It’s easy to speak of gratitude when things are going the expected way, but watch the nonsense take over when they don’t. Control your emotions or they will control you.
It’s raining outside, all of a sudden the roof starts leaking and water is dripping from the ceiling. Where does the mind go? You’re in a store and when you come out to the parking lot, there’s a small dent in the drivers doors. Where does the mind go? You have just parked your car from a tough day of work and your child calls and tells you their car is stuck in the mud somewhere and they’re at least two hours from home. Where does the mind go? I can go on and on with the scenarios, my point is there is always something that happens in life that is beyond our immediate control, and if we aren’t present and our mind is in a state of wandering, it will be very difficult not to be emotionally controlled by the situation. The more our emotions are attached to the situation, the less we will with deal with it from a mature balanced state.
It’s easy to be in harmony with life when things are going as they’re wanted, but that’s not a true measure of one’s state of being. It’s when something goes awry that either one’s true state will arise or one’s conditioned state will arise. Depending on how the mind is centered at the time the situation occurs, determines where the mind will go and whether one will be emotionally controlled by it. If not emotional tied to it, one’s response to the situation will be of equanimity, kindness, and love. This is the preferred state where common sense takes hold and the situation is handled from a place of observation. This allows for a non emotional response instead of an emotional one that is derived from being controlled by the situation.
This will take practice to get to this preferred state, but if you’re not practicing bringing in some form of quietness and discipline, don’t be surprised where the mind goes. Just be satisfied with your emotional responses and be content with wherever the mind goes because nothing is being done to allow equanimity, kindness, and love to be the constant state of being. Without quietness and discipline, the constant state of being will be one of emotional immaturity being in control. So practice, practice, practice, and this will allow the mind to settle so when life isn’t the way you think it should be, you will have the necessary resources in place so you’re not pulled around by your emotions as if you were a puppet on a string.