Existence is and then one day it isn’t. The more attached one is to it, the more one will be controlled by it’s circumstances. And although circumstances will always be, attachment doesn’t have to.
Today I attended a funeral for a friends father and although I know that death is a part of life, it’s difficult watching people suffer who you love. It’s difficult watching anyone suffer, but the more attachment one has with someone, the more suffering will be caused when something happens to the person. And even though we will all go when it’s our time, the ones who love us and are left behind will be the one’s who suffer. This is a Universal truth when it comes to attachment. The attachment, whether to a person, place, or thing, will cause suffering, not the person, place, or thing itself.
This attachment is so engrained in one’s sub conscious it’s nearly impossible to change it. I’m not even saying one should, all I’m saying is this attachment is what causes disagreement with oneself and thus causes one’s own suffering. Here’s an example, I’ll use what occurs with some of my writings. I write something that’s based in a truth that has been revealed to me. And let’s say its not what the reader agrees with and they are attached to another view, well a disagreement will ensue and so will suffering. So the more attached one is to their way, the more suffering there is when someone state something different. And even if the person’s right, there’s suffering because attachment blocks out an open mind which leads to an open heart. And with an open heart there’s no attachment and no block to love. This is subtle, but if there wasn’t attachment there would never be a disagreement or suffering. It’s really plain and simple. Attach and suffer or love and experience whatever arises, but only because it’s what happens.