To be stuck in a rut doesn’t just occur, it takes time and repetitive mind patterns to create it. It goes deep in the subconscious and will take a mind that is very settled to get out of it.
For one not to get caught up in the daily routines of everyday living, each moment has to be seen as a new avenue to carry a message of love into it. We can’t undo a single act from the past, good, bad, or indifferent. Our mistakes if that’s how they’re viewed, are only the results of Conditioned Mind Patterns that have been put in place to cope with things as they occur. So if one isn’t conditioned to love than how can it be expected for reactions to be of love?
These conditioned reactions are only considered a mistake in the sense that they cause suffering because of the energy emitted isn’t from love. This emitted energy is the “stuck in a rut” energy of a so called routine life, but life is anything but routine. This “stuck in a rut” energy doesn’t allow for one to take advantage of opportunities to be the instrument of love. When this “stuck in a rut” energy is in control it will take a settled mind to get out of it.
Think about what a rut is and how it is formed; it takes time to create it and it takes time to get out of it and not constantly return to the repetitive behavior that creates it. The same thing has to be done over and over to create a rut. This is how engrained our conditioning is in our subconscious, it takes years to form and there’s much reinforcement that keeps it not only in place, but anchors it so it becomes more deeply engrained in our subconscious. That’s why it’s easier to discount something with less history because it’s not as deeply engrained as let’s say the way you view your parents.
With so much history it’s very difficult to view parents objectively. We view them with our created perception and we then attach an identity to them and we go through life making them who we think they are. But the thought of our parents is not who they are. It’s only our created perception of them. Our perceptions create our ruts which take away our objectivity in living life. Things really aren’t as we think. Our life may be lived by our thoughts, but this is the created delusion Buddha described. When we can stop the “stuck in a rut” mind of putting everything in our little perception box, we will begin to fill the ruts up with love and eventually they will not exist. And each and every moment of everyday will be a new beginning because there won’t be any created ruts to get stuck in.