Our clinging mind is only noticed when things aren’t the way we want. But even when our expectations are in our favor, it is still the Velcro Mind that’s in control.
Let go and be free or hold on and suffer, that is the dilemma. Expect things a certain way and when they aren’t in that way, the next step in the process is to react to the different results of what is expected. Peace or suffering, that is always one’s choice. If one clings to the results and they are different than expected, it will create suffering and one’s own mind is creating it. And it’s because we are the ones clinging to the expectation, even though the results are not what is wanted. Disappointment is only unpleasant because we make it so.
When we expect, we label and when we attach labels, we cling. Its like we developed a Velcro Mind. The more we label the more we expect, which is the Velcro, and the more we will cling. Even if the expectation works out the way we think they are suppose to be, we are still clinging, but we don’t notice it as a problem because it is the way we want it. So our Velcro Mind clings to everything that is labeled, and it labels everything, so we cling to everything, but we don’t notice it because we mostly only focus on the things that don’t go our way.
The only way to be free of the Velcro Mind is to not label things. The labeling process of our mind produces clinging, the letting go process through non-judgement produces freedom. It’s a choice that needs to be cultivated so there isn’t the moment to moment expectations that we put on things which cause suffering.
Life is one continuous expectation, but because it is only in the disappointing ones that we think our Velcro Mind clings, we are unaware of this moment by moment labeling process. When the mind quiets enough to understand this, the labeling process of everything as this or that will lessen, so will our expectations. And the results will be a mind that is free of clinging, thus minus the effects of the Velcro Mind. Without this Velcro effect, it is impossible to suffer. So although this is our dilemma, suffering doesn’t have to be an option.