Our human nature is instinctually from love and our human conditioning is not. One doesn’t become conditioned to love, one only becomes conditioned to block love.
In the last couple of days I’ve heard the term “that’s just human nature” numerous times. This is the dictionary definition: “Human nature refers to the distinguishing characteristics—including ways of thinking, feeling and acting—which humans tend to have naturally, independently of the influence of culture” It got me to contemplate on this and yesterday I was having a discussion with my sister on what exactly is the difference between human nature and our human conditioning. It was interesting and after going round and round we both came to the same conclusion; human nature is instinctually from love and our human conditioning is not.
I say human conditioning is not because love is natural. One doesn’t become conditioned to love, one only becomes conditioned to block love. AGAIN: One doesn’t become conditioned to love, one only becomes conditioned to block love. When growing up if one learns not to attach to human conditioning, the natural instinctual nature to love will be life’s default setting. This love is our human nature, but after hearing how this term was recently used, it doesn’t seem as though this is truly understood. Case in point, I was discussing at a recent book event of mine how it didn’t matter to me whether a hundred people showed up or no one showed up, immediately the person responded by saying “it’s human nature to want a hundred people to show up”
I’m not so sure about this because that would make life okay only if a hundred people showed up and not okay if only a few showed up, which is what happened. This would mean one’s conditioned nature is running the show because life has to be a certain way for it to be okay. It’s our conditioned nature that creates the need for life to be different than what it is, it’s our human nature that accepts things the way they are because instinctually one knows it’s the only way that it can be. And to be with what is as opposed to the way one is conditioned, is to live in the love of our human nature.