certain instructions the flight attendants go over. One is if the oxygen masks deploy while in flight make sure you put it on yourself before you try and help someone else. You cannot be of assistance to anyone if you don’t do what’s necessary to take care of yourself. The same principle is to be used if one wants to be an instrument of goodness to our human family.
If you do not have a solid spiritual foundation, it will be difficult to do things that have value to anyone else. After all, being of value to others is the reason of existence. If it isn’t, what is? Hopefully you don’t think it’s to be of value to yourself lol. The main thing to understand is that one’s own house will need to be in order for order to be transmitted to others. So if you aren’t taking care of you, you will not be able to take care of anyone else.
The way I have come to understand this is by practicing the things needed to allow my life to be in a state of peacefulness as much as possible. This peacefulness is what’s of value to others as it’s what transmitted out. What one practices is what one values and what one values is what’s transmitted. Think of the plane, if you don’t put on the oxygen mask first and you become unconscious your value to others and the inability to help them is what’s transmitted by your unconsciousness.
Your state of being is the only thing you can transmit. You can only be who you are, you can’t be who you aren’t. When you truly learn to take care of yourself first, you will understand what the true value of existence is. When you live for the sole purpose of doing things that are a value to others, you won’t question what you need to do and why you need to put on the oxygen mask first, it will just be done because the value of doing it will be understood. You will just do what’s necessary to take care of yourself first and then proceed naturally in doing things that are a value to others.